Financially stressed out...

sammniamii

Not trying to be mean or pushy dear, but ANY job for now he should be looking for. Fast food, stocker @ supermarket, there are small minor PT jobs out there. Plus with the holiday's coming, he could pick up something seasonal at least. When I was doing college, I held down a FT & PT, plus somehow fit schooling in.

And I do feel for you, I'm the main bread winner and my job is thin now, my hubby has a job but it barely makes sure we eat between my pay covering everything else. I've had to tell him to go get ANY job, I don't care HOW much he hates it - do it. In fact, I'm seriously thinking of finding myself something - but I honestly worry that if I get a PT and get laid-off... I'll loose what unemployment befits I would normally receive.

Good luck hun, think about the future and don't let it get you too down.

MtnKat

Not sure I understand why you (the OP) cannot get a job either....


Women can work too....it shouldn't be just on him to get a job.

WalkingGirl1985

From what he tells me, he should be doing a internship very soon..could happen in 3-6 months. I do get on him, and yes all of you are right..I just don't want to stress him out by constantly nagging him all the time..despite that may help. He should be done by April/May. Hopefully offers from somewhere or someone will come through.

WalkingGirl1985

I have income on my end.

TylerJ76

did the OP ask for advice? i must have missed that.

Yes she did.
Yes you did.

quote that? because i read the post several times and didn't see it.

wait, whatever, never mind. i know better than to stick my foot in the forums any more, because i just don't have the patience.

"How is everyone doing or dealing?"

Maybe that's not asking for advice. *shrugs*

Not going to argue with ya.

Danielle_Star

It sounds like either he's stressed or you're stressed and you chose for you to be stressed. My boyfriend is a full time student with a part time job he's also going for the technology field. I am a full time employee and taking 9hrs which is more than part-time. He can do it! Ya'll can do it together. Don't be stressed work together and get his butt into gear he's a man isn't he?!?!

TexasTroy

Hey, it isnt easy to get a job...Ive been outta work for 4 months. Im either way to qualified or dont have a degree! even part time jobs at fast food places making minimum wage wont hire me. Its really pretty pathetic. I understand your situation all to well although I am single so its only me that is starving half the time. Makes it pretty hard to eat healthy. Its kinda funny actually- way back in the mid 80's when I first started working out, health food was cheap as hell cause not many were eating as healthy as they are now a days...today fast food is the cheap stuff and healthy stuff has risen in price times 10. Kinda sucks for people that really want to eat healthy but cant afford anything but Ramon Noodles.

kit8806

I'm a single mom with a 4 year old daughter. I work full time and have to put my daughter in day care. Day care cost alone is a whole separate rent payment for me! I don't qualify for any type of assistance as "I make too much money" so it's a constant struggle for me. Barely making ends meet. I don't want her to grow up too fast, but at the same time, I look forward to not having to pay for full daycare anymore! Finances are such a burden, and I don't have the extra money to take her out from time to time. I nickle and dime everything, and really, I try not to buy anything I don't NEED. You mentioned running shoes, last time I bought new sneakers for myself was a year and a half ago because I just can't do it, and until something changes, it'll just be taken 1 day at a time... you'll make it thru, we all will. One way or another. Just try and stay positive. Things tend to work themselves out.

30Purple

He could be a cashier, a bag boy or even work at Walmart stocking shelves... I worked 2 or sometimes 3 jobs at a time while going to school full time. There's no reason for him to not be working.

If he refuses to work out of laziness, maybe it's time to move on. You don't want to deal with that attitude of "I can't" the rest of your life.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Honestly, if you are living within your means and your fiance is actually looking for work and not acting above PT jobs in retail -- then yeah, it totally sucks.

Is there anything you can cut back on? Discount food stores around?

loserbaby84

I'm not married, no bf .. Just me and the two boys (furry ones with long whiskers/tails and four paws). I recently bought a condo and kicked my roomate idea to the curb after the stress I was under with him living with me. Now, desperate to support myself and lifestyle I've picked up a second job. It doesn't pay much but it helps!

My hours:

Mon - Fri wake up: 4:30am
half hour workout
half hour shower
dressed and out the door by 6am
at my day job by 6:30am
leave my day job by 3:30pm
at my night job by 4pm
leave my night job by 9:30-10pm (depending on the day - I have Tuesday's & Saturday's off the night job)

Saturdays are my busy days around the house for cleaning/shopping/me time

Sunday mornings I finish up anything I neglected to do Saturday

And it's off to start another week!! The first week I did this - I was tired, very tired! But, like all things you get into a routine I live the lifestyle I want and have the cash to support it. Maybe not as much free time but what did I do with it anyways?!

I probably didn't help much but this is how I get on, so I wanted you to know YOU'RE NEVER ALONE!! Chin up, money can be a stressful thing but love and happiness comes first. As long as you have those things, nothing can stop you.

Cheers!

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Not sure I understand why you (the OP) cannot get a job either....


Women can work too....it shouldn't be just on him to get a job.

Cause they have a single income and I am guessing she earns it.

vvanm

What would your fiance do to pay his expenses if you were not there? He should do that. There are work/study programs that help students on campus. My kid made 3K a year tutoring. Processed foods aren't necessarily the cheapest. Cooking and freezing food can work better and be better for you. Buying some bulk items at a store like Costco. I buy their rotisserie chickens for $5 ea., cut them up, put in freezer bags, and use for burritos, (beans are cheap), or as protein for any meal. Their turkey patties are also cheap and making burgers takes no time at all. Can you get your phones on a familyshare plan? If you have Cable they can give you intro rates or basic rates. I was paying $10. a mos. for cable for a year. Call every company you do business with and ask them what they can do for you. They don't want to lose customers. Good luck to you.

mdbs2004

You need to buy your boyfriend a pimp stick. Then you'll both be employed

WalkingGirl1985

I know. Your all right. I don't want judgements or have a heated topic. I wasn't asking for advice. I needed to vent. For those who did lend a ear out, thank you for support. As for him, he is looking, he is making the effort, he is anything BUT lazy if thats what your thinking..hes there, he is good to me, helps me out, even sold his cards/games to loosen the burden.

HotAshMess

The hardest thing IMO is when you're both trying, but feel like you're running on a treadmill....getting nowhere fast. It's rough. Been there recently, still pulling out of it. I was the only income for 2 months. Then unemployment kicked in (got one check), and bf got a new job and didn't get paid for 2 weeks (which unemployment doesn't cover because he is working, obviously)....all this after months of one income. Super sucked and had to find new ways to save. Hope you guys pull ahead soon. Just keep the pace and you'll catch up!

SashaMegan

I hope you will be better soon. I know how hard it is not to have money to finish the month decently.
Since you know that by the end of he month you need to buy processed food because it's cheaper, maybe you should buy some from time to time during the month ( i mean the same stuff you usually buy at the end of the month, but dispatched) so you don't feel disgusted by the end of the month. Try this until things get better and carry on! Things will get better eventually
As for the comments from other posters regarding a part-time job... working and studying isn't made for everyone - personnally I wouldn't had had my Master's degree if I had a job bc I wouldn't have had enough time to study properly- and I'm sure your fiance has already thought about a job. So he certainly knows what's best for him and both of you.

I wish you all the best and hope everything gets better in a year or so :flowerforyou:
Juste be patient! :flowerforyou:

WalkingGirl1985

I hope you will be better soon. I know how hard it is not to have money to finish the month decently.
Since you know that by the end of he month you need to buy processed food because it's cheaper, maybe you should buy some from time to time during the month ( i mean the same stuff you usually buy at the end of the month, but dispatched) so you don't feel disgusted by the end of the month. Try this until things get better and carry on! Things will get better eventually
As for the comments from other posters regarding a part-time job... working and studying isn't made for everyone - personnally I wouldn't had had my Master's degree if I had a job bc I wouldn't have had enough time to study properly- and I'm sure your fiance has already thought about a job. So he certainly knows what's best for him and both of you.

I wish you all the best and hope everything gets better in a year or so :flowerforyou:
Juste be patient! :flowerforyou:

Thank you. Well, if he has a year left, an offer should come soon..he has 2 semesters left. Very soon..and to all those idiot posters with those mean comments why dont you just grow up and stop trying to tear people down!

jharb2

Whose income do you live on? yours? If that's what you've agreed to then thats one thing. Who is qualifying for food stamps? Him? someone needs a part time job -or two or three. No excuse. Most students work a part time job or get a work scholarship from school or wait tables or something....

WalkingGirl1985

He was on food stamps but they cut students out because of some scam here in Michigan. Everybody has to suffer.

SashaMegan

Oh boy, I just went through the comments posted while I was writing my own...

All the posters thinking he's lazy or something, and showing off their pride for being able to work 2 or more part-time jobs whie studying, should cool down a bit.

Getting a job isn't easy. Working while studying is hard and sometimes people have to be smart about ther choices. During my studies I was really struggling moneywise, but didn't work during the semesters. Instead I worked like crazy during all the holidays and did internships at the same time, and never had vacation as a student. I don't regret the struggle, because I had great marks.

Plus, it's not like he isn't trying! So all the people who were able to study AND work congratulations because it's hard, but please don't get condescending with others... :flowerforyou:

drakechic08

Look for food banks in your local area. There are usually roaming food banks where you go to a church or something, wait in line for a while then get food. All you do is give them your name and the number of people in your household. They do not ask for any other information. My sister does this for my family and it has help relieve some of the financial burden that my mom has. The plus side is you almost always get some fresh fruit and veggies and when it is government week, you get meat also.