Going on a first date...Do I tell about my weight loss??
jenirobinson
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I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
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I'd just concentrate on being who you are now and learning about your date. If it feels right to bring it up, it feels right. If not, don't. Just let the conversation flow naturally.0
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Not unless it comes up. It is something to be proud of though :-)0
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On the first date? no. Unless it comes up somehow.0
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Nope!! not on the first date. If something comes up about it, then yeah. but if you just blurt out what you've lost, it'll look like you're fishing for a compliment.0
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I agree with the others, it is a great accomplishment and congrats but unless it comes up, don't bring it up! If there's more dates it will eventually come up! Good luck and have fun!0
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Thanks for the advice, it really helps!!
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You already got all the advice you need... So I'll just say good luck! Hope it goes well.0
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You do eventually bring it up.... but not on the first date unless it comes up.0
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I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.0 -
My thoughts... If you are looking for someone to share this journey with you, or to not sabotage you, you might want to bring up how important a like minded person is to you.
No point in wasting time on a milk shake addict.0 -
Just have fun!!! That to me is a more serious subject and probably should not be a topic for first date. Fun fun fun.
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When I'm on a first date I do mention how I'm really into healthy eating and exercise. But I don't actually mention my weightloss.
Try to relax and have fun. Remember, he's trying to impress you too!0 -
Not unless it comes up. It is something to be proud of though :-)
I agree fully.0 -
I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
Noooooooo, a guy you have only just met will NOT be at all interested in your weight loss...0 -
I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.
wouldn't they already know?.....0 -
I am going on my first date since losing almost 70 pounds. Do I tell my date about my weightloss journey?
I am afraid if the conversation gets dull I might blurt out how much I weighed or stuff my face full of food out
of nervousness.
What would you do??
Unless you are going on a date with someone you met on MFP, I would not bring it up on the first date.
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Do what ever fells right for you. The "rules of dating" are hogwash. The only reason there are there is so that people have excuses to let them feel okay about what is happening.
Truth in dating is- if you like each other then you will call one another.
If the subject comes up cool then talk about it but if you feel it might be weird then avoid it.
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Weight is a technicality - it's not who you are!! Personally, I would focus more on activities you do throughout your journey rather than the numbers. It will tell him what you're interested in and you may have more in common than you know!
I think weight is off limits for a first date. Just like past relationship
Most importantly HAVE FUN! That's what dating's about!
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Not unless it directly comes up. I don't even like talking about how much weight I've lost unless someone asks directly. Usually I just say I decided to get healthy. People feel less obligated to be impressed and compliment you.0
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It's a first date. Absolutely not. If the whole "what do you like to do" conversation comes up....talk about what activities your interested in, talk about your healthy eating....if the conversation swings to being healthy, maybe then. But quite frankly, I wouldn't want to hear about someone's weight loss. If you can be casual about it...fine. But it doesn't need to be a big long discussion.0
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No, not recommended. Obviously you should be very proud of yourself and it is a journey but don't let it define you. Talk to him about the person that you are, things you enjoy, your passions, your career and goals. Besides, he's a guy... I'm sure he'd rather hear what your favorite color is. :devil: (no offence to the men out there!)0
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dont do like i did when i metioned a 60 pound weight loss i pulled my shirt up and sqeezed my belly then slaped it back and forth some chanting whos your daddy whos your daddy0
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@Yobhcir - lol too funny I hope that didn't really happen! 0
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I recently went on a semi-blind date (knew the guy in HS). I told him I had recently lost 80 lbs. His response...
"Yeah, I expected heavier!"0 -
First, congratulations on your great accomplishment!
Bring it up on your first date? Naah, just have a good time!0 -
Good luck!
On a first date I probably wouldn't, it's more to meet eachother and feel eachother out.
I also started dating thru this whole weight loss journey, with my boyfriend and I now being together 7 months, and I think it came up fairly early on but moreso becuase I looked alot different than my pics. I have lost 84 lbs (24 of which I have lost since being with him). He's seen a huge change.
I think it's something to be proud of, I think it's something they need to know becuase you are alot more 'disciplined' than some, but I think first date it would all depend on where your topics lead.
Have fun!0 -
I would not. Focus on who and where you are now. Enjoy yourself. Talk about things you are looking forward to, hobbies, work, listen and learn about new perspectives, soak up and truly enjoy the atmosphere. Talking about past weight loss might fall in line with talking unnecessarily about past relationships -- and it's a turnoff. It's just that, past. Focus on your future! Have fun.0
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Absolutely not, because a couple of the following things go through the guy's head... (I have lots of guy friends, I know)
"OMG so if she lost that much weight will she gain it all back" or
"Great, will she be scrutinizing everything I eat and do" or'
"Great, does that mean her life will revolve around dieting and working out and she will get her panties in a wad if she doesn't work out one day or if she eats cake"
Let it go until you know each other better.0 -
dont do like i did when i metioned a 60 pound weight loss i pulled my shirt up and sqeezed my belly then slaped it back and forth some chanting whos your daddy whos your daddy
NICE!!! I will keep that in mind....too funny :laugh:0 -
Thanks everyone!! I am just going to have a good time and see what happens next. I am who I am!!0
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