Sabotage?

pammer22

Has anyone struggled with this? I am getting started (again) and was thinking about all the reasons why I need to start again and one thing that stands out is that once I start to see some success, subconsciously I start to sabotage myself. Thoughts?

tigerlilly24

I do that too! For me at least I think I was making myself fail because it seems worse to succeed completely and then slip back into failure. I've lost 25 lbs on my own before MFP and people tell me I look good but my biggest fear is regaining that weight and having people go "oh she was losing weight and looking good but not anymore." That was what motivated me to join MFP was my putting 7 lbs back on and I can't even describe the overwhelming panic I felt at the thought of regaining all that weight and it seemed as if it would have almost been better to not have lost the weight in the first place. Wow all that was deep lol. Hope it gave you some insight and helps you to not "self-sabotage"

arewethereyet

Oh hell yeah! Every other time I started a diet I would say on Friday.........Ok I better go eat ______ and _______and________. So I would binge all weekend and guess what? Monday would come and I wouldnt start the diet.

The difference this time was I found MFP on a Thursday night....6 pm.......started right then. No excuses. Started logging my food.

I wrote all my food down for one week and logged it. When I saw what I had abused my body with, I cried. Like a baby.

I hope THIS is your time!!

:flowerforyou:

pammer22

Thanks for the feedback...I am tracking every morsel and trying to take it a day at a time. :laugh:

FireRox21

Speaking of sabotage, how does one deal with a fiance that LOVES to cook?? I just started with this site (on day 2) and have really commited to it. But, my fiance loves to cook and what he cooks is horrible for diets. Just this morning (on day 2) he made buscuits with country gravy with bacon in it and scrambled eggs!!! It totaled 95% of my daily allowance for calories!!! The toughest part is I can't say "no, I don't want any because I'm watching what I'm eating". He gets his feelings very hurt if I turn down food that he makes. He believes that he can eat whatever he wants and is happy with his weight. I, on the other hand, am not happy with my weight and am trying to do something about it.

I was a competitive swimmer in college (12 years ago) and have since gained 50lbs. I am training for the new US Masters swim season that starts in February and would like to lose at least 10lbs before the first meet. That is definitely a goal that I can achieve with the swim workouts I do, BUT how do I get him to understand I can't eat like I used to???

I love him very much and he is a GREAT cook, but even if I suggest healthier substitutes for certain dishes (like spinach filling instead of cheese) he gets offended. Help!!!!

BrendaLee

Change is hard...and scary. It's easier to not do this, so it makes sense that on many levels we'll sabotage ourselves, because really...who wants to count calories, deprive ourselves and exercise when we don't feel like it? We want things to be easy, and this journey is definitely not. You have to come to the realization that you need to do this for the good of your life and your health...then you'll come to realize that quitting isn't an option. When it's not an option anymore, it just isn't.

Don't make it an all or nothing thing. Practice being strong and not giving in to your cravings and other attempts at self-sabotage, and when you do give in, as we all do sometimes, put it behind you, and move on.