Confession: I had a total meltdown for dinner. :*(

Lot of anxiety today and had a total meltdown at dinner time. Wife and I just decided to order chinese and before that I pigged out on cookies. I don't feel too terrible about it but I wish I had just eaten the 6oz. of lean steak and vegetables I was planning on eating. Why couldn't I have just eaten the healthy stuff I was going to eat? I've been doing so good. I think maybe part of the problem is that yesterday I ate like 500 something calories because I passed out before I could eat dinner after chasing around three kids all day because my wife was taking care of the fourth. I think maybe the stress of having our newborn who is 5 weeks premature on top of all of the normal stresses we live under just made stuffing myself seem like the quick fix I needed. Tomorrow is the third workout of week four of c25k and I'll be hitting the road early. Well, this is my confession. Thank God for MFP; without this place I would probably let this incident be a breaking point and just throw all my progress away. That's how I know that MFP is going to work for me. It let's me regain control as quickly as I lost it.
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  • JRaeZins
    JRaeZins Posts: 171 Member
    Your last line is the truth of the matter: MFP helps you regain control. Good luck with all the things that you have going in your life and don't be too hard on yourself :)
  • DinoDecoy
    DinoDecoy Posts: 17 Member
    Sorry for all the stressful things! Although one bad day isn't going to ruin all your hard work. Yes, it's a little annoying and upsetting, but you've come this far! We all have bad days, but don't let it be a bad week, month, or etc. Don't beat yourself up too much. Keep your head up and know that there are people out there supporting you. Put all the energy into your workout tomorrow and get back on track, make sure not to over do it though. c:
  • smhammons
    smhammons Posts: 115 Member
    Awesome with an attitude like that you will hit your gaol. :smile:
  • katrinkap
    katrinkap Posts: 443 Member
    its totally fine. what you do, go to bed... sleep it off and get up tomorrow and have a great workout.. i have anxiety too and i'm having a health scare right now, but i'm trying my best to stay focused and working out and eating as clean as possible... plus i have a few awesome friends on here that i can say, are actually my closest friends. if you want to, add me. i'm always up for talking and cheering others on!!
  • emtjmac
    emtjmac Posts: 1,320 Member
    Thanks guys. <3
  • ohmariposa
    ohmariposa Posts: 372 Member
    Every day is a new day! Sorry there is so much stress going on in your life right now. Exercise really will help... Chin up , you can do this!
  • diva7531
    diva7531 Posts: 20 Member
    We all have those days. I had cake and pizza as it was my triplets first birthday. After they went to bedi did Zumba to make myself feel better. But haven't worked out in 4 days due to DH and all 4 kids being sick. Best thing to do is forgive yourself and start a good day tomorrow. Have a great day.
  • BonJody
    BonJody Posts: 25 Member
    Sorry, but I literally laughed out loud when I saw this topic. Not because I'm a jerk (or at least I think not). Rather, I just did the same exact thing! Hello, Mr. Misery. You have company.

    I had 800-plus calories during my dinner meltdown. Most of it was pretty healthy stuff, just too much of it. But I did have some Nutella after we made grilled Nutella sandwiches in the George Foreman for our kids. And I tried a banana ice cream recipe I saw on this site earlier today. Technically, I guess I had my dessert with dinner, but I didn't really stop eating so it all felt like one big meal.

    I've been eating six smaller meals a day since June, so I feel absolutely stuffed.

    I'll hit the treadmill for about an hour later today, including some interval walking/jogging/running (I follow Bill Phillips' Transformation program) for 25 minutes and then some brisk walking. That will burn off about 600 calories.

    But still. I need to make sure to not repeat this incident. Guess we can just learn from tonight and get back at it starting ... NOW!

    Good luck!
  • BonJody
    BonJody Posts: 25 Member
    P.S. Good luck with the newborn child! Our fourth is due in November. Three is already a handful, so it's going to get wild in our house, too.
  • Same thing happened to me today.:(


    I hardly ate anything yesterday because I was so tired and stressed out about my work load. Of course, today, I end up starving and I ate two large slices of pizza for lunch. Luckily, I whipped myself back into shape for dinner and did a hell lot of walking, but I still felt I failed myself after doing so well for so long.


    Happy to hear you are motivated to get back on track, though. That's the great thing about a community like this.:)
  • future_rockstar
    future_rockstar Posts: 711 Member
    I'm sorry to hear your life is so stressful just now, especially with your youngest one. I can understand the "bad decision" you made. However, tomorrow is a new day, you can get yourself back on track. You weren't planning to just sit around thinking about what you had to eat, but had the motivation to get up and hit the treadmill. You can do this...one day at a time :)
  • deadmittens
    deadmittens Posts: 536 Member
    It's okay to have those kinds of days. I have them all the time and I've still lost a lot of weight :D
  • EricC7788
    EricC7788 Posts: 102 Member
    Same here... this is happening all too frequently to me. I just cant get back on track! :grumble:
  • Pebble321
    Pebble321 Posts: 6,423 Member
    Well done for not letting one dinner break you!
    I've decided that the key to staying healthy is accepting that sometimes you'll make a bad choice, but that it's not worth losing sleep over, the only thing you can do is to keep on logging and make the next meal a better one.
  • emtjmac
    emtjmac Posts: 1,320 Member
    It's okay to have those kinds of days. I have them all the time and I've still lost a lot of weight :D

    It's good to hear that someone who has lost 100+ pounds had bad days along the way to. Makes me feel like I can do this. Thanks! :)
  • These days are bound to happen...you are making good progress so don't be hard on yourself. Just get back on it tomorrow. I am new to this but it seems like there is much support here. I am sure that I will have a down day or two (or three...) as I start this journey. Stay strong, friend! This can be done!:smile:
  • foleyshirley
    foleyshirley Posts: 1,043 Member
    That's why it is a lifestyle change, not a diet. Life is going to throw you curveballs :). It is constantly changing. Just keep doing the best you can do. Good luck!
  • mamaomefo
    mamaomefo Posts: 418 Member
    Bless you, MFP will help you win the battle! Congratulations on the newborn! Having a premie is very stressful. Both my children were premies, one five weeks early and one 3 months early! I know how you are feeling . This is one of the most stressful events you will experience. Just take things one day at a time. If you have a bad food day today, just regroup and start fresh tomorrow! Stay the course. Best wishes to you and your family!
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    Sorry for all the stressful things! Although one bad day isn't going to ruin all your hard work. Yes, it's a little annoying and upsetting, but you've come this far! We all have bad days, but don't let it be a bad week, month, or etc. Don't beat yourself up too much. Keep your head up and know that there are people out there supporting you. Put all the energy into your workout tomorrow and get back on track, make sure not to over do it though. c:

    ^^This! Take this as a learning experience! Life happen and we all fall off at some point. I used to be a stress eater but I have learned how to control it. It took time for that. One night isn't going to ruin everything. Think about all of the good things that are in your life! You have beautiful children and a baby that is home with you! Again, don't beat yourself up over it, it happens.
  • CampKelly
    CampKelly Posts: 172 Member
    Gosh wouldn't it be great if we could be perfect all the time :ohwell:
    But we can't ...that's called "life" ...so we move on, drink a lot of water and look forward to a better tomorrow!
  • Thanks for sharing I think thats your main "gain" from today.. anyone who struggles with weight or losing it knows that its the mind and the things in the dark that get us the most.
    You had the courage to acknowledge and share what you felt like was a failure and that is the most important.
    You are right that MFP is the key it keeps us "honest" and the light shining where we need it.
    Good luck take care of yourself.. positive energy to you and yours and for your tiny one..
    Thanks for sharing
    *hugs*
  • Spokez70
    Spokez70 Posts: 548 Member
    Tomorrow is a new day- enjoy the Chinese food and just move on. No reason to let it derail your efforts beyond a little bump in the road- everyone tries hard but still has bad eating days- lousy workouts- all of the above and then some.
  • It's okay. Tomorrow is a new day. You had a day, it's only one day. I have been there and I'm sure I will again. You just have to start tomorrow fresh. Your doing your best. Having several kids and a preemie is not easy. My daughter was born 8 weeks early, and it was extremely hard during that time. You will make it through, learn from today and move on. Keep your head up high, your still fighting this fight. Feel free to FR me if you would like, I would be more than happy to support you.
  • kw85296
    kw85296 Posts: 265 Member
    It's ok to have meltdown. Just try as best as possible to get a good night's sleep (with a newborn, I know that's hard). Tomorrow's another day--just keep tracking and it will all come together again.
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Lot of anxiety today and had a total meltdown at dinner time. Wife and I just decided to order chinese and before that I pigged out on cookies. I don't feel too terrible about it but I wish I had just eaten the 6oz. of lean steak and vegetables I was planning on eating. Why couldn't I have just eaten the healthy stuff I was going to eat? I've been doing so good. I think maybe part of the problem is that yesterday I ate like 500 something calories because I passed out before I could eat dinner after chasing around three kids all day because my wife was taking care of the fourth. I think maybe the stress of having our newborn who is 5 weeks premature on top of all of the normal stresses we live under just made stuffing myself seem like the quick fix I needed. Tomorrow is the third workout of week four of c25k and I'll be hitting the road early. Well, this is my confession. Thank God for MFP; without this place I would probably let this incident be a breaking point and just throw all my progress away. That's how I know that MFP is going to work for me. It let's me regain control as quickly as I lost it.
    Making a lifestyle change like this is a big deal, and you are doing a great job!
    I also have 5 children all within 10 years, so I understand what you are going through:smile:
    Don't be hard on yourself, you are doing everything right:
    You've stepped out to do it
    You're becoming aware of your patterns and habits and are changing them for the better
    You are using this great tool!

    So you know that if you eat a small amount on one day, you will likely be crazy hungry the next.
    It can be kinda like driving a car for the first time...overcorrecting this way...then that way...
    You will stabilize!

    Keep doing the best you can, making changes here and there as you can.
    Don't be hard on yourself if you can't do it all perfectly!

    See if you can keep simple staples around that satisfy and nourish you
    as well as a few treats that will keep you happy, but within limits.

    You will just keep improving!
  • mconway79
    mconway79 Posts: 49 Member
    Dont beat your self up. We all have those days. Tomorrow just get right back on track and keep your chin up. {HUGS}
  • ObtainingBalance
    ObtainingBalance Posts: 1,446 Member
    I've been there before. It's okay, one day isn't going to make you gain a ton. Don't even weigh in for another week... it will just be water retention.

    Yay! MFP helps.

    Sounds like a stressful time, make a list of ways that help you destress. Journaling, candles, bath, walking outside, listening to music, etc etc.

    Remember...lifestyle changes! <3
  • roohill
    roohill Posts: 87 Member
    Lot of anxiety today and had a total meltdown at dinner time. Wife and I just decided to order chinese and before that I pigged out on cookies. I don't feel too terrible about it but I wish I had just eaten the 6oz. of lean steak and vegetables I was planning on eating. Why couldn't I have just eaten the healthy stuff I was going to eat? I've been doing so good. I think maybe part of the problem is that yesterday I ate like 500 something calories because I passed out before I could eat dinner after chasing around three kids all day because my wife was taking care of the fourth. I think maybe the stress of having our newborn who is 5 weeks premature on top of all of the normal stresses we live under just made stuffing myself seem like the quick fix I needed. Tomorrow is the third workout of week four of c25k and I'll be hitting the road early. Well, this is my confession. Thank God for MFP; without this place I would probably let this incident be a breaking point and just throw all my progress away. That's how I know that MFP is going to work for me. It let's me regain control as quickly as I lost it.

    You sound very committed... I can even hear in your last couple lines that just writing it all and confessing here was already helping get you back on track before you even hit enter. .. and who knows, tomorrow could be your best day yet. :)
  • EnchantedEvening
    EnchantedEvening Posts: 671 Member
    I'm tired just *thinking* about all those kids. How is your newborn doing?

    Since you had a 500-calorie day, I really, honestly wouldn't worry about it. Things happen. Sometimes we need cookies and Chinese food. Crazy, exhausting nights like that are the reason take-out was invented. :)
  • Mybta3
    Mybta3 Posts: 3 Member
    YOU CAN DO IT, EVERY MINUTE IS A NEW MINUTE!! GO FOR IT DONT STOP YOU ARE WORTH IT.:happy: