How/When, if ever to tell someone he/she is obese.

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  • flobeedoodle
    flobeedoodle Posts: 176 Member
    KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! Everyone has to decide for him/herself when it's time to make a change. Take care of your business. Unless the person is blind, they know know they have a weight problem. The person may be dealing with deeper issues and don't need your opinion or observation.

    If a person goes to a gym, at least the person is trying. Who made you God?

    So retired Mom, your good old friend is doing coke and drinking 9 beers a day. Now what?
    Crack a tube and ask 'em to cut me a line?

    Serious answer: It has been my experience that self-destructive behaviors are a symptom of other problems. I think that trying to figure out why someone hates his/her life so much that they need beer/coke/cookies to cope with the unceasing nightmare that is his/her life will probably be more fruitful than adding to his/her pain with judgment and reminders that even people who "love" him/her are a source of more pain, instead of a source of comfort.
  • brittanyscherich
    brittanyscherich Posts: 355 Member
    I think you have to be fairly close to them, and I wouldn't come right out and say it. Maybe ask the guy something like,"Oh, those kids probably keep you pretty busy. I imagine you're running around with them all the time." Or maybe go out to lunch with them and order some salad. Or ask them to go on a walk with you... just to get them thinking, and kind of indirectly approach the topic. If someone, even my mother, called me obese I'd go home and dig into a pint of ice cream lol. It's such a sensitive topic, and you never know how the person is going to take it. I'd say never say it outright, just to avoid hurting their feelings.. and your relationship with them.

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