so close to giving up :'(

BamsieEkhaya

this may sound completely crazy but I'm so close to nearly giving up, and I haven't even gotten any where yet , I know I won't and shouldn't but this "lifestyle change" is driving me crazy...all i think about is food
- what should i have
-what can i have
-what am i having
- what happens if its something so tempting etc
- Hmm what should i have tomorrow
- remember to drink water etc

then I've also got to worry about these exams exams exams...I literally can not fail I NEED As...yes i have a back up plan to life but arghhh

its winter...its cold and raining (but these are just excuses- NO excuse october!!) , i want that Hershey's bar so damn bad but I know it's not worth it and I NEED TO DO THIS, but eurgh I feel down a lot !! yeah I'm probably PMSing

I don't even want a Maccy D's or KFC ...I don't know what I want ...this could be coffee withdrawal ... I am so tired of lettuce and cucumbers !!


arghhhhhhhhhhh sorry for the rant

damn you stress

mom060812

Breath!!!! Dont give up. You joined mfp for a reason, remember that reason! This is a one day at a time journey. There will be days we feel like giving up, but try to remember the big picture. This will get easier for us!!! Feel free to add me as a friend if you want. I would be more than happy to help encourage you

ShallaLovee

Aww, calm down. Take deep breathes. And if you can't give up certain things right now just eat it in moderation. Depriving yourself of things might not be the best thing right now. This is a lifestyle change so your constantly going to be changing things. One day you might want chocolate and eat some and then the next day you don't. It's so many things out there that is delicious, low in calories and could be right for you. It's just finding it and finding what works for you. Cutting out things that you love out of your life so quickly your body is like what? Where is it? What is she doing to me? It's all very new. It's a lot of people who eat whatever they want when they want and still lose weight. Why? Because they do it in moderation. It's all about what works for you. You know your body better than anyone else. Don't give up, I know its very frustrating but we all have our highs and lows that's a part of the journey. You can make it through this you have to believe that.

NyimaR

I'd say you need to eat a little more when you're doing so much exercise! You've got 1000 more calories if your diary is up to date. If you use up some of them you'll probably feel a little less worn down. Also, it might be worth upping your calories by a couple of hundred while you're worrying about exams - the brain needs energy too and it might bring you a little less stress. Stress is the enemy of both weight loss and exam success, so take a few deep breaths and don't be so hard on yourself for a little while

NewMeAT33

Eat the Hershey's bar... just add it to the journal.
Too many changes at one time will do this.

I had pizza for lunch and BK for dinner on Friday. As long as it is a treat and accounted for, you should be fine.
Hang in there.

avir8

AWW sweety you're being too hard on yourself, take it one day at a time because giving up will make you feel 100X worse than messing up on day or 1 meal and starting over. School is stressful enough without giving yourself more to worry about. Eat a cupcake, then eat a healthy dinner, it won't hurt you. Feel Better

Zylahe

you dont need to get the whole new healthy lifestyle thing perfect the first time. As long as you learn something each tome it doesn't work. That way the more you fail, t he more you learn.

If its cold and miserable makesome ocernight oats ( i heat mine up in the morning) that way you've got something warm and filling to start the day.

BamsieEkhaya

Hey...thank you so much for your support ...sorry for the slight breakdown

went on a park walk to clear my head, got 15minutes into it when I realised its dark and after this weeks events I really shouldn't be walking alone so run back to my Hershey's bar and cuppa

and I know its not going to be easy, and not everyday is going to be fantastic, but thanks for reminding me to keep calm and breathe !really really appreciated x x

OliveCarsey

Have the darn hershey bar- i do when i want one. If you deprive yourself of something you want you will only crave it more- so give in, but maybe only eat half of it? I buy the snack size bars and have them if I am craving chocolate. Don't worry about what you are going to have tomorrow- tomorrow will be here soon enough. Change things slowly- drink 1 more cup of water one day than normal and a few days later add another extra cup in- if you aren't a big water drinker normally take it slow. As for food- eat whatever you want, just in moderation- if you don't know what a portion size is google it and if you can buy a food scale. I was shocked at how many servings of some foods I was eating in one sitting. you can do this- you took the hardest step just starting. As for PMS she is a horrible horrible monster lol- I am dealing with her now also. One thing I do is put all my goodies in a plastic bin in the garage so I actually have to work to get them, if its not worth the extra work I don't want it that bad.

Roachimumpty

I know how you feel, im totally sick of salad lol. But treating yourself once in awhile, won't hurt! Just go for a walk afterwards and make sure you eat healthy the rest of the day

GCLyds

Treat yo self!

(I love that episode of parks and rec. hehe.)

jagnal

Girrrrrrl don't give up you can do it!!!!! I'm on my 3rd week and I'm putting my mind to it. All I think of is the main reason and that is my kids, being healthy for them! Think of one reason why you want to do this. Health, kids or yourself! You deserve this!! Eat that candy and don't deprive yourself or else you will go crazy. One step at a time is what it takes. Log everything you eat it really opens your eyes when you do. Hang in there and good luck!

kiachu

this may sound completely crazy but I'm so close to nearly giving up, and I haven't even gotten any where yet , I know I won't and shouldn't but this "lifestyle change" is driving me crazy...all i think about is food
- what should i have
-what can i have
-what am i having
- what happens if its something so tempting etc
- Hmm what should i have tomorrow
- remember to drink water etc

then I've also got to worry about these exams exams exams...I literally can not fail I NEED As...yes i have a back up plan to life but arghhh

its winter...its cold and raining (but these are just excuses- NO excuse october!!) , i want that Hershey's bar so damn bad but I know it's not worth it and I NEED TO DO THIS, but eurgh I feel down a lot !! yeah I'm probably PMSing

I don't even want a Maccy D's or KFC ...I don't know what I want ...this could be coffee withdrawal ... I am so tired of lettuce and cucumbers !!


arghhhhhhhhhhh sorry for the rant

damn you stress

I looked at your diary....boring and only 940 calories to boot. Are you a vegetarian or something? Why are you only eating salad and cucumbers and tuna?

StinkyWinkies

I read diary, seems to me you can "afford" t0 eat that Hershey Bar...unless you've not logged calories you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaay under on a couple of days. Add protein and carbs, too.

Thin1979

Just remember the only thing we can control is ourself. Not school, traffic, relationships etc...be good to yourself.

BamsieEkhaya

this may sound completely crazy but I'm so close to nearly giving up, and I haven't even gotten any where yet , I know I won't and shouldn't but this "lifestyle change" is driving me crazy...all i think about is food
- what should i have
-what can i have
-what am i having
- what happens if its something so tempting etc
- Hmm what should i have tomorrow
- remember to drink water etc

then I've also got to worry about these exams exams exams...I literally can not fail I NEED As...yes i have a back up plan to life but arghhh

its winter...its cold and raining (but these are just excuses- NO excuse october!!) , i want that Hershey's bar so damn bad but I know it's not worth it and I NEED TO DO THIS, but eurgh I feel down a lot !! yeah I'm probably PMSing

I don't even want a Maccy D's or KFC ...I don't know what I want ...this could be coffee withdrawal ... I am so tired of lettuce and cucumbers !!


arghhhhhhhhhhh sorry for the rant

damn you stress

I looked at your diary....boring and only 940 calories to boot. Are you a vegetarian or something? Why are you only eating salad and cucumbers and tuna?

yeah having a pescatarian october and unfortunately REALLY out of ideas!!

I read diary, seems to me you can "afford" t0 eat that Hershey Bar...unless you've not logged calories you are waaaaaaaaaaaaaay under on a couple of days. Add protein and carbs, too.

I'm struggle to juggling/add proteins and carbs into this !

BelindaDuvessa

http://www.dailyspark.com/blog.asp?post=39_meatfree_recipes_for_world_vegetarian_day

Here, some Vegetarian meals to perk up your diet. There's 39 of them. Look through it and see if you find anything you like. Also, they have a cute little e-book that might interest you for less than $5.

Owsla135

You can't quit!! I love reading your posts and having you as a friend! Very selfish, I know, but trueeeeeeee!!!!

2essie

When things get tough just ask yourself " How do I eat an elephant?"

The answer...... One bite at a time.

This applies to lots of things in life. Don't give up and good luck with the exams too.

mcfc4tony

this may sound completely crazy but I'm so close to nearly giving up, and I haven't even gotten any where yet , I know I won't and shouldn't but this "lifestyle change" is driving me crazy...all i think about is food
- what should i have
-what can i have
-what am i having
- what happens if its something so tempting etc
- Hmm what should i have tomorrow
- remember to drink water etc

then I've also got to worry about these exams exams exams...I literally can not fail I NEED As...yes i have a back up plan to life but arghhh

its winter...its cold and raining (but these are just excuses- NO excuse october!!) , i want that Hershey's bar so damn bad but I know it's not worth it and I NEED TO DO THIS, but eurgh I feel down a lot !! yeah I'm probably PMSing

I don't even want a Maccy D's or KFC ...I don't know what I want ...this could be coffee withdrawal ... I am so tired of lettuce and cucumbers !!


arghhhhhhhhhhh sorry for the rant

damn you stress

Here's what I think. You are treating your life like the 100mts races when it’s more like a marathon. Don’t try and do everything today. You say that you have exams that “I literally cannot fail”. At this moment that needs to be what you need to put your energy in to. You have to stop thinking of this as a diet, a quick fix that will get you to a winning line. This is about the rest of your life. So if you need to ease back on the exercising then do it, if you want the occasional teat to get you through these exams then do it. Once you have done the exams and passed then you will have the time and energy to do more. There are only so many hours in a day and you cannot be in two places at once, and neither can you head. Cut yourself some slack. Sit down and ask yourself where you want to be next year. If it’s with these exams slam dunked and a few pound lighter then you know what to do. If you stress about everything, nothing will get done and you will end up turning in on yourself (I know I have been there). Take a deep breath and count to ten. Then move on with your life. If you give up, you are giving up on tomorrow and what that can bring. Keep on coming on here and chill with your friends and remember if it was so easy we all would have done it years ago. Good luck!:flowerforyou:

meshashesha2012

what stuff did you eat before? why not just eat that stuff but make it healthy?

and yeah with 940 calories you're setting yourself up for failure. sorry but there's no way you can approach this as lifestyle change and only eat that little food. that's got yoyo diet mentality written all over it

aneikaa

https://www.facebook.com/tipsforahealtybody?ref=ts&fref=ts

try and think about how good it wil feel and how good you wil look when you have lost the weight

PJ_73

I had one of those days yesterday, lovely.......so I get you!

The scales weren't moving, my passion for exercise had waned, I was making bad food choices and generally felt very low and miserable. I had a moan and a groan, some great MFPs assured and reassured me and gave some good advice and a bit of a boot up the backside and I picked myself up.

I will do this, I need to do this, I want to do this!

So will you! A day at a time....

75in2013

Very often you DON'T EAT ENOUGH.

Try to meet your food goal. Eating too little is as bad as eating too much. I have set my goal to a 500kcal deficit. If I eat 100kcal over my goal I steal ate 400kcal less than I need. And I will lose weight. Maybe at a slower pace but I'll get there. Like somebody said: it's a marathon not a sprint!

"Constant dripping hollows out a stone."

If you want coffee, drink coffee. Just don't add milk/sugar.

Eat what you like to eat. If you're bored of cucumber/lettuce eat something else. Why eat something that you don't like / bores you? That will set you up for failure.

Now focus on your exams!

You can do it!

You look cute already. You'll look awesome when you finish! Good luck

bufger

I often have little bits of chocolate! there are some great mini chocolate bars that are only 100 calories or so and if you eat them slowly and really enjoy the flavour its much better than any chocolate experience you had before! just factor in a mini choccy bar on your workout days and you wont feel guilty

LivingInPuglia

Some great advice in all the posts here ...... don't give up!

BamsieEkhaya

Very often you DON'T EAT ENOUGH.


If you want coffee, drink coffee. Just don't add milk/sugar.

Eat what you like to eat. If you're bored of cucumber/lettuce eat something else. Why eat something that you don't like / bores you? That will set you up for failure.

Now focus on your exams!

You can do it!

You look cute already. You'll look awesome when you finish! Good luck

haha thank you, I think normally i eat quiet alright, I just had an awful week last week where I'd eat loads on one day then friday I was at a party with a bottle of malibu /rum punch and vodka, so the scale was a no-no this weekend...
I can't always control whats on my plate because I go to boarding school (the 6th form part!) I don't always board so at home its easy to eat what I want but be healthy about it but its days I can't do that, that I'm left with lettuce and cucumbers !

Kimjanebrooks

Sounds to me that you are getting bored and feel restricted with what you feel you can eat. I'm not very good with working out what I feel i can and cant have so I look at all my friends diaries and see what they are eating. Today I have something I've never tried before for my lunch at work and I'm quite excited about it! lol

kiachu

Imo if yout going to eat fish you might as well eat some chicken and beef, at least chocken, even from a moral standpoint. I think because your in boarding school you need eat to maximize your nutritional needs with what they have until you have full control over what you eat. Or stop "dieting" eat food, enjoy life and get more physically active.

I mean do they not serve any other type of veggies? Rice? potatoes? Anyothet fish???

75in2013

haha thank you, I think normally i eat quiet alright, I just had an awful week last week where I'd eat loads on one day then friday I was at a party with a bottle of malibu /rum punch and vodka, so the scale was a no-no this weekend...

Not sure if I understand you correct. (English is my 3rd language)

I would try to hit my goal on a day to day basis. Basically looking at a day as an isolated event. If you missed one day and ate too much (or drank) then I would not try to compensate by eating less the following days! I have seen several examples where people could not lose weight because their body adjusted to "starving days" and "binge days".

If you have too much one day. Forget it. And treat the next day as if nothing happened. Just don't let this happen too often.

I can't always control whats on my plate because I go to boarding school (the 6th form part!) I don't always board so at home its easy to eat what I want but be healthy about it but its days I can't do that, that I'm left with lettuce and cucumbers !

I don't know how boarding school works. And I don't know how much money you have. If you have the chance buy yourself a blender, milk, a good protein powder, banana and (if you have a freezer) frozen berries. This way you can easily make a shake whenever you don't feel like eating the stuff they offer you.

We have a 3yr old at home. And it makes it so much easier in the morning when i don't have to worry about my breakfast. I just make the shake and drink it when I've time. It has 300-400kcal dending on how I make it and it keeps me satisfied until lunch. Plus it tastes like chocolate-banana-strawberry

Btw. If you are like me and you need food (=chocolate) when you're stressed (=exams). Then I think it's a better idea to eat the chocolate, put it in your diary (accountability) and feel better. You can just do an extra 30min/60min cardio in the evening. And that you can do anywhere, boarding school, home, indoor, outdoor, with/without equipment.
I'd rather eat over my goal, feel better and get it back with a nice workout than starve myself and feel miserable.

BamsieEkhaya

Imo if yout going to eat fish you might as well eat some chicken and beef, at least chocken, even from a moral standpoint. I think because your in boarding school you need eat to maximize your nutritional needs with what they have until you have full control over what you eat. Or stop "dieting" eat food, enjoy life and get more physically active.

I mean do they not serve any other type of veggies? Rice? potatoes? Anyothet fish???

It's not really a moral thing I normally eat other meats etc, but I think I eat too much meat, and just want to try something new...however doing it in school can be a bit of a problem, take todays lunch a veggie wrap or piri piri chicken, so veggie wrap it was
but, it mainly consisted of mushrooms and courgettes and therefore I ended up having a salad, with an empty wrap.

And I don't know how much money you have. If you have the chance buy yourself a blender, milk, a good protein powder, banana and (if you have a freezer) frozen berries. This way you can easily make a shake whenever you don't feel like eating the stuff they offer you.

^^ that is a brill idea thank you x