Is weight gain justification for cheating?

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RockinBooty89
RockinBooty89 Posts: 69
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My boyfriend cheated on me awhile back and he never mentioned my weight gain as reason for cheating, but at one point I talked to his brother about it and he said that was a largely contributing factor? Is cheating justified if their partner doesn't have the same body after awhile?
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  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
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    people justify all kinds of ****. doesn't mean it's right.
  • Chapter3point6
    Chapter3point6 Posts: 1,233
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    This should be entertaining
  • small_ninja
    small_ninja Posts: 365 Member
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    It's understandable, but maybe not justified. If he wasn't happy, he should have just left.
  • zombie_porno
    zombie_porno Posts: 199 Member
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    There is absolutely NO justification for cheating, under ANY circumstances.

    If someone is no longer attracted to you to the point of wanting to stray, they no longer genuinely love you & therefore should end your relationship instead of being unfaithful.

    Any other excuses are just selfish & wrong.
  • YoungDoc2B
    YoungDoc2B Posts: 1,593 Member
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    Cheating is something that can never be justified, no matter the circumstances. If you're not happy,just pack up and leave...smh
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
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    Umm, no. Sounds like you need to move on, he's a douche.
  • chrlslove7
    chrlslove7 Posts: 136 Member
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    Hell no. He sounds like a little boy to me. If he was a man, he would have talked to you about it bothering him, before dipping his shlong somewhere else. I hope you didn't put up with that petty crap because you deserve much more than that B.S...
  • charelg
    charelg Posts: 599 Member
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    Is this a serious question? Tell him to get lost, lose the weight, then post hot pics of yourself on Facebook. I do think in relationships you should take of yourself and stay in shape, but gaining weight isnt a reason to stray. Don't stay with someone like that, it's not love.
  • SofaKingRad
    SofaKingRad Posts: 1,592 Member
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    :cry:
  • RockinBooty89
    RockinBooty89 Posts: 69
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    This happened a few months ago and I'm past it, now its purely a matter of curiosity. I just want to know if there is any weight ( pun totally intended) to that side of the equasion?
  • zombie_porno
    zombie_porno Posts: 199 Member
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    Probably some very shallow, sad people will say yes, it is okay if someone gains a ton of weight to cheat on them... but that doesn't make it right.
  • gibsy
    gibsy Posts: 112
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    Nope, your boyfriend is a childish *kitten*. If he wasn't happy he could have talked it out with you like a grown up instead of betraying your trust. I really hope you DTMFA.
  • RockinBooty89
    RockinBooty89 Posts: 69
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    :cry:

    What is this all about?
  • Laura_Suzie
    Laura_Suzie Posts: 1,288 Member
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    No.
  • MyPaperBleedsInk
    MyPaperBleedsInk Posts: 240 Member
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    NO. Cheating is NEVER justifiable, especially for appearances.
    If the weight gain was seriously a problem in his eyes he could have brought it up to you, or just have ended the relationship in a serious and slightly mature manner (I say slightly, just because the reasoning alone I consider to be childish.)
  • ktmmom189
    ktmmom189 Posts: 132 Member
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    This happened a few months ago and I'm past it, now its purely a matter of curiosity. I just want to know if there is any weight ( pun totally intended) to that side of the equasion?

    I am 45, married 21 yrs. I was 104 lbs when we got married. At my highest I was 167. My husband still tells me I am sexy and he loves me. That's part of growing old together. I agree with the others he's a douche
  • DocCollins_SFA
    DocCollins_SFA Posts: 113
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    You know the answer to this already.
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
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    It is justification...for a douche bag *kitten* hole....A sensible person would sit down tell them they're not attracted to them anymore and work out a solution to resolve it. If the person does not feel like resolving it and prefers to stay that way, then they should leave....far before cheating becomes a factor...I think there are unfortunate circumstances but for the most part I find there's a type of person who cheats...as described in the first part of my post.
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
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    Umm, no. Sounds like you need to move on, he's a douche.

    As a follow up to your boyfriend being a douche, his brother is also a HUGE douche for trying to make you believe it's your fault.
  • dadof2boyz
    dadof2boyz Posts: 156 Member
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    people justify all kinds of ****. doesn't mean it's right.

    *this

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