Ready to give in and wave the white flag
Sam_Jayne
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Im just about to start week 3 but really dont know if i can do this anymore
I started at 288lbs with a target of hopefully losing 99lbs by mid august 2013
1st weigh in went well as i thought it would do with losing water (i lost 7lbs) but now i have just done my 2nd weigh in and have gained 2lbs,im feeling very disheartened about this and feel ready to quit,how am i meant to lose 99lbs when i cant even lose 7lbs and keep it off??????????
I want to feel confident and make my family proud of me,my motivation for this is our family holiday next summer when i will hopefully put a swimsuit on for the 1st time in about 19yrs,but i really feel now this is never going to happen and am just coming to terms with the fact that i am always gonna be one of life's "fatties" so just wave the white flag and come to terms with this.Im not meant to lose this and be happy so why keep going through this??
I started at 288lbs with a target of hopefully losing 99lbs by mid august 2013
1st weigh in went well as i thought it would do with losing water (i lost 7lbs) but now i have just done my 2nd weigh in and have gained 2lbs,im feeling very disheartened about this and feel ready to quit,how am i meant to lose 99lbs when i cant even lose 7lbs and keep it off??????????
I want to feel confident and make my family proud of me,my motivation for this is our family holiday next summer when i will hopefully put a swimsuit on for the 1st time in about 19yrs,but i really feel now this is never going to happen and am just coming to terms with the fact that i am always gonna be one of life's "fatties" so just wave the white flag and come to terms with this.Im not meant to lose this and be happy so why keep going through this??
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Following Steve Gleason's motto
"NO white flags!"0 -
Although I do the same things every week, for the most part, I never lose the same amount every week. One week I will lose a pound, the next lose nothing or gain, the week after I'll lose 3 pounds...etc. You have trust that if you continue counting your calories - the weight WILL come off. There are a lot of factors contributing to our weight - such as sodium intake - which can make you retain water. Don't give up after 2 weeks! You're doing well so far losing pounds in 2 weeks... that's awesome!0
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You haven't gained 2 pounds, you have lost five. In two weeks. That is pretty quick!
Long term weight loss means going up and down. Don't let the first little up worry you.
I am not very large, and I no longer lose fast, but I can go down 2-300 grams a day for several days, then suddenly it stops and I jump back up a kilo in no time. Then I start the slow decline again.
What is keeping me sane (I have done this since the beginning of June) is that since I log pretty religiously, I can see that while I have peaks, each peak is lower than the previous one. And as long as each peak is below the previous high point, I know I am losing, not gaining.
Even for me, who now has only 6 or 7 pounds to go for a normal BMI, it is a long haul, and will be at best 12 weeks, most likely almost half a year until I get there. You have the benefit of being able to lose that much in two-three weeks at this point! It's fantastic!
Keep at it, and good work!
Rotill0 -
Don't give up yet, my friend. Even though you've gained 2lb, the important thing is to focus on what you've accomplished so far, and that is the fact that you lost 5lb in two weeks - thats a great start!
I've tried for years to lose weight, and every time I gained a couple of lbs, I waved the white flag - always ended up regaining far more than I'd lost too. Since starting MFP, I've realized that the weight isn't as important in the long run as other physical measurements and ultimately how i feel on a daily basis. Now when I gain, I just remind myself how much better I feel overall.
I have a couple of questions, if you don't mind my asking:
When you did the second weigh-in, was it at the same time of day as the first?
Did you wear the same kind of clothes as the first time?
Both of these can make a difference in what your weight will show as.0 -
I know it seems impossible when there's so much to lose but you have to decide how you want to live your life. If you are prepared to spend the rest of your life accepting the discomfort, ill health and increasing mobility problems as you age and continue to gain weight on your already strained body, then you can return to the lifestyle that got you where you are today.
If you would prefer to live, be mobile, healthy, active, comfortable in your body and able to enjoy life then you have to be prepared to work for the state of health you want to be in. It's going to be painful at times, excruciating even but you can't give up. You have to accept the fact that it took years to get your body into it's current state and it's going to take a lot of hard work and time to move out of it. Be motivated by what you want to be and also by what you will be in a few years if you don't change.
There are so many people on here who've lost over a hundred pounds, it can be done and you can do it too. You have to believe in yourself and believe in the worth of your goal. There may be a reason why your not losing weight as fast as you could, see what others who've lost huge amounts have done exercise/diet wise and maybe you could take some tips from that.
Stay focused!0 -
You've only been at this for 2 weeks. Give yourself some time. Try to stick it out for at least 6 weeks. Try and stay off the scale (near to impossible I know) but do try.
Don't give up on yourself or your goals.
Best of luck0 -
dont quit please.....i joined a couple of weeks ago but had started my new regise about 5 weeks ago, all i saw was weight gain during that time until last week so 5 weeks later! i was same as you beginning of last week but then weighed in Friday and had lost 4 pounds. Keep going, body needs to adjust and all that. At the end of the day you've still lost 5 pounds in a couple of weeks which is really really good. Slowly but surely....keep it up0
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slowly wins the race, your body is having a ***** fit its in shock that youre taking away fat!! seriously you will do it.0
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It could be what people call "water weight" but that is often used as an easy excuse.
Lets face it (bluntly), if you have 99lbs to lose then you're a big girl. At your size the weight should be flying off you. If you've gained 2lbs there has to be a reason. Let's find out what that is:
What does your diet look like? Open up your diary and let us take a look.
Are you weighing your food or guesstimating it? Innaccuracies in portio nsize can account for a lot.
How much are you exercising and how are you logging it? The calorie burn figures on MFP are notoriously overestimated so if you're using these you may not be burning as much as you think.
Weight loss is nothing more than a formula, and if a formula doesn't add up, there is *always* a reason that can be pinpointed.0 -
Im just about to start week 3 but really dont know if i can do this anymore
I started at 288lbs with a target of hopefully losing 99lbs by mid august 2013
For practical advice you should say what you're eating and what exercise you're doing and perhaps open your diary.
Have you seen the Steve Miller programmes on Sky or Freeview ? or search for "Fat Families" on youtube. There you'll see other 20 stone + people getting to grips with their issues successfully - hope you can get some inspiration from them.0 -
Don't give up so soon!
It didn't take you three weeks to gain the weight. Just be patient.0 -
Give your self some time. It didn't happen overnight, it's not going away that fast either. We all want NOW! Be kind to you, educate your self about how your body responds to things like salt, hormonal changes, stress and disappointment. You now weigh five lbs less than you did two weeks ago. Yeah you! Truly, we are making life changes slowly but surely. Give yourself time. Instead of focus on the scale, how about something like increasing your walking from 10 min to 20 without it bothering you? Something like that is a manageable and rewarding goal. It's not all numbers, truly, it's not. The other night, I took my resting pulse. It was 60 beats per minute instead of the usual 90. That's a tremendous change! Yoga and meditation, thank you very much!0
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Quitters never win!
Its not going to be easy and its not going to be quick...but hang in there. You deserve to wear a swimsuit on your holiday. You can make your family and yourself proud! Just stick with it and you will lose the weight!0 -
If you lost 7 lbs in 1 week, then the +2 is probably just some of the water weight. How is your sodium? Losing 7 lbs in 1 week is a lot, I'm not surprised some of it came back.0
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So, if you quit now - how's quitting going to help you reach your goal? What do you mean by "don't really know if you can do this anymore"? It's not some torture ritual - you log what you put in your face and then you analyze the numbers and determine methods to improve on the numbers, like replacing bad stuff with fruits / veggies. Also, drink more water and routinely exercise somehow. This is not a "drop it overnight" plan. It will take time, but if you just look at it "one day at a time" - what exactly are you losing (no pun intended) by sticking with it? I.E., what harm are you causing yourself by continuing to do this for You? It's about learning how to take better care of you and achieve a much healthier you (for You, not anyone else). You didn't gain the weight overnight. Be patient, stick with it and it will come off. You have almost a year for your goal, even if you don't meet the exact number - if you stick with this I bet you'll be pleased with the result in August 2013. One last thing - suggest losing the negative self-talk, that's of no benefit either. Perhaps begin realizing and telling yourself "I can do this", because you can! We all can!
Best wishes to you on returning to your journey to better health! :flowerforyou:0 -
Keep picturing your goal. You want to feel good on your holiday.
If you give up, you will feel like you do now.
Even if the stupid number on the scale doesn't change (and it will), regular exercise will have you feeling MUCH better in a year.
I have lost a bunch, but am still fat and I ran 2.5 miles both Saturday and Sunday. I NEVER would have been able to do that before. Not even back in high school.
So, don't give up. NEVER SURRENDER!0 -
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You have been at this for three weeks and have not lost the weight that you thought you should of; the first week you lost 7 pounds and now put two back on and want to toss in the towel. Here is the rough truth, this is a journey, and you are going to have weeks that are better than others. You did not reach this point in your life in three weeks and you are not going to change it in three weeks. If you want to toss the towel in after three short weeks than you should. Good luck with the rest of your life and adios. However, if you really want to make the change and start heading towards a healthier lifestyle. Reach deep down inside of yourself, places that you did not know existed and start punching, fight for what you want. Then you use that towel to wipe the sweat off your brow and know that each day is better than the day before. I do not live by a scale, ”numbers lie”. After six weeks ask yourself how you feel, how are your clothes feeling. Are you able to do more now than you were before?0 -
PLEASE do not give up!! We all know how hard it is on this journey. It can be frustrating and downright INFURIATING at times and often I have felt exactly like you do now, but i didn't give up, i powered through and i'm now roughly 50lLBS lighter than i was at the start of this year. Not only that though, i'm also SO much healthier!! I'm not borderline diabetic anymore, i don't get heartburn, migraines or aches and pains which i used to have on a DAILY basis when i was bigger. I would never have been able to say all that if i'd have thrown in the towel when i was so tempted to. There are days even now when i really lack motivation but i just tell myself that i have come this far, i'm almost at my goal weight and to give in now would be so so silly.
Keep going!!!! You are doing SO well!!!!!!! Think about a few months down the line- what will you be able to say to yourself?
"I tried a few months ago to lose weight, but i gave up. I couldn't do it. If i'd stuck with it, i'd probably be near where i wanted to be weight-wise by now. I should've stuck with it."
OR...
"I have lost x lbs and yes, it's been SO hard!!! but i've done it and i am stronger now"
YOU GOT THIS!!!!!!!
Jx0 -
Stay with it. I gained weight my first few weeks. Still going up and down. Lose / gain 1 etc, but the overall weight is lower than where I started. The point it, you body has to adjust to whatever food plan changes and exercise you are doing in. Give it time.0
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It could be what people call "water weight" but that is often used as an easy excuse.
Lets face it (bluntly), if you have 99lbs to lose then you're a big girl. At your size the weight should be flying off you. If you've gained 2lbs there has to be a reason. Let's find out what that is:
What does your diet look like? Open up your diary and let us take a look.
Are you weighing your food or guesstimating it? Innaccuracies in portio nsize can account for a lot.
How much are you exercising and how are you logging it? The calorie burn figures on MFP are notoriously overestimated so if you're using these you may not be burning as much as you think.
Weight loss is nothing more than a formula, and if a formula doesn't add up, there is *always* a reason that can be pinpointed.
What he said^^ Dont give up, you did not get to where you are in 2 weeks, you will not loose it in 2 weeks - Lots of us are here for the long haul - You can be too :flowerforyou:0 -
Read some success stories - see what they have done, where they were, what they did, where they are now.
If you are not ready to do this then it won't work.
Don't put pressure on yourself to lose XX by XX date.
Just determine that you will log everything you eat - get a little digital scale so you don't over estimate. Log ahead of time, so you can decide to make changes if you need too. Don't lie to yourself. You can make you diary public if you want feedback from friends, or leave it closed as it is now - but no on can help you then.
Start walking - even a little bit - I started just walking around and around my small backyard as quickly as I could.
Just see what happens?0 -
I was a yo-yo dieter for years and always managed to put on everything I lost plus. But this time it is different. I am going to be successful and will weigh 71 kg (156 lb) or thereabouts. I don't have a time limit for this - it is just going to be. And this time I will maintain that weight for the rest of my days. And that is the difference, my positive and determined attitude. I don't talk about "if I lose weight", I always talk about "when". And I'm realistic too. I prefer to lose weight slowly and if I put some on over a week, then so be it. I laugh it off and comment "Oops" on my diary. I only have one MFP friend, but she is fantastic and keeps me going on the really difficult days. I weighed 317 lb in October 2009 and now weigh 250 lb, I'm about 1/3 of the way through.
You are wanting to lose 99 lb in about a year, which averages out to 2lb every week. This weight loss is hard to sustain because you normally take off with a bit of a bang, then put about 1 kilo on then lose a bit more, then go up again and at some stage you will appear to have stopped (plateaued) before you start tumbling down again. I would be more inclined to work on 1 1b a week with any loss greater than that a real bonus. Perhaps you could relax a bit more about it and accept what is. Be proud of every change you make and most importantly of all, do this for YOU. For the very first time I'm changing my life for me, not my arthritic knee or my blood pressure - this one is for me. GOOD LUCK!!!0 -
Lost 5lbs in two weeks and you're ready to quit?????
"Winners never quit and quitters never win."
Vince Lombardi0 -
^^^^ Very well said --- Thanks, for the reminder to FIGHT!!!0
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I would be thrilled if I lost 5lb in two weeks0
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Dont give up! 2 years ago I use to weigh 230. And today I weigh 200. I went through a lot of ups and downs myself through trial and error.
I dont like the taste of chicken and I hate fish. I tried to be a vegetarian countless times and wanted to just wave the white flag.
Weight Loss is hard as hell. But right when i thought "i've given up" Id find myself back on the scale to check my weight. Life is too short for regrets. Dont regret giving up on your journey. The reward in the end is a great one.0 -
Hi please dont give in, it can be very annoying when you are doing your best . You should be proud of yourself that you have lost some weight, that is a big achievement. Ok you put 2lbs on, it happens but if you give in now, what is going to happen to all of that hard work. It has taken me a long time to get my head round it but I am finally on track after years of been overweight. I'm from the UK, so if you want to add me for support, free feel. Either way please dont give in:happy:0
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Typically it goes off on one week 2 or 3... Totally normal! If you ever watched biggest loser week 2/3 is always that way! Don't panic. Might be worth changing your goals to 40% carbs 30% protein and 30% fat.. Don't eat exercise calories back until your near goal, eat 1300 - 1600 zigzagging... Lots of fiber, lots of water, wish I'd know all this earlier. They are winning formulas for me and I believe really worth a try for. You x0
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I already sent you a reply on your wall so I will make this short. You will regret giving up more than the gain of 2lbs. Keep at it, I am a big girl and a slow loser as well, and I always quit before now, but this is not a race, keep at it.0
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Don't give up ! This is a long journey and the destination is worth it0
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