would you date someone with no lisence?

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  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    Why does everyone in the world have to drive? Maybe they lost their license and decided they were better off without it?
    I've never driven and don't intend to.
  • hcoburn37
    hcoburn37 Posts: 442 Member
    did you see this on a POF profile? I did ...
  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I dated someone who lost theirs from drink driving. It wasn't a deal breaker, lots of people either don't drive or don't have a car. It doesn't make them any less of a person. I don't condone drink driving & in hindsight that guy was a big douche but people lose their license from speeding, running red lights, not paying fines - it happens & unless the guy/gal is a douche then it shouldn't matter.

    :smile:
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Ok, just wondering, if you met someone that was awesome but had no license** from a mistake made years ago, would you be able to date them if everything else in their life was right on track?

    **Spelling the word license wrong probably did not help my case. **runs and hides**

    For someone to not have a license due to an infraction from years ago is worrying. It would have to be something pretty bad (if you said what, sorry. I haven't read through the thread).

    Just not having ever gotten one, though, isn't a deal breaker. Two of my friends married men who didn't drive and they are both really amazing men. They have since gotten their licenses, though.

    And if you live somewhere like NYC or Boston, it matters even less because most people don't drive much, if at all, in those cities.
  • KrisyKat
    KrisyKat Posts: 740 Member
    But, of course.

    Wait...does he have a library card? THAT's the deal breaker!
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    i've always lived in big cities and always will. i'd sooner date someone with no license than some hick from a small town who'd never left that small town.

    and yep i'm a cosmosnobitan and damn proud of it.
  • SomeoneSomeplace
    SomeoneSomeplace Posts: 1,094 Member
    I live in Boston so half the people I know don't have a license and I'm talking people in their' mid to late twenties. There no reason to have a car here, the traffic is awful, there's NO WHERE TO PARK EVER & the T can get you basically anywhere...so yes I certainly would but I'd think it was weird if a yuppie didn't have a license because like why wouldn't they when they can't really get around any other way?
  • mukamom
    mukamom Posts: 207 Member
    Been there. Done that. Not going there again. Ever. Pick a man with a job, a car, (a license), and treats his mother with respect. For starters...

    THIS^^^^^^^ Never, never again
  • Contrarian
    Contrarian Posts: 8,138 Member
    Yes. Who cares if someone doesn't drive? I honestly find this to be a weird question.
  • blacklaceroses
    blacklaceroses Posts: 48 Member
    uh yeah it matters. Im southern and old fashion you need to pick me up and not on a bike........................ :laugh:
  • lbmore33
    lbmore33 Posts: 1,013 Member
    my SO doesnt drive...it is a pain in the a$%@# every time... but we've been together for over 24yrs (all these yr...i still cant stand it) if ur wondering why...let me know when you find out lol
  • jjscholar
    jjscholar Posts: 413 Member
    The answer to that question would depend upon what part of the world you live in...

    In Cocoa, Florida where I live, the answer for most people would be no because being able to drive is necessary for daily survival.

    However, in some larger cities in the US the answer would be yes because they have mass transit systems.

    As far as I am concern, it does not matter to me... As long as she is a good person, petty stuff like that should not matter. But, that is my opinion.
  • TexasHeather
    TexasHeather Posts: 2
    No and it doesnt sound like they really have there life together if that person can't even get a license.
  • saschka7
    saschka7 Posts: 577 Member
    I broke up with my last boyfriend because he lost his license and he refused to take action to get it reinstated. There's losing your license (which isn't enough in itself to break up with someone with) and then there's losing your license, your *kitten*, your will to live and everything else because you refuse to take any action whatsoever and just sit there and let life run you over, which is what he did.

    So, I guess for me the answer is 'no'. But even before him, I said I wouldn't date a guy who didn't drive--unless he lived in Manhattan, London or Paris and simply didn't need to.

    Some might say I'm judgmental, but where I'm from a man without a car is emasculated and no man at all. I've had guy friends who didn't drive and I loved them dearly, but I'm not going to attach myself romantically, physically and emotionally to a man with no drive--literally.
  • MMarvelous
    MMarvelous Posts: 1,067 Member
    It would matter to me b/c being in a rural area, the time and distance to drive to pick someone up, go out, drop them off and then go home gets OLD VERY QUICKLY. I have done it before.
  • TinGirl314
    TinGirl314 Posts: 430 Member
    Having a partner who drives is important depending on where you live. My life used to consist at getting up at 6 am, to drive my boyfriend to work, going home working 11-7 myself, picking him up on my lunch break, running home, running back to work and getting home at midnight.

    That is not fair.

    I also had to go to the hospital and had to wait over two hours for his mother to pick me up and bring me to the hospital because I had pancreantitis. (We DID live in BFE)

    It might not seem like a big deal, but it is. : /
  • ZugTheMegasaurus
    ZugTheMegasaurus Posts: 801 Member
    I'm actually a law clerk at an organization that helps former criminals get their licenses reinstated (along with other reentry issues). The mere fact that someone has had their license revoked is really meaningless. In the state of New Jersey, there are over three hundred ways to lose your license, and it's a real pain in the *kitten* to get it back even if you're eligible.

    Find out why it happened. If that reason is a dealbreaker for you, then fine. But it seems kind of shallow and stupid for just not having a license to be the entire reason you won't date the person.
  • Hearts_2015
    Hearts_2015 Posts: 12,032 Member
    Does he have his learners permit yet?:tongue:


    Personally I'd be concerned if someone had received enough DWI's to have lost it, one is too many. Driving while under the influence takes too many lives and I personally would NOT be interested in spending time with someone careless enough and uncaring enough to put others in such danger.

    Curious you bring this up on the forum, are you more concerned what others would think about him no longer able to have a license? Because how you feel about this situation would be far more important than what any of the rest of us think.

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