"Have you lost weight" comment...

know_your_worth
know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
in Motivation and Support
Am I the only one who DOESN'T like hearing this?

A couple of people have asked me lately, and it feels really awkward. It's not a compliment, it's just kind of an observation about your weight.

Anyone know where I'm coming from?

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  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    Yes (i know where you're coming from). More annoying when people have said 'you're too skinny'. I eat tons, am within healthy BMI range, albeit on the lower side. I think I am actually big boned, though. Working on making muscles to make the difference.

    Worse: when people ask if your health is all right :/ (get this from people in their 50s & up, guess that's what weight loss signals to them)
  • MyPaperBleedsInk
    MyPaperBleedsInk Posts: 240 Member
    Actually, I don't like it if someone doesn't ask and the topic of the weight of others has already come up.... because then I feel as though maybe I'm not doing as well as I thought I was and it's possibly not even noticeable.
  • sunnykt
    sunnykt Posts: 66
    I even hated compliments on my weight (particularly by my family). I hated visiting my grandmother because she introduced me to everyone (even strangers) and told them I'd recently lost heaps of weight.
    I feel like that makes people "remember" me as fatter than I was too. My grandma constantly playing on the fact that I'd lost weight made people think "oh yeah she used to be fat". Even though I'd only lost about 12 kg (26 lbs), which I don't actually think is that much.

    But at the same time when friends deliberately didn't comment on it at all (for example my roommate even though she knew I was putting heaps of effort into it- apparently she didn't want me to "get a big head") I thought there was something remise. I guess the key is just to give a little compliment and move on. The phrasing of "have you lost weight?" is just awkward because then you have to give an answer/ justification.
  • Domi_BTGfit
    Domi_BTGfit Posts: 149
    I understand what you mean, because to me it's basically the same as saying "wow, you used to be fat" - even though they mostly are being genuine. I find it worse when they REALLY make a thing of it ... "OMG you have lost SO much weight" is what I'm talking about.

    Try to look at it positively though... if people weren't saying anything, would you think it wasn't working?

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