So I'm curious

nomorewishing
nomorewishing Posts: 250 Member
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Am I the only girl that gets a bit offended when people talk about how there are guys out there that like fat girls? I'm not talking about the guys that just prefer bigger women, I'm talking about the ones that *only* like you because you're big. The handful of guys that have liked me eventually told me that the reason they liked me was because I was a "big girl". Try as I might, I just can't get why people seem to think that I should see that as a compliment. :indifferent:

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  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Because big girls need love too?
  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    That would piss me off. How rude.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    It's a fetish... a quite disturbing one in my personal opinion... but a fetish nonetheless... and yes, they do exist... From what I understand, they get off on enabling a woman to be morbidly obese.

    It must be true.. I saw it on TLC.
  • SVCat
    SVCat Posts: 1,483 Member
    So you're complaining because they like you? It's semantics. You like someone because you like them...because there is physical attraction amongst other things. It's all about perspective.

    They are idiots for telling you in a blunt way, if they had any sort of brain activity, they would disguise it by simply telling you that they are insanely attracted by your curves...and leave it at that.
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    It wouldn't offend me. We all have certain things we are attracted to, whether it be muscles, or baldness, etc.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    It's a fetish... a quite disturbing one in my personal opinion... but a fetish nonetheless... and yes, they do exist... From what I understand, they get off on enabling a woman to be morbidly obese.

    It must be true.. I saw it on TLC.

    I saw it too. The men are called Feeders. And the bigger and more immobile and dependent the woman becomes, the more turned on he is. It's quite interesting.
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    I don't really see how it's different from men who only like a particular hair color, or eye color, or height, or fixate on one body part.
  • _skittybang
    _skittybang Posts: 970 Member
    You just respond with ...

    "No kidding! I have a thing for tiny penises!"
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    It's a fetish... a quite disturbing one in my personal opinion... but a fetish nonetheless... and yes, they do exist... From what I understand, they get off on enabling a woman to be morbidly obese.

    It must be true.. I saw it on TLC.

    I saw it too. The men are called Feeders. And the bigger and more immobile and dependent the woman becomes, the more turned on he is. It's quite interesting.

    Yeah that's it... Though thinking about it, I don't know if that's what the OP was talking about... But it certianly isn't my cup of tea...
  • spikefoot
    spikefoot Posts: 419
    I personally only like girls I am not attracted too...
  • DietCuki
    DietCuki Posts: 44 Member
    Not offended, it's a personal option. Like someone on here said, the same as a person who likes someone with a certain hair or eye color.

    My fiancee does not like skinny women, he's always been with thicker girls and from what I know I'm the "biggest" one. He's not obsessed with it like as a fetish but just likes it.
  • MandyMarie01
    MandyMarie01 Posts: 448 Member
    i understand that. it's not the greatest. :( Sorry it's happened to you.
  • xLexa
    xLexa Posts: 482 Member
    I don't care, so long as they leave me alone :P
  • sexikc
    sexikc Posts: 153 Member
    No I dont get offended becasue they like fat girls per se, but when they tell me I dont need to lose weight for their own personal reasons...when I am not trying yo lose weight for them in particular in the first place. That I do not like. If a guy only likes me cuz I am fat then that would be strange...my personality is just too remarkable for someone to only like me because I am fat LOL. But if that is the only reason a guy is interested in me I am sure I would find out very quickly and just cut ties with him. A guy can like fat women all he wants he can compliment me and I will say thank you...but if he wants me to stay this way...dueces becasue I am done being fat!
  • PantalaNagaPampa
    PantalaNagaPampa Posts: 1,031 Member
    You just respond with ...

    "No kidding! I have a thing for tiny penises!"
    That is why my wife dated me... :blushing:
  • audreanna76
    audreanna76 Posts: 82
    You just respond with ...

    "No kidding! I have a thing for tiny penises!"
    That is why my wife dated me... :blushing:

    LMAO!!!!
  • mt130022
    mt130022 Posts: 48 Member
    They are idiots for telling you in a blunt way, if they had any sort of brain activity, they would disguise it by simply telling you that they are insanely attracted by your curves...and leave it at that.

    Yes, this is MUCH better. :flowerforyou:
  • _Ivian
    _Ivian Posts: 198
    Chubby chasers :heart:
  • Ruthe8
    Ruthe8 Posts: 423 Member
    You're offended that guys have that preference, you're offended by people talking about it, or you're offended by someone saying "don't worry there are guys who like fat girls"?
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    It's a fetish... a quite disturbing one in my personal opinion... but a fetish nonetheless... and yes, they do exist... From what I understand, they get off on enabling a woman to be morbidly obese.

    It must be true.. I saw it on TLC.

    I saw it too. The men are called Feeders. And the bigger and more immobile and dependent the woman becomes, the more turned on he is. It's quite interesting.

    that's horrifying...
  • meghanp92
    meghanp92 Posts: 43
    I get what you are saying though, and the point that most of the other commenters seem to be missing. You want a guy to like you for you, not JUST because you are big. I want a guy who likes me regardless of my weight for the person I am, not someone who has some preference towards big women and only likes me for that reason.
  • NikkiSixGuns
    NikkiSixGuns Posts: 630 Member
    I don't really see how it's different from men who only like a particular hair color, or eye color, or height, or fixate on one body part.

    Agreed. Can't say I would be offended. It seems like you're taking it as a put-down because it's a quality you don't appreciate. Just like if a guy said he was attracted to you because you are short, and you think short is a bad thing... You probably wouldn't appreciate that comment either.

    Are these guys saying that's the ONLY reason they're attracted to you, or that's what INITIALLY attracted them to you?
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    I get what you are saying though, and the point that most of the other commenters seem to be missing. You want a guy to like you for you, not JUST because you are big. I want a guy who likes me regardless of my weight for the person I am, not someone who has some preference towards big women and only likes me for that reason.

    ^ agree 100%
  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    I don't really see how it's different from men who only like a particular hair color, or eye color, or height, or fixate on one body part.

    Agreed. Can't say I would be offended. It seems like you're taking it as a put-down because it's a quality you don't appreciate. Just like if a guy said he was attracted to you because you are short, and you think short is a bad thing... You probably wouldn't appreciate that comment either.

    Are these guys saying that's the ONLY reason they're attracted to you, or that's what INITIALLY attracted them to you?

    This.
  • LizHowerton
    LizHowerton Posts: 329 Member
    On the other hand...I think being attracted to the person you are in relationship is important. And men in general are very visual.

    So if their cup of tea is heavy women go for it...

    The feeders just sounds like enablers for drug addicts etc...dysfunctional.

    But saying hey I like guys with green eyes....or they like girls with curly hair...or whatever..big boobs, long legs, very athletic, very slender.......its just what a person is attracted to...and going to climb in bed with...there is nothing wrong with liking what you see

    Its not a put down...and it's not the ONLY reason why one person dates, falls in love, etc etc with another.

    Just one component. The first one you see.

    .
  • nomorewishing
    nomorewishing Posts: 250 Member
    Well, lets put it this way. The second they found out I was trying to lose weight, they were gone, never to be seen again. No big loss or anything, just a bit annoying. I guess what irritates me the most is that I know people that have the attitude that I should just be thankful that I got attention from someone at all. I don't know, I guess I just get offended too easily.
  • k8blujay2
    k8blujay2 Posts: 4,941 Member
    I get what you are saying though, and the point that most of the other commenters seem to be missing. You want a guy to like you for you, not JUST because you are big. I want a guy who likes me regardless of my weight for the person I am, not someone who has some preference towards big women and only likes me for that reason.

    Yeah... and that. Seriously though, it's better they run away now before you are invested in your future together.
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    Well, lets put it this way. The second they found out I was trying to lose weight, they were gone, never to be seen again. No big loss or anything, just a bit annoying. I guess what irritates me the most is that I know people that have the attitude that I should just be thankful that I got attention from someone at all. I don't know, I guess I just get offended too easily.

    That would offend me.

    It would mean that the person never cared about ME but was satisfying a fetish. It's a betrayal.

    BUT, you're better off without someone like that. I know that doesn't help the sting at the moment, but in the long run, you're better of without that person.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    Can't say I would be offended. It seems like you're taking it as a put-down because it's a quality you don't appreciate. Just like if a guy said he was attracted to you because you are short, and you think short is a bad thing... You probably wouldn't appreciate that comment either. Are these guys saying that's the ONLY reason they're attracted to you, or that's what INITIALLY attracted them to you?

    Exactly. Everyone has multiple things they are attracted to - not a single "ONLY", and multiple deal breakers. Some are physical characteristics and some character-based. What he meant was that it's one of the top things they initially find physically attractive in you, and there are others.

    People simply do not have a single-dimension attraction basis, in which case *every* person with that attribute is interchangeable. Everyone is more complex than that. Men, too, believe it or not.

    If a woman man really likes tall men, and says "the reason I liked you is you're tall", it doesn't mean all tall men are equally attractive, it doesn't mean there's nothing else about him she likes, and it doesn't mean his entire worth is wrapped up in his height.

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