Turning down invitations because of calories

pompeii79

Is it okay to turn down an invitation to drinks and dinner because you have too little calories to spare? I feel very guilty even though they say they understand.

debst24

salad, diet coke maybe

debjae

Do what is best for yourself!!

timvet

I do this all the time, or I meet them just for drinks later and have water or a diet coke. You have to take care of yourself!

MeMyCatsandI

salad, diet coke maybe

Agree. Or water/lemon. Whatever. There are plenty of ways you could go and stay within your calories.

ETA: BTW, yes, it's ok. But do you really want to turn down invitations over calories?

sweetsungirl

Go exercise & earn some more calories for the day?

BrianSharpe

Only if you don't trust yourself to exercise moderation.

For drinks you can keep a glass of sparkling water in hand (and any reasonable host would be prepared to accommodate a request like that) and keep your dinner portions on the smallish side.

Going over one on your calories one day doesn't make a great deal of difference in the grand scheme of things and, unless you're a hermit, a balanced life includes a certain amount of social interaction.

GCanha

I think you're setting yourself up for failure. Eating healthy is a lifestyle you have to adapt. to- and eating out is a part of how we socialize. By restricting yourself from joining activities- you're going to end up quitting faster than if you go out and make healthy food choices.

Yes, it's hard when everyone else is munching on buffalo chicken wings and downing margaritas...but hanging with friends is not about the food- it's about friendship.

I think you should go out- order a glass of wine (if you're old enough) and order a salad instead. You'll still have a great time- and your friends will end up being more supportive of your efforts- heck you might even be a good influence for them.

Idealy, try to plan ahead when you're going out so that you save your calories a bit better. Also, you can plan out where you're going and look at their mnu before you go so that you know what your getting before you get there.

Good luck!

Crochetluvr

I think you're setting yourself up for failure. Eating healthy is a lifestyle you have to adapt. to- and eating out is a part of how we socialize. By restricting yourself from joining activities- you're going to end up quitting faster than if you go out and make healthy food choices.

Yes, it's hard when everyone else is munching on buffalo chicken wings and downing margaritas...but hanging with friends is not about the food- it's about friendship.

I think you should go out- order a glass of wine (if you're old enough) and order a salad instead. You'll still have a great time- and your friends will end up being more supportive of your efforts- heck you might even be a good influence for them.

Idealy, try to plan ahead when you're going out so that you save your calories a bit better. Also, you can plan out where you're going and look at their mnu before you go so that you know what your getting before you get there.

Good luck!

^^^YES!!!

FabMrFox

I'd say just go out and enjoy yourself...life's to short to deny yourself experiences. you can do stuff at home later on to burn those calories off....just sayin

takingnameskickingbutt

I think it's ok. I turn down things all the time where I know I can't eat, and since I don't really drink, I don't like to be around drunk people.

bradphil87

I choose healthy options to eat, and I drive there and tell them that I don't want to drink and drive. Any friend would respect you choice to not endanger your life and the lives of others

DOElston

If you don't think you can attend without pigging out then staying home is the far better option. You have to put YOURSELF and YOUR needs as the priority until you know you can enjoy these functions and eat carefully.

guardian419

I'd go for the atmosphere, but if you can't stop yourself from eating it, then respectfully keep your distance, or agree to meet somewhere else after they've finished with their pizza and beer

mvl1014

It's okay, but you shouldn't. You don't want to feel alienated. You need support or you'll never succeed. So go fully satiated and enjoy yourself. Have water to drink or nurse a ginger ale.

Hayesgang

I think you're setting yourself up for failure. Eating healthy is a lifestyle you have to adapt. to- and eating out is a part of how we socialize. By restricting yourself from joining activities- you're going to end up quitting faster than if you go out and make healthy food choices.

^^THIS

MissyBenj

Is it okay to turn down an invitation to drinks and dinner because you have too little calories to spare? I feel very guilty even though they say they understand.

It's your life! However, don't forget that friends are important and you don't want to lose them because of your diet. If you have issues controlling yourself when eating out - then give it time. If your self control has been mastered order something healthy or eat before you go!

Gabriall

just go! like the above posters have said there are always ways and means, it's the company which should be norishing.

If you know you are going to a resturant, look up their menu's online before hand, a lot of them have the calories on their menus if not they have a nutritional guide and if not... shoot the company/resturant an email, if it is a large chain chances are they will have the values to hand just havent been brave enough to publish them yet. Then you can plan out a meal before you even get there! there are always options BTW... don't automatically go for the veggie option under the assumption it is lower in calories - it often isn't ouch to Nandos Halumi and Mushroom wrap!

likemeinvisible

I say eat today, starve tomorrow. Unless it's an everyday thing, I don't see why you should prevent yourself from the little joys of life. And like people said above, there's always a way to moderate things. Have fun.

bilberryjam

I think you're setting yourself up for failure. Eating healthy is a lifestyle you have to adapt. to- and eating out is a part of how we socialize. By restricting yourself from joining activities- you're going to end up quitting faster than if you go out and make healthy food choices.

Yes, it's hard when everyone else is munching on buffalo chicken wings and downing margaritas...but hanging with friends is not about the food- it's about friendship.

I think you should go out- order a glass of wine (if you're old enough) and order a salad instead. You'll still have a great time- and your friends will end up being more supportive of your efforts- heck you might even be a good influence for them.

Idealy, try to plan ahead when you're going out so that you save your calories a bit better. Also, you can plan out where you're going and look at their mnu before you go so that you know what your getting before you get there.

Good luck!

All of this.

If you still don't feel comfortable in a bar or restaurant, suggest doing something else - even going for a walk. You need to see friends and socialise. That's important for your emotional health, too.

pompeii79

We compromised! He didn't want the boneless skinless chicken I am having, so he's just going to come over for a movie and bring his own food. :-) Thanks y'all!