Friends Comments Question..

SkylerNshape

When you comment on your friends daily accomplishments often, and they never comment on your's, do you delete them? or would that be a rude thing to do?

FlaxMilk

I think it's fine to delete for that but I feel too bad. I did get frustrated with a few and put them on hide. I figured they could remove me when I stopped commenting on their progress. :blushing: :laugh:

MaritaD

It's a personal decision. You have to do what's right for you!

I think if you are commenting on their progress only to get a comment back then you aren't being genuine. Just comment if you are truly happy for them, or proud of their accomplishment without expecting anything in return. I know it's a great feeling getting those comments, but it's a great feeling knowing you are encouraging and motivating someone else too!

ullgetthere

I may sound a little mean but it's the same as real life. If you spend energy giving support and getting nothing back, there is nothing wrong with choosing to ignore them. I tell myself that I here for support and vice versa.

qtiekiki

You have the rights to do what you want to do. I don't think it's rude. I don't do it as I go through phase of commenting a lot and not commenting because life gets in the way, so I don't expect my friends to be able to comment constantly. For me, it's inspiring just to see people logging and exercising.

Koldnomore

Meh. I'm here for me so really the only 'approval' that I require is my own. It is nice to see comments occasionally but to be honest I turned off most of my 'messages' so people no longer see the "has completed her diary" or things like that. I will throw out comments here and there but I won't let it ruin my day if people choose not to comment on my profile nor do I spend my entire day commenting on others profiles. I guess it just depends on your expectations.

animatorswearbras

I only sometimes comment on my MFP friends successes if they've done a massive burn or logged in for 100days or something but mostly I only comment if they ask something or say something personal, I rarely get comments on my weight losses or comments apart from my real life friends on here. Although I will comment more on people who comment on my status's.

But I usually keep people as friends so I can check out their diaries and they can check mine to see what's working for each other, if someones had some good consistent losses I love comparing diaries food and exercise to see if I can improve. I wouldn't be upset if I got deleted either.

I wouldn't worry about deleting someone if you don't feel you have much interaction with that person

krisiepoo

You don't know where they are emotionally, physically, etc. I feel good about myself for helping others feel good about themselves, so why would I stop that?

yoovie

Some people are motivated by encouraging others.
Some people are motivated by silently subscribing to the news feeds of successful people
Some people are motivated by posting their accomplishments
Some people are motivated by keeping their accomplisments secret and focusing on others
Some people naturally love to chatter about the things they are working on accomplishing
Some people love to chatter about the things that are dragging them down
Some people feel helpful by listening.
Some people feel helpful by offering advice.
Some people feel helpful by simply saying good job! every time.
Some people are on here every day or first thing every morning.
Some people only come out in the middle of the night.
Some people have sporadic schedules or no computers.
Some people are only here to track and log.
Some people are only here to socialize with fit people.
Some people are here to change their lives completely.
Some people are here to just exponentially increase their natural awesomeness.

Please dont ever feel as though we must all be the same kind of MFP user/motivator as you are, in order to be on a list.

it takes all of us.

escloflowneCHANGED

I couldn't care less about my friends list posting encouragment on my profile...I keep them around because they are crazy and make this whole weightloss thing worth it! Plus I can't wait to visit some of these people!

sktllmdrhmzz

Send them an angry message, too.

belladonna786

I dont post to get a post back, I post for support so I really dont care if they comment on mine.

Domi_BTGfit

I don't worry about that, as I have my good days and bad days too. Some days you just want to login to log your food, exercise and weight loss/gain.... other days, you want to be interactive. It is very hard to keep up with everyone when you're spanned all over the world! Being in Australia, when I look at MFP (iPhone app) I can only see the last 10 posts, which are mostly from overseas and are hours old. I am pretty good with commenting on milestones (a big loss, or a big consecutive days of check in) but I don't feel the need to write something on everyone's wall just for the sake of it.

Kalynx

i have deleted people for that reason, I dont want to spend my time encouraging others if they have absolutely no interest in what I'm doing. I try to reach out 3 or 4 times, and if they still continue to not be vocal I delete them - these are people that requested to be my friend, not the other way around. its a two way street.

SkylerNshape

Thanks for all your comments, its interesting to see the different views, I'm here to support and get support, so I feel better about deleting non supporting friends.