How did you get your spouse to eat better?

fiberartist219

Can't adults cook for themselves? Seriously, it's not my problem if my husband wants to eat crap. I cook what I want, and either he eats it or he doesn't.

jiddu17

I see what you're saying, it's not that you want him to eat more veggies, it's that you want to only make one meal. Hiding veggies only works IF the person hiding them ACTUALLY wants the food the veggies are being hidden in.

While he does seem to mostly be irrational, based on your description, I do think there are solutions that might work for both of you:
You said he hates most veg... find the ones he will eat and make them. We use very basic veg in my house and fill our plate at least 1/2 with them: Roasted Veg (Can be Carrots, Peas, Cauliflower and Potato - I only use one potato - any combo, or all of them together). Corn and green beans are big in my house. We will have cucumber and tomato salads with or without cheese / dressing. Bell Peppers tossed in Sesame Oil. We like meat, we eat 4oz portions of meat. We like noodles. I measure out one serving of noodles that he and I share (cooked in broth/stock, topped with a tsp of parmesan cheese)
It's not about getting him to eat what you eat, it's finding a compromise that works for both of you. Your compromise is to reduce your menu to things he likes.... his compromise is to accept that you will no longer be making some foods he has grown to love. You might make it on a day when you have extra cals, or just want a little... he can always order out if he's desperate... but MOST of the things I have ever made, I have been able to find lower cal, "cleaner" versions.
One other thing he should consider is that a food might be called the same thing, but it will taste different from place to place, including at home. That doesn't mean it doesn't taste good in it's own right, just because your former self used to cook it differently.