Kinda going through something - surviving a break-up?

Beatrix0810
Beatrix0810 Posts: 138
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From what I can gather depression always affects eating in one way or the other. Either you eat food to fill a void and comfort yourself, or the feeling of sadness is so intense it makes you feel sick to your stomach and all appetite goes right out the window.

In my case, when I'm sad, I can't eat (or sleep). This is becoming problematic because I am supposed to be training for a marathon. If you don't eat, you can't run. I have tried drinking more protein shakes throughout the day just because drinking isn't hard AT ALL. But what I'm realizing that I really need is to heal in order to be able to take care of my body again.

My boyfriend broke up with me and the reason isn't really important except to say that he realized he wasn't being a good bf to me, and started seeing a therapist. Through working with the therapist he realized he had a LOT of work to do on himself before he could really be in a relationship with anyone, and thus wasn't ready for a relationship that was getting as serious as ours was. Or so I'm told.

How did you all heal? What did you do to get back to your old selves? I don't need advice so much as stories. I need to know other people feel heart break, and I need to hear their stories of survival. It's been six days and I've dropped a TON of weight (not in the good way).

Thanks all.

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  • Sharon009
    Sharon009 Posts: 327 Member
    I kept a jar of peanut butter at my desk. I cant eat either when heartbroken so I would eat a tablespoon of natural peanut butter to get protein.
  • laurenz2501
    laurenz2501 Posts: 839 Member
    This has happened to me (and i'm sure many people) a number of times. The only thing I can tell you to do is to keep busy. I'm sure you've taken a much needed mental vacation (hopefully). So you got your "sit around the house and mope" time in, rightfully so. How long were you together for? When was the break up? Vent to friends, family, and do stuff for you. Buy some new clothes, go to a new restaurant with a friend or two. Do things you enjoy simply for you. A guy just stopped talking to me a few days ago. Out of the blue, no apparent or given reason. Told me a few "forgot my phone" lies at first and then stopped altogether. It's hard not knowing why exactly. Protein shakes are a great idea, or Ensure or Boost. Maybe eat small things like some fruit or toast or something. Hang in there. :heart:
  • Beatrix0810
    Beatrix0810 Posts: 138
    We were together for 1.5 years. We started the break up conversation on Wednesday, but didn't actually end it until Friday and then I spent the next few days in complete disrepair.

    Thanks for telling me your story. It really does help me, and Ensure and Boost are GREAT ideas. I need to go to the grocery store tonight. My ex used to do all the grocery shopping so that's something else I have to get used to. It's like every day I wake up and there's something else I didn't realize would ever be a big deal, but then it turns out to be yet ANOTHER stupid reason to miss him. I just want to fast-forward to 6 months from now when I'm completely better and totally over him...

    :cry:

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