inventive discipline

justjenn1977

I need some advice... and this is a rather large group of people that I can get pretty much anonymous advice from... I am at a loss... and figured if I had some new ideas it might be helpful... so I am sorry that this isn't fitness related...

back story... my 13 year old daughter has a problem with lying... normally it is your garden variety stuff... like this kid picked on me or my dad calls me every week or I really did wash the dishes and clean the kitchen... stuff that you catch her in and it isn't really a big deal...

recently she told a lie that has some very big ramifications (her brothers girlfriend was made to broke up with him... he is now VERY depressed and angry his reputation is ruined... people all over town are talking about it... it has the potential of becoming a cps issue) she lied because he hurt her feelings and she wanted to get him in trouble... [I am not going to say WHAT she said... because that isn't the point]

I need to discipline her... I don't know how to discipline her... I have tried everything from washing her mouth out... to grounding her... for a while we put vinegar in her mouth... to taking away her electronics... to spanking...

I am looking for a LEGAL way to discipline her... (a friend suggested making her stand on a street corner with a sandwhich board that says I lied) I need something that is NOT publicly humiliating... something that isn't spanking (I can't spank without it becoming an anger issue)... something that I can do over and over to discipline her when she lies... I need to break her of this habit...


so... does anyone have any inventive disciplines for lying???

UncleMac

This is the chit-chat, fun & games area so it doesn't matter if this isn't fitness related.

Both of my kids are now adults and both are doing well so perhaps I'm qualified to offer some advice.

Most kids lie. Some do it often. Other do it rarely. Kids lie for a variety of reasons and, as odd as it might sound, based on what you've described as examples of punishments, I suspect your discipline is having exactly the opposite effect to what you intend. Rather than looking for more ways to humiliate or degrade your daughter, perhaps you should investigate family counseling. The counselor can help you and your daughter to learn how to communicate more effectively so she doesn't need to resort to lies. Yes, I did this with my daughter. My son? He didn't lie often and never anything hurtful.

In the meantime, here's some light reading for you! Good luck!!

http://life.familyeducation.com/parenting/lying/45311.html

avir8

It sounds like the issue is something beyond lying, instead of looking for punishments why not take her to a therapist to discuss why she is acting out. She is old enough to know the seriousness of her lies and the consequences, so it's not like she needs more negativity in her life. I suggest talking to her about what is really behind her behavior