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RANT

Julie2402
Julie2402 Posts: 126
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
Hi, just need to have a moan, why do people add you as a friend and then never leave comments/support. I don't collect friends for the sake of it and always do my best to offer support. Rant over:((((
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  • RougeIllusion
    RougeIllusion Posts: 59 Member
    I hear ya....I literally have three people that comment...you can add me, I try to as supportive as I can
  • scarlet_1965
    scarlet_1965 Posts: 36 Member
    Gentle pruning never goes amiss - also works with 'friends' who hardly log in as well. Part of the magic of MFP is knowing there are others like you around the world all battling the same problems as you and getting new ideas/support from them.

    There .. nuf said Jul my MFP friend for over a year :0)
  • hunter624
    hunter624 Posts: 252
    Add me I comment all the time, but then my wife says I talk or is it type too much!

    :drinker:
  • mearlie
    mearlie Posts: 224
    I don't know how. I've got some friends added and I see posts from them but it only shows on my profile and I'm confused. I think I'm missing something.
  • hiker359
    hiker359 Posts: 577 Member
    Who cares? If they're not living up to your expectations, delete them.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Some people have 100-300 friends. There is no way they could be too supportive. Try to add friends with small FL. :flowerforyou:
  • ToughTulip
    ToughTulip Posts: 1,118 Member
    Who cares? If they're not living up to your expectations, delete them.

    This.

    Plus not everyone is on here all the time. I can't always comment since I work so much and am a full tine student. My friendsdon't mind
  • Sick_Beard
    Sick_Beard Posts: 407 Member
    Different timezones make it difficult for me but hey at least I try to keep everyone motivated =)
  • NWCyclingBeast
    NWCyclingBeast Posts: 157 Member
    I have a pretty good number of members in my MFP Army, I try to offer support, commentary, and a little laughter to all of them. If they are not actively participating/posting, they are gently processed out. FR me... I am always open to folks that need encouragement, and I will do my best to cheer them on!
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    you know there's that thing called a life some of us have
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    you know there's that thing called a life some of us have

    .... like ...who, exactly?

    :bigsmile:
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    you know there's that thing called a life some of us have

    .... like ...who, exactly?

    :bigsmile:

    :embarassed:

    ummmm well see uhhhh
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    you know there's that thing called a life some of us have

    no, i'm just a crappy friend. no life at all.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    You're wearing too many clothes.
  • halejr23
    halejr23 Posts: 294
    It could be different schedules as well. I try to comment when I can on FL workouts but I also know that some of my friends are on the other side of the world and are in bed or close to it when I am available.
  • stevewynjones
    stevewynjones Posts: 1,052 Member
    you know there's that thing called a life some of us have

    no, i'm just a crappy friend. no life at all.

    yeah..but your hot so thats ok ;)
  • OkieinMinny
    OkieinMinny Posts: 834 Member
    Who cares? If they're not living up to your expectations, delete them.

    ^^ This
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Wow. Kind of a waste of cyber space. Don't you think? Who cares?
  • LovelyLifter
    LovelyLifter Posts: 560 Member
    You're wearing too many clothes.

    speaking of which **looks at your profile pic**
  • legs_n_bacon
    legs_n_bacon Posts: 478 Member

    have a moan

    that means something entirely different to me.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Some people have 100-300 friends. There is no way they could be too supportive. Try to add friends with small FL. :flowerforyou:

    See I was gonna FR you...I can't now. I am definitely NOT supportive.
    (well unless you count a daily laugh that keeps you going a little longer)
    (or when you're down I tell you you have meaning)
    Other than that no I don't hold your hand and cheer over your exercise and diet.
    But you will check back on MFP, so to me that is motivation.
    Arrogance no just a fact.
  • miltongurl05
    miltongurl05 Posts: 64 Member
    Hi, just need to have a moan, why do people add you as a friend and then never leave comments/support. I don't collect friends for the sake of it and always do my best to offer support. Rant over:((((

    That upsets me as well! For awhile, it felt like I got very little support, but now I have some friends that are good about supporting and motivating me. I just deleted a few that only lurk. I'm always looking for friends that support and motivate so, anyone, please feel free to add me! I log on every day and I will leave supportive comments/messages for you! :smile:
  • janet6567
    janet6567 Posts: 129 Member
    I totally understand your frustration. I have recently returned to MFP after being absent for several months. Unfortunately, most of my supporters are no longer on MFP. I have had several people send me "friend invites" and then totally ignore my progress even though I make supportive comments. I've actually had a couple of these "new friends" make really critical comments about my diary. Constructive critisism is welcome, but put downs. . .seriously????
    I do not "collect friends" for status. I can certainly lose weight on my own, but I know from previous experience that three or four good supportive friends helps.
  • Pedal_Pusher
    Pedal_Pusher Posts: 1,166 Member
    easy. Delete em'
  • Jane61849
    Jane61849 Posts: 30 Member
    I'm newish, and I friended a few people. The posts that come across are things like, "so and so has logged in for x days in a row", or "so and so was under their calorie goal". When I posted that I was excited to be under 300 for the first time in years, no one responded. I felt gypped, and wondered why I had signed up to be friends with them. The logs are so cluttered with the nonsense, I can't see when someone actually writes a post.
  • Jess6385
    Jess6385 Posts: 60 Member
    I completely agree!! Feel free to add me!
  • kennethmgreen
    kennethmgreen Posts: 1,759 Member
    Hi, just need to have a moan, why do people add you as a friend and then never leave comments/support. I don't collect friends for the sake of it and always do my best to offer support. Rant over:((((
    Are you ranting or moaning?
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I'm a bad friend in that I don't often comment, but then, that's why I don't send requests out.
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    Some people have 100-300 friends. There is no way they could be too supportive. Try to add friends with small FL. :flowerforyou:

    See I was gonna FR you...I can't now. I am definitely NOT supportive.
    (well unless you count a daily laugh that keeps you going a little longer)
    (or when you're down I tell you you have meaning)
    Other than that no I don't hold your hand and cheer over your exercise and diet.
    But you will check back on MFP, so to me that is motivation.
    Arrogance no just a fact.

    Cliff - you're the only bright spot in my otherwise cloudy day. I come to MFP ONLY for you. and the other 110 friends i have.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Some people have 100-300 friends. There is no way they could be too supportive. Try to add friends with small FL. :flowerforyou:

    See I was gonna FR you...I can't now. I am definitely NOT supportive.
    (well unless you count a daily laugh that keeps you going a little longer)
    (or when you're down I tell you you have meaning)
    Other than that no I don't hold your hand and cheer over your exercise and diet.
    But you will check back on MFP, so to me that is motivation.
    Arrogance no just a fact.

    I'm kinda confused. Was that directed to me? I personally don't care how many friends MY friends have on their list. I was just giving OP a suggestion for HER situation. :flowerforyou:
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