Dealing with sadness

malicent

You don't need a doctor, you don't need no pills. You certainly don't need a psychiatrist! Go ahead, keep thinking like that. Listen to what these other clowns say cause it'll only bring you down. Even if you don't listen to me, just do what you want to do. I feel like your posting this thread is a way for you to ask permission and gain sympathy and approval to "take a break" AKA QUIT ON YOURSELF. And look at all these sheep, baa baa baa'ing back right at ya, telling you what you want to hear. If you really agree with them, wasting your money to go in for a check-up, to buy prescription medication, then more power to you. Unfortunately there's no easy button on weight loss and maintenance, and THERE'S DEFINITELY NO EASY BUTTON FOR LIFE!

ARGH.

MaraDiaz

That's good. I want a dog so bad; I need a jogging/walking partner!

Yeah take your time on the weights, sounds like you're doing well with it.

sadness & depression > self-pity & eating > gaining weight > more sadness & depression > struggling & frustration > gaining weight > loss of confidence and hope > obesity > death

sadness & depression > fear > anger > hate > suffering from insanity workout and/or p90x > boost of confidence & ambition > establishment of the galatic empire > construction of the death star > glory and fame > SITH LORD STATUS > SO MUCH WIN!


"I eat because I'm unhappy, and I'm unhappy because I eat" - Fat B@stard (Austin Powers)

One day your ambition and mine will clash, young Sith. But meanwhile, best read I've had all day! :drinker:

lyttlewon

You don't need a doctor, you don't need no pills. You certainly don't need a psychiatrist! Go ahead, keep thinking like that. Listen to what these other clowns say cause it'll only bring you down. Even if you don't listen to me, just do what you want to do. I feel like your posting this thread is a way for you to ask permission and gain sympathy and approval to "take a break" AKA QUIT ON YOURSELF. And look at all these sheep, baa baa baa'ing back right at ya, telling you what you want to hear. If you really agree with them, wasting your money to go in for a check-up, to buy prescription medication, then more power to you. Unfortunately there's no easy button on weight loss and maintenance, and THERE'S DEFINITELY NO EASY BUTTON FOR LIFE!

ARGH.

Just because you go to a doctor doesn't mean they are going to give you drugs. Give me a break.

cookn_mama

I really think it's worth talking to a doctor. I have been through this myself and tried to just power through and it got worse. I finally went to the doc who prescribed low dose anti-depressants. Within a month I was better than I had been in years. I have motivation, want to exercise, have lost 21lb, my personality has come back.

I hadn't even realised how much I had stopped trying and caring about myself until the meds kicked in.

It may not be the right solution for you but if not they will at least be able to give you some advice about other options.

Totally agree. Didn't care if I wrapped my car around a tree on bad days. Talk to a doctor you can trust. Be honest!!! Fluoxetine worked for me.

Shannon2714

I understand this quite well. Unfortunately, I am an emotional eater....it's how I got the way I am right now. One thing I have learned is that the healthier I am, the better I feel and the better I deal with the negative stuff. Feeling bad physically, being fat, eating junk, etc all made me feel even worse on top of the pain and depression.

I know that it's hard to focus on weight loss when you're down, but even if you just make small changes you'll make a huge difference...

Good luck and I hope you begin feeling better....feel free to PM me if you ever need someone to talk to.

lowpingboy

To everything, turn, turn, turn. There is a season, turn, turn, turn. Etc. Allow yourself to feel sadness but take care to not be consumed by it.

Eat some strawberries. They always make me feel better.

miss_grad

I can relate to this.

My mom passed Nov 22, 2007... So this time of year is always a struggle. Especially with holidays. It's not the same anymore.

Itsme_Mary

To everything, turn, turn, turn. There is a season, turn, turn, turn. Etc. Allow yourself to feel sadness but take care to not be consumed by it.

Eat some strawberries. They always make me feel better.

You are to funny..

refinley2

write it down, find people, and take long walks

babeinthemoon

I've been there. Right now the only thing in my life that I can control is the # of calories I eat, and the amount I exercise. So, for now, that's what I am doing.

malicent

You don't need a doctor, you don't need no pills. You certainly don't need a psychiatrist! Go ahead, keep thinking like that. Listen to what these other clowns say cause it'll only bring you down. Even if you don't listen to me, just do what you want to do. I feel like your posting this thread is a way for you to ask permission and gain sympathy and approval to "take a break" AKA QUIT ON YOURSELF. And look at all these sheep, baa baa baa'ing back right at ya, telling you what you want to hear. If you really agree with them, wasting your money to go in for a check-up, to buy prescription medication, then more power to you. Unfortunately there's no easy button on weight loss and maintenance, and THERE'S DEFINITELY NO EASY BUTTON FOR LIFE!

ARGH.

Just because you go to a doctor doesn't mean they are going to give you drugs. Give me a break.

True, but that's beside my point. What I'm trying to assert is, there's a reason for her unhappiness. The factors are coming from the outside, not within. I believe that there are still so many options and alternatives out there, other than seeing a doctor being the only opportunity for her. I really don't want her to go down that road, because that in itself (I believe, you guys may not) is like admitting a defeat right there.

Improve the diet, do some exercise, all that spiritual junk whatever floats your boat. Get out and try something. Drink tea and listen to soothing music. Sing or play an instrument if you know how, or maybe take up learning how to. Read, read, read. There's plenty of inspirational novels to choose from, and self-help books. Join a club. This site is like a club. Try, try, and try again. The key is a strong drive and persistence. Only you can truly pick yourself back up. Exhaust all the possibilities. Seeing a doctor should be your last resort.

I'm trying to be practical about it. Save some money, because more likely than not, the doctor will either just say she's not clinically 'depressed' unless she exaggerates her symptoms, or prescribe meds. Not every doctor is the same but more likely than not that'll be the case. If she gets referred to a counselor or therapist, that's even more money out of her wallet. All it takes is a little initiative and creativity.

Success does not always equal happiness.
But happiness definitely equals success.

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MissMormie

@Malicent I'm guessing you've never gone through anything like this. That's great for you. And yes it sounds so easy to just get up do stuff, make yourself better. But it doesn't always work like that.

For me asking for help from a doctor should never be the last resort, because with most things the longer you wait the worse it'll get. If you seriously hurt your leg you'll go see a doctor, and if you seriously hurt your mind I strongly recommend going to a doctor as well. If only because he is an outside person that you can talk to without having to worry about what your friends are going to think.

jesz124

You don't need a doctor, you don't need no pills. You certainly don't need a psychiatrist! Go ahead, keep thinking like that. Listen to what these other clowns say cause it'll only bring you down. Even if you don't listen to me, just do what you want to do. I feel like your posting this thread is a way for you to ask permission and gain sympathy and approval to "take a break" AKA QUIT ON YOURSELF. And look at all these sheep, baa baa baa'ing back right at ya, telling you what you want to hear. If you really agree with them, wasting your money to go in for a check-up, to buy prescription medication, then more power to you. Unfortunately there's no easy button on weight loss and maintenance, and THERE'S DEFINITELY NO EASY BUTTON FOR LIFE!

ARGH.

Have you ever actually suffered from depression?

Kookyk9s

And how would those you have lost like for you to carry on? Or would they like for you to quit? Be good to yourself in memory of those who believed in you and trusted that you would do the right thing. Love is the only thing in this whole world that matters in the long haul - and this includes loving yourself enough so that you can be of service to those you love.

Sorry to hear about your pain but I know that you are big enough and brave enough to carry on. A little slower, maybe, for a while, but you will carry on successfully.