Would you be mad if..

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  • kimosabe1
    kimosabe1 Posts: 2,467 Member
    That's messed up. I'd douche her! Talk 2 her ex....
  • SarahJean0704
    SarahJean0704 Posts: 33
    I don't think i could ever talk to anyone that was with my bestfriend .. maybe if it was just anb accquaintance ex then yeah i'd go for it but we were like sisters, I let her stay with me through her divorce and we have always been there to help eachother but idk I really don't like nor did i ever expect this kind of thing and for her to even have the thought of picking someone shes been talking to for a week over me , it hurts.
  • ajball90
    ajball90 Posts: 211 Member
    I would be mad. Especially about her comment, "I don't know who to pick". Try to make her see your point of view, maybe ask her to imagine if you started dating her ex, how would she feel? But otherwise, just leave it. She is your best friend, so you obviously don't want to lose her over this. But if it was me, I don't think I would be able to continue the same relationships with her, knowing she has such little respect for you and doesn't even care how it makes you feel. Im so sorry you are hurting over this, it is a horrible thing for her to do.
  • jeremy_jj13
    jeremy_jj13 Posts: 29
    my best friend ended up dating my ex , there exes for a reason of course there are exceptions but i feel like its just a situation that has to just be looked past and dealt with.
  • sofitheteacup
    sofitheteacup Posts: 396 Member
    She sounds like a crappy friend. For starters, the "who to pick" comment, in addition to disrespecting the time you two have invested in creating and maintaining the friendship, implies that she doesn't value you because she's even thinking (and enough so to voice) this thought. Had she come to you and explained things, even if it was after they became close, would have been much more honest, believable, and respectful that what it sounds like she's doing.
    And I'm approaching this from a perspective that completely disregards your history with him.
    Frankly she just sounds like she wants a guy more than she wants your friendship, and that's hurtful and immature.
  • Bahet
    Bahet Posts: 1,254 Member
    Petty and puerile. If I throw out a chair I no longer give a damn whose butt sits in it.
  • SarahJean0704
    SarahJean0704 Posts: 33
    Thanks, i deff don't want to lose our friendship and i've told her that and thats when she said "idk who to pick" thing .. i would love to still be close with her and everything like it was before but i really think our relationship will deff change if she keeps talking to him .. i think its pretty disrespectful .
  • luvs2teachincali
    luvs2teachincali Posts: 207 Member
    You helped her through her divorce! That says a lot right there... maybe she is just rebounding?

    I'm with the other poster... what if the guy is HER soulmate? You tried it, it didn't work out for you. Pick up and move on. Be the better person. EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Perhaps you two were together just so that the TWO OF THEM would meet!?

    I dunno.
    Do what makes you feel right in the end because you are the one that has to live with it.
  • Serenstar75
    Serenstar75 Posts: 258 Member
    No. I'm not selfish enough to say that if he wasn't right with me he can't be with anyone I know. I'm not saying you're being selfish. Women are weird. For the most part, I don't like the majority I've met that are of my own gender. There are exceptions!

    As far as I'm concerned, if two people don't mesh well it's highly unfair to prevent others from possibly finding love where it may be right. Of course, I'm best friends now with a women I knew as a child who dated my brother and then later was engaged to my ex-husband. We became best friends after she realized I was right. But it was her life to live and her choice to make, not mine.

    The only thing that gets me is the "who to pick" thing. Because a best friend won't make you pick (which you sound like you aren't, and like you'll deal with it either way) and a guy worth having won't make you pick either.
  • SarahJean0704
    SarahJean0704 Posts: 33
    she may be rebounding but whether she is or not i don't think she needed to do it with my ex.. idk i just feel like ive been really disrespected by the both of them .
  • SarahJean0704
    SarahJean0704 Posts: 33
    well right .. i told them both i would be happy for either of them if they found someone to be with but i don't think they should have even made that decision to start talking .. when he started i think she should have turned him down and left it at that , thats just me saying what i would do if i was in that situation.
  • tmauck4472
    tmauck4472 Posts: 1,785 Member
    If he's your ex why do you care? He's out of that part of your life. You should be happy your friend may be able to find love. How would feel if he was her one and only and you stopped that because...well for whyever you stopped it. Then ask yourself how you would feel if you found a guy that you really liked and actually had true feelings for and then found out he was an ex of one of your friends, would you give up on a chance at love just because your friend used to date him. That's high school BS.

    Thats just my opinion.

    Edit: The I don't know who to choose would be my issue, but she's confused she wants love wants to be loved and to throw that chance away because he's the ex of my friend has got to be hard for her.

    Your not in High school anymore, grow up and move on..it would be different if you still loved the ex...ohhhhh wait that's the problem you still care for him and want him back..now I get it.
  • SarahJean0704
    SarahJean0704 Posts: 33
    i don't want him back but i can't say i dont care for him somewhat , but im way too good for him and hes no where near my level, just sayin may sound bad but its the truth .
  • dinoskycm
    dinoskycm Posts: 267
    In my book, the "no ex" rule is an unwritten law that must be obeyed and never broken. I mean, you can consider this a true test of your friendship. You have been true to her, but will she be true to you? If that happened between my best friend and me, I would be pissed, and it would definitely change our relationship.
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    Petty and puerile. If I throw out a chair I no longer give a damn whose butt sits in it.

    Yeah, me too. When I'm done with something I don't care who uses it next. If I cared, I guess it means I wasn't really over it, right?
  • Restybaby2012
    Restybaby2012 Posts: 568 Member
    Hmmmmm...what to do what to do.









    I guesss Id feel.................






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    totally blessed if that were my biggest worry of the day.:blushing:
  • rozsbluejay
    rozsbluejay Posts: 303 Member
    Maybe. It depends. Have you moved on. Because I was friends with a couple now the couple is broken up one person is married and the guy and I are single and we're looking on the brighter side of the situation. Maybe it does look bad. But it really depends on your friend.
  • alleycat88
    alleycat88 Posts: 756 Member
    Your bestfriend started talking to your ex ??

    Just recently my bestfriend started talking to my ex , we weren't to the extreme of talking about marriage or anything like that but to the point of where we met eachothers kids .. well last week he asked if she was single and then they started talking and when i asked her about it she said she doesn't know who to pick between .. and honestly i never told her she had to pick but i did tell them both that it bothered them.. idk maybe im over reacting ?? and she says she does';t know who to "pick" .. shes known this guy for about a week and me and her have been friends for years ?? wth.
    I dated a guy for like a month. Met my SO and he's friends with the guy I dated for about a month. THAT group of friends hate me now because I started datingone of his friends. It wasn't a serious relationship and I didn't meet my SO until about a year after that relationship ended. In cases where you haven't dsated long I don't see the big deal, but if it was serious to the point where you met each other's kids, as a friend I would respect that and no it' not okay.
  • Tennessee2019
    Tennessee2019 Posts: 676 Member
    She can have him, with my blessings. If you knew my ex- you would understand why I say this.

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