"You have lost SO much weight"....
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Mrs_Winfrey
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I am having a little trouble with this, and I need some support from you guys!
My MIL, whom I love DEARLY, came over on Sunday for a visit and kept going ON and ON about how I had lost SO much weight. Mind you, I appreciated the compliment, I am very hard on myself and it felt good for someone to finally notice. The problem is, I saw her a week ago, and she said nothing about my loss. And not only that, but I have only lost 6 (SIX) pounds!! I have a naturally athletic build, which I love, but I have never been more than maybe 10 pounds over what my doctor thinks is my ideal weight. I am just wondering how I can learn to accept this. I know she is complimenting me, but it hurt my feelings because it is not as though I was morbidly obese last week or in the weeks before....could my body have changed THAT much and I just can't tell yet?
My MIL, whom I love DEARLY, came over on Sunday for a visit and kept going ON and ON about how I had lost SO much weight. Mind you, I appreciated the compliment, I am very hard on myself and it felt good for someone to finally notice. The problem is, I saw her a week ago, and she said nothing about my loss. And not only that, but I have only lost 6 (SIX) pounds!! I have a naturally athletic build, which I love, but I have never been more than maybe 10 pounds over what my doctor thinks is my ideal weight. I am just wondering how I can learn to accept this. I know she is complimenting me, but it hurt my feelings because it is not as though I was morbidly obese last week or in the weeks before....could my body have changed THAT much and I just can't tell yet?
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its your MIL... she probably doesnt have anything else to talk about with you, and is trying to make a compliment.0
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Maybe the last time you saw her she really didn't notice b/c she had her on stuff going on or maybe what you had on my Mil has not said anything about my weight loss until I wore a shirt she had given me. Maybe last week she didn't know that you were trying to lose weight, you or you husband could have mentioned it so she felt more incline to say something. Don't let it hurt your feelings0
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I am trying not too, and you are right...the last time I saw her I had on a maxi dress and on Sunday I wore shorts (which were slightly too big since I have lost), so that very well could be it. Just wish she could have complimented, then moved on. Why go SO overboard with it......?0
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if it makes you feel better my weight loss gets over shadowed by my husbands and I get my feelings hurt over it all the time b/c i have worked a lot more at it than him0
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Have you been lifting weights, my friend and I went out to dinner the other day and she said the same thing to me saying that you could so see the difference in my body and face and I haven't lost any weight in the last 2 weeks and I saw her two weeks ago. So my body is changing even if the scale isn't.
Why get upset when someone is noticing changes in a positive manner.0 -
Yeah, gotta love people who announce you lost "a ton" to a room full of people!
Just ignore her and be happy!
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I am trying not too, and you are right...the last time I saw her I had on a maxi dress and on Sunday I wore shorts (which were slightly too big since I have lost), so that very well could be it. Just wish she could have complimented, then moved on. Why go SO overboard with it......?
Yea, that must totally suck to have someone compliment you on your progress many times over. Man, people are so rude.0 -
She sounds like a weirdo. Just like my MIL. Only mine will never say a thing about my weight loss. I'm down 35 lbs, and nothing yet. And I'm sure after I lose the last 30 she still won't comment. Whatever.0
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Maybe she wanted to get some ideas on getting a healthier lifestyle herself? My neighbour stopped me a few weeks ago and did a similar thing - but she was talking about it because her daughter is trying to find something that will help her to lost weight while she works shifts, and has found that things like Weight Watchers isn't working.
Take it as a compliment and move on :flowerforyou:0 -
Could it be the clothes you were wearing flattered your figure more the second time around?0
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I think it's difficult for many of us to take a compliment.
What she probably means is that the weight loss and your training efforts are noticeable. :drinker: Not that you were the size of a farmyard animal before.
If you have been wearing clothes that now look loose, it's noticeable. If you used to dress in loose-fitting attire and now you are wearing more fitted things, that makes your weight loss more noticeable too.
Anyone who has ever tried to lose weight knows it's difficult, and as all women have tried to lose weight at some point, she was proud of you.
I have trouble taking compliments too. :blushing: When my brother lost the first 25 pounds in his journey, he'd actually leave the room if you mentioned it, he was so embarrassed! It's a common problem.0 -
Her going on and on about it is probably just "her" way of appreciating/admiring you. I doubt she was insinuating that you were huge or unattractive before.
Everyone is different, my family's way of complimenting me was by saying I look sick. Go figure.0 -
Better than telling you that you're off to a good start.0
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Ive lost almost 40lbs and Im having a hard time when people comment. Especially if its in a group of people and it makes me the center of attention. Maybe your MIL was just trying to encourage you. Maybe she didnt notice last time. I know that I see it on the scale before I feel it on my body/clothes.0
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People suck
My mother introduces me to people "This is my daughter. A year ago, she weighed 300 pounds" - and not just people she knows, but even to people she's just met and will never see again0 -
Better than telling you that you're off to a good start.
Haha ouch!0 -
I agree with the others, perhaps she didn't notice last time because of what you were wearing, and once she saw the shorts, that maybe fit you a bit tight last time she saw you in them, she commented. But family members, particularly moms, tend to exaggerate. My mother always tells me I"M TOO SKINNY.. I'm 5'4...123lbs... hahahah
Dont let it get to you.... you have worked extremely hard to lose those 6lbs.0 -
Thanks guys, I guess I will just take it for what it is and not worry about it. I am in fact lifting weights, I am doing cardio and strength training simultaneously...so that could be it too. I guess I have never gotten compliments like that, nor have I really focused this hard on losing weight and toning my body. Thank you again yall....sorry if I seem shallow and/or naive. This is all just very new territory for me!0
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I am trying not too, and you are right...the last time I saw her I had on a maxi dress and on Sunday I wore shorts (which were slightly too big since I have lost), so that very well could be it. Just wish she could have complimented, then moved on. Why go SO overboard with it......?
Yea, that must totally suck to have someone compliment you on your progress many times over. Man, people are so rude.
It does suck and it always hurts my feelings.0 -
I am trying not too, and you are right...the last time I saw her I had on a maxi dress and on Sunday I wore shorts (which were slightly too big since I have lost), so that very well could be it. Just wish she could have complimented, then moved on. Why go SO overboard with it......?
Could be a combination of what you were wearing then....and she realized she didn't say anything and felt guilty. Don't dwell on it...it's over and done...just say thank you and give her a big hug.0
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