Weird?

battleborn
battleborn Posts: 8
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Is it weird for a married guy to ask other women to be friends on here? My wife thinks it's not but I am hesitant and don't want to come off as some "creepy" guy. I could use the support though and the accountability............

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  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    Not weird as long as you are up front about your marital status and reasons.
  • mock743
    mock743 Posts: 19 Member
    No worries just means you can admit that you need some support. I found that you have to just take part in the process. It all starts with one step at a time and being open to failures and successes along the way on your new healthy lifestyle.
  • elizak87
    elizak87 Posts: 249 Member
    I like to cruise the diaries of other men to see what I could feed my own man without him turning his nose up at it. As long as both parties have innocent then no harm done
  • dominikaro
    dominikaro Posts: 86
    I would never thing of it thet way. We're all here for the same reason: loosing weight, getting fit and healthy. And NOT looking for romance. So no, it doesn't metter if you're girl or guy.
  • pamperedlinny
    pamperedlinny Posts: 1,688 Member
    I'm married w/ guy friends on here. I don't see a problem with it as long as no one on my list is trying to look for a hook up.
    Actually, I like looking at guys diaries for ideas at home w/ the hubby. :wink:
  • diadojikohei
    diadojikohei Posts: 732 Member
    I only accepted women first, but have a few men on my list now. It's not like I'll ever meet them and if they go weird I'll just delete them!
    So you've been warned!
  • NinjaBeth90
    NinjaBeth90 Posts: 43
    No it's not weird at all :) - I joined this site with my partner and we both have other people on ours. Everyone's on this site for the same reason, either to lose weight or keep fit. Everyone likes some support and motivation and I'm sure no one would think you are creepy... Just a fellow poster on a similar journey :smile:
  • LisaMarie8713
    LisaMarie8713 Posts: 310
    I'm ok with it, and I think the others are right, we are here to get healthier and stay healthier, not date.... I have had weird emails come to me, but ignored them. If you want honest support, in a platonic fashion, just ask! Feel free to add me, I won't ask you out, lol...
  • Ph4lanx
    Ph4lanx Posts: 213 Member
    I don't see a problem with it. People seem to have forgotten what the word "Platonic" means these days.
  • JoanneStone
    JoanneStone Posts: 135 Member
    No. it's not weird! That's why we are here! We're all in the same boat, let's help each other!:bigsmile:
  • IrishHarpy1
    IrishHarpy1 Posts: 399 Member
    I don't see a problem with it. People seem to have forgotten what the word "Platonic" means these days.

    I totally agree.... my best friend (other than my husband) is a guy, and sometimes the odd looks and comments I get are rather amusing. I'm completely secure in my marriage, my husband is probably the least jealous person you could ever meet, and I can't help it if I tend to get along better with men. It's probably because I was the son my father never had -- and I have two brothers! :laugh:
  • battleborn
    battleborn Posts: 8
    Thanks for the responses. I am definitely just looking for support and. I guess it's just in my own brain I could see women being creeped out by a guy asking to be "friends" but your right............. we are all here on the same journey of a healthier life style. I guess it's time to add some people. I have an open diary as well for those looking for good "man" food. I do most of the cooking at our house and tend to lean towards that type of cooking.
  • BamaGirl777
    BamaGirl777 Posts: 84
    Not weird at all to me. Feel free to add me if you would like. I am a married woman of 23 yrs.
  • PaBirdie1
    PaBirdie1 Posts: 9
    I agree with everyone else. It seems that mostly women come to these boards anyway, so if you are looking for support, you are almost stuck with females. If more guys would get involved and be proud of the journey, it would be more even. Im ok having male friends as well because its just as easy to delete as it is to add.
  • pinknecessarily
    pinknecessarily Posts: 4
    I don't think it's creepy, but if it makes your wife uncomfortable, don't do it.
  • goblynn
    goblynn Posts: 148 Member
    LOL!!!

    A guy that admits he is married on here!!! Don't worry you aren't the 'creepy' guy, you sound like the honest guy.
  • nachobunny
    nachobunny Posts: 13 Member
    Asks the guy with the creepy handlebar mustahce picture. LOL. I can kid becuase you are already mine....add away!!
  • martymays
    martymays Posts: 188 Member
    Is it weird for a married guy to ask other women to be friends on here? My wife thinks it's not but I am hesitant and don't want to come off as some "creepy" guy. I could use the support though and the accountability............

    THIS is the very reason I don't request friends, lol.
  • LaurenLite
    LaurenLite Posts: 87
    Nope- support can come from either sex, religious or sexual affiliation, ethnicity, or size. This is just a place to come to have people to cheer you on and answer questions, share tips, and be there for each other. I don't think I've seen anyone use this to even try to date. If you feel uncomfortable, you can always get your wife to get an account and add you as a friend- then she'll see all you do. But I'm sure she trusts you.
  • Eve23
    Eve23 Posts: 2,352 Member
    We all need help here. And as long as you do not confuse support as personal feelings I don't see a problem with having friends who are of the opposite set. I am married and have a few men on my friends list. Only one who is active but none the less its good to have his support and input when its needed just as it is with any of my other friends.
  • AnnKneeNorth
    AnnKneeNorth Posts: 34
    Not weird at all....you can get motivation from both sexes. And each one can give a different perspective on things! I am married as well and wen through the same affliction , until my husband explained that same reason to me:)
  • bcampbell54
    bcampbell54 Posts: 932 Member
    Yeah, it's weird, but I'm creepy, so it's ok..
  • cobracars
    cobracars Posts: 949 Member
    I've got a few men friends and about a dozen lady friends. I didn't feel comfortable asking them, but through my replies to others posts, being open about my own weight loss, and a few well-chosen pictures of my dog or horse....the women eventually started asking me.
    No flirting, just encouragement through the C25K running program or ideas for different foods and recipes, what works and what doesn't. The usual fitness related stuff. Its fine to have friends of all genders.
  • 0MissErin0
    0MissErin0 Posts: 92 Member
    I don't think it's weird at all. We are pretty much all here for the same reason, and there is nothing wrong with support from people you connect with in the MFP community :)
    I'm engaged and have all sorts of people on my list, and have never once questioned their "creepiness" (until now after reading your post, thanks hehehe)
  • Karabobarra
    Karabobarra Posts: 782 Member
    I have both male and female friends in my friends list, married and single, young and old...I have requested alot of my friends because they have similar goals and I feel I can benefit from their experience and knowledge, others I have requested because I have been where they are at and I feel I can help support them...some of my friends are just fun and I couldn't imagine how boring this would be without them...lol

    It's more about support, there are people on here for a variety of reasons, (bulild muscle, lose weight, overcome physical injuries, clean eating) it's beneficial to find people who have goals in the same areas because you can learn so much from them, but there are alot of great people on here that are just willing to support you just because they are great supporters..lol.

    If you still feel uncomfortable about it, only request to be friends with women that are out of state, it may give you a little bit of a security barrier. :)

    Hope this helps

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