To wear or not to wear?!

JustPeachy044

I had a co-worker give me a shopping bag full of clothes. They are almost all size 8 and I just tried them all, with one exception everything fits! yeah. Anyway, she has been trying to have a baby and is going through all kinds of h*ll in the process. The meds and stress have contributed to a weight gain (which while I can't relate I can empathize with). So, on one hand, I am concerned if I show up at work in these clothes that she will feel that much worse--seeing me in clothes that are too small for her that she used to be able to wear. On the other hand, much of what I have is so big on me that it is depressing to put my own clothes on. I find myself thinking "she gave you the clothes, they are DRESS clothes, she probably expects you to wear them, just wear the darn things." What do you think? Wear them or not?

acrynne

I would wear them.

godblessourhome

i agree. she gave them to you to wear. if she wasn't prepared to see them on you, she wouldn't have given them away.

eandrsmom

I would say wear them. Sending good thoughts her way!

MinMin97

Make use of them, for sure.

Roboartist

Wear them, add your personal touches and hope for the best. Kudos to you for being so sensitive to your co-worker's feelings, I think that is great!

Hobb3s

Wear them, then make a point to thank her and ask her opinion on how she thinks they look.

caldon4523

I think it would be like the scene where two people enter the same room wearing the same clothes. I recommend not wearing them at work or where she may be. If you decide to wear them, I also second the idea of adding your own accessories.

yourenotmine

She'll probably feel good that they're being used.

roberts1013

Wear them. I am sure she gave them to you because she could see yours were no longer fitting well and knew you needed them. If she didnt want you to wear them she would have kept them. If you dont wear them she might be offended and think you didnt like any of them.

caldon4523

I think it would be like the scene where two people enter the same room wearing the same clothes. I recommend not wearing them at work or where she may be. If you decide to wear them, I also second the idea of adding your own accessories.

sarahg148

Definitely wear them. I don't think she'd want them to go to waste.

ashlbubba

I'd say wear them- if there was signature looks she always wore try not to duplicate them.. Pants are pants they look the same-- maybe you could spoil yourself with a few new tops to throw in to the mix!!

nbeth901

I would wear them. It may be a bit awkward for the lady who gave it to you. I once gave a bunch of my clothes away and the next time I saw a friend wear them I though "Hey that shirt and pants looks familiar" It was me forgetting I had given them to her. LOL

Ready2Rock206

I'd wear them - she did give them to you after all, it's not like you went and bought all her old clothes from Goodwill or something. If she didn't want to see you in them she wouldn't have given them to you.

spangey13

I say wear them. Accessorise a little if you want to mix it up.

I gave some stuff (some even brand new with tags on) to a co-worker once. She didn't wear them, didn't have the decency to give them back. Didn't offer any explanation. I couldn't have given a toss if she had said "hey actually these look a little weird on my shape" and given them to someone else...I was a little miffed. Slightly offended.

It is like they just disappeared.

mamagooskie

I would wear them

mollyonamission

Wear

JustPeachy044

Thanks all. I think I will wear them.

gaylynn35

Wear them and have fun with new clothes, well new to you.

Mrsmartin61

Wear them. Also offer her a "thank you" gift and note...thanking her and letting her know you appreciate the thoughtful gesture.

bemott

I actually think it will cheer her up to see you in them. It's a great compliment to her fashion sense.

happypath101

I'm so glad I saw this forum because I had EXACTLY the same thing happen for me. And my co-worker gave me her clothes for exactly the same reason. We work on opposite ends of the office on different projects, so I had no dilemna, I just started wearing her clothes to the office. But, ocassionally, we will bump into each other in the hall or lunchroom.

Every time she sees me in her clothes, she says something nice. I think it makes her happy to see them being used (for all the reasons you mentioned). The only exceptions have been a couple of ocassions where she commented that she wished she could still wear something I had on - but even then it wasn't a big deal. I told her I'll give them back when she's ready. :OD

HealthyAlison

Definitely wear them. : )

cmeade20

Wear them. She knows they're too small. And if you don't she might think you think her taste is ugly.

k011185

I would wear them and pay careful attention to how she reacts, chances are she will be happy to see them being put to god use instead of sitting in a closet.
I know this is a totally different circumstance, but we gave my mother's clothing away to 2 ladies we knew could use them when she passed away in June. As happy as it makes me to know they are getting well used, every time I see one of these women wearing something, it's like getting a punch in the gut.
Obviously, different circumstances, but sometimes we have more of an emotional connection to inanimate things than we realize.

happypath101

BTW: My friend is having her second baby at the end of this month. Believe you me, she's happier about that than about any clothing purchase. :O)

da1128

I say wear the clothes. Both she and you will probably feel good about it!