Feeling sorry for myself....

Katahna

When you're born you're given one thing, life, and you still have that. Anything else is just a bonus... =]

Melolicious

You are stronger than any ****-storm out there. Seriously.

lynheff

Prayers for the end of the problems for you. The best advice I have to offer is--find another way to distract yourself...a brisk walk, take up knitting (or anything else that you can't do while eating) etc. It is so tempting to fall back onto our old comforter--food. Good luck with all of it.

clarkeje1

Honestly eating bad stuff and not working out will only make you feel worse and have less energy. You need all the strength you can get right now to deal with this. Things will get better! The pain of grief will lessen with time and your husband and son can find other jobs. You will get through it!!! Just remember to stay strong and focused.

NeverGivesUp

I really know how you feel. Things have not been going well for me right now either. Running is great but I am waiting on some new shoes. My really good friend is having brain surgery tomorrow. If you are anything like me you need to feel the sadness before you move on. Then make a plan . Good luck. Happy feeling. Things always get better in the long run, you just have to have faith and learn from all your experiences positive and negative. It makes us better and more compassionate people. xxxxoooo

Kelly_Runs_NC

Just do it. -Nike

DianaFaith1

Only you can pull your self up by the bootstraps. If you go down the tubes, how can you help motivate and truly support the ones you care for and love the most. It's up to you to get off of your downward self destruct spiral and get a grip. If you go down in a firey blaze, who's next? Think about it...And for G-d's sake eat something that doesn't suck your energy dry...

peles_fire

Moments like these are when eating well and exercising are most important. They will literally help you out of the slump faster. If you continue to make poor diet choices and not exercise daily (not sure from your post if you do or not) you will prolong the suffering. Get out there and move your body and eat some healthy nourishing food. The chemical reactions these two things produce in your body will help you more than any ice cream can. good luck!

ETA: I am sorry you are experiencing such a rough patch in your life. There is just no easy way to get through rough times like those and I wish you and your family the best in getting beyond these difficulties and moving on to better times.

californiagirl2012

Recently my family and I have been through a lot. A real *kitten* storm. Between deaths in the family, my husband and son BOTH losing their jobs, I am just beside myself. I am surprisingly not going overboard, persay, just eating the wrong things, and not dedicating myself to exercise. I'm tired, not sleeping well, the whole bit. I go two days without much sleep (3-5 hours) then I will sleep almost 10-11 hours another night. I just feel angry, and all I want to do is eat ice cream, chocolate, and potato chips to dull all the crap. I have probably gained only 2 lbs, which I consider a blessing, but am afraid I might be falling into old bad patterns. Any advice on ending my pity party and getting back on track?

Stock the house with only healthy foods. Keep all the crap out. Have a treat once in awhile but go out to get it and don't keep it around. You have a lot of stress, it's hard to take on too much when you are under stress. Maybe just pick one habit to change and get it to stick before you tackle another. It can get too overwhelming.

jazzalea

put on some great dance music and clean your house..... cleaning and orgainising is a cleanse in and of itself.... the exercise will release all those endorphins and make you feel good... and you will sit back at the end of the day and see what you have accomplished and feel even better..... take control of what you CAN control.... and the rest will fall into place

2hmom

I agree with the ones that say run till you can't and then fall asleep. Run in place in front of the tv,if you don't want to go out. Good luck,hugs.

Inebriated

Eating all the bad things, chips, chocolate etc won't make the bad things that are happening dissapear. You'd just be adding to all the bad things because you most likely will feel guilty about eating those things.

Try and stay as positive as you can. Try and be active, for me it's a great stress reducer so hopefully that will help get you through this rough patch.

Good Luck!

msshiraz

Glad you posted this- I know many of us have been there, and often we have such down days/times in our lives. But the self sabotage that wreaks havoc on your body, nutrition as well in just a couple weeks if you don't see major gain- you will soon. And the thing is, the comfort of food, it doesn't last. You need to find something you like to do- fitness is best for the benefits of endorphins- find something you like - preferably fitness- if you have a gym that is affordable in your area- count the cost of the junk food- and invest in yourself. It will help you sleep better too- your stress and anxiety and bad diet are going to contribute to a host of problems you haven't anticipated- take care of you! Also if you can talk to your dr- seriously there may be some underlying issues affecting your sleep too

madamepsychosis

Sorry to hear about that That sure is a lot to deal with at once

As raw as this may sound- none of that has anything to do with your weight & health. You have to remind yourself that despite all the outside things going on, sabotaging your inside isn't helping anyone or anything. In fact, taking care of yourself and bettering yourself physically (and emotionally) will probably have a better outcome for you and your family.

That being said, take the time you need to grieve and be easy on yourself. Remind yourself that even if you make only one positive change each day, you're ahead of the game.

good luck to you!

This is all really good advice. I honestly can't remember where I read it, I think it might have been on a friend's MFP profile, but there's a quote that goes 'If hunger isn't the problem, food isn't the solution'. When you do feel like you want to eat a ton of 'bad' food, just remember that binging on isn't going to make all the problems you're currently facing go away. If anything, it's only going to make things worse in the long run, because you're going to inevitably feel guilty for having done it, further perpetuating the bad feelings you're currently experiencing. Fatty and/or sugary foods probably won't help with your sleep cycle either.

It's important to treat yourself, especially when you're going through a rough patch, but it's not a treat if it's done frequently and to excess. If you want to reward yourself with chocolate, fine, but keep it in moderation.

The suggestions of doing some form of physical activity you love are great ones too. It won't fix the problems you've been having, but I know going for a run (my favourite form of exercise) always really helps when my brain is muddled or I'm angry about something.

The things you've mentioned are things you can't really control and for that my heart goes out to you. Remember, though, that you can still control your health and fitness habits and if you feel well physically, your emotional well-being will often follow suit. Best of luck!

miriamwithcats

I can't run, so advice to run doesn't help me, don't know about you. But I do find that focusing on the positives, and then working out the sadness some way (I use loud music and deep cleaning) is really helpful. The trick is to keep busy moving forward so we don't move back. And it is really true, we cannot help our loved ones if our health falls apart (mental or physical) so it very important to take care of MOM! I am a comfort eater too, and am trying new ways to find comfort. Working out in my hot tub (half swimming bottom and top) then relaxing in the jets is one of my new ways of comforting myself. I turn on classical music, since I like that. I tend to use blues or jazz or even Glen Miller for cleaning- anything to help make me feel like moving. Also working HARD in my garden helps. And don't forget the benefits of sunshine! Good luck to you. I was unemployed for almost four years total, and I know the stress it causes! Oh, make sure to sign up for any food stamps or other assistance you are eligible for to save your cash reserves for other necessities!

marthathebear

Exercise is a natural mood elevator. Keep up your exercise and force yourself to make better choices. It starts with 2 lbs. and can balloon quickly. Don't do this to yourself. It may take time but things will improve. I will pray for y'all.

juliedozier

Go run until you can't. Endorphins make you feel good, and you'll be more tired. We all live a storm or two. I am in the same place.

This!!!

coffee_rocks

http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2012/09/17/maintain-momentum/

Excellent post. Take a few minutes to read the article above, and hope things turn around for you!

sarahharmintx

Lots have given you great advice. Eating out of control will not help you control the things around you. I really wish I could help. But since I cant, have you thought about trying something new? Maybe reading a new genre of books? Or trying a new workout video? Yoga and meditation might help you clear your head. Your local library could be a great resource. Maybe just going for a walk at a new park will help clear the cobwebs. In hard times Ive also turned to journaling.

annebubbles

My advice would be to not let food be your "comfort" because food really doesn't care about comforting you. Food like the snacky items you mentioned actually will just end up hanging around your middle for a LONG time and makeing you UNCOMFORTABLE. I too am going through a CRAZY & STRESSFUL YEAR ( 3 deaths in the family, moving 3 times, 2 new jobs, getting divorced). what I decided to do is NOT eat because of it. I go for a walk instead of screaming or killing someone. I take my dog for a walk wheather she needs one or not at least once a day, & some days twice. (doggie isn't complaining about it at all) I get outside & look at the clouds, or the grass, or the houses on the street, or whatever... I get a lot of thinking & quiet time this way, I can pray & I find it makes me feel lots better than ANY kind of food ever did! I hope this helps you.

mdsjmom98

Yes, all of your responses has hit close to home. I know that over eating will not solve all of lifes problems, only cause regret, which will only add to the already stressful situation. Today I'm off to a good start though, and hope to keep the momentum going. Thanks again for all the great words of support. I'm moved beyond words by all of your kindness.

pupcamper

Hope things are going a bit better for you! Hang in there!