Im 299 and I need HELP!
NurseandMom1981
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So yesterday I weighed in at 299 my heaviest weight ever. I have tried dieting and just never stick with it. To tell you a little about myself Im 30 yr old single mom to the three boys 12,4,2. I am a nurse full time and one of my sons has kidney disease. I have let these become my excuses for not losing the weight. So Im asking for help. I need someone to hold me accountable and not afraid to call me out if needed. My life with my kids depends on me losing this weight and its time to make a change.
I look forward to getting to know each of you please feel free to add me,
Jennifer
I look forward to getting to know each of you please feel free to add me,
Jennifer
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What made your previous diet difficult to stick to? Not eating enough and still feeling hungry? Feeling like you don't have enough time to cook, so you eat out?0
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I started my journey at 255 that was how much I weighed after having my son. I am now down 48 lbs. Even though we are moms and have full time jobs we always have to find time for ourselves and get healthy for the kids. Please feel free to add me if you need any support. I know its hard but it is possible with a little exercising and cutting down portions0
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I think Im lazy. I have no nice way to put it. Its easier to eat out or eat junk then take the time to eat something better. Exercising is hard it hurts so I always find an excuse to no do it. I truely can only blame myself.
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Realizing the problem is half the battle. I lost a good amount of weight and slipped back into old habits and have gained most of it back. I've had to go back and figure out my problem to get back on track. Best of luck...it's not easy.0
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Well, you have taken the first step!! I have never had that much to lose myself, but I am a fitness instructor and I have worked with many, many women who are trying to take this step in their lives. I firmly believe that just getting started can be the hardest thing someone does in their day, but after that it only gets better!
For me, Jazzercise is the workout that changed my life - I really looked forward to it every time I went, and on the times when I just wasn't feeling it, I always felt better after class - both physically AND emotionally. There is something out there like that for you - I promise!! You can DO this. It will be hard, but remember, the hardest changes you have to make are in your mind. I think of the old phrase, "change your mind, and your *kitten* will follow!!"
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How about taking walks with your kids once a day? Walking laps in your garden/ yard to start slowly? How about an exercise DVD to do in your home?
I understand food is more difficult but is there one day a week that is slightly less hectic that you could prepare a more healthy meal?
Not to preach but its about little changes that are sustainable over a longer period of time.
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Hi Jennifer,
here is my two cents, I'd drop the word diet from your vocabulary and mindset. think of it as a lifestyle change. Simple changes in your eating habits and activity level will change your life, and last longer then a "diet" ever will.
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My mom was a single mother of 2 sons for 14 years. So even though I'm a guy, I understand the pressures and time constraints of a working single mother.
One good thing is that you can choose to not buy any of the junk food at the store. If you don't buy it, you won't have it at home to eat. There are a lot of easy, quick, low calorie options. I'm still discovering them myself as I also struggle with finding the time to cook. If your oldest son is interested in cooking at all, you can teach him and have him prepare foods. I did this when I was about 10-12 years old, because my mom was working 12+ hours/day. She didn't ask it of me, but I did help cook and clean every day to lessen the burden on her. If your son is interested in it at all, that would be an option.
I know that people's stances on this varies, but although I feel exercise is important and should be done regularly, you're not going to lose most of your weight from exercise. It will mostly be because of changes in your diet. Make smaller commitments to exercise that you can easily keep. Then increase from there. If you have unrealistic exercise goals, of course you're not going to keep up with it.0 -
Hi, I know where you are, I have been there and on my way back if I don't get in control and focus, I lost 100 lbs four years ago, my top weight was 252. today I weigh 190.5 lbs, I have been slowly putting the weight back on, and no matter what the excuse it's just that. So you are the first person i am telling my weight to. I feel like I have let my family down, when in reallity I have let myself down. I think I could be a good support system for some who will do the same for me, it is so hard but in the end so worth it. Let me know momandnurse if you want to me my support as well. so then we can get to know each other better and help each other. thanks Linda0
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You can do it...I used evey excuse, and started at 232 pounds. I am now 2 pounds from my goal of 1/2 my body weight...116 pounds. You can do it.
You just have to want it more then the junk food! Nothing will taste as good as losing the weight feels....just remember that!!0 -
I would love to assist/join you for the life changing journey you are getting ready to have. I could use another friend also!0
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Like many have said, realizing your issues is the easiest way to start.
However, you have to start making changes- NOW! It doesn't matter how big or small, start. Maybe it's only drinking water, maybe it's taking a walk every day, maybe it's changing your snack food. I have been injured and have not been able to work out that much, but I was able to lose 15 pounds just watching my diet. Be honest with everything you eat and start monitoring it on mfp. mfp makes it so much easier because you won't believe how much you were eating before!
Take baby steps, day by day, and challenge yourself a little more every day, and stay positive.
Exercise ideas: 30 day shred by jillian michaels. It's 30-40 minutes, it's on DVD, and I've heard wonders about it!
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Hi Jennifer! Feel free to add me if you'd like. You have done of the hardest things and that is stepping up to the plate and knowing that you want to do something to not only better your life, but also all 3 of your boy's lives as well. You can do this!! Look at what you do on a daily basis and how hard you work every day. Just take things one day at a time. If you have a bad day, just move on to the next and do it right. Change your lifestyle, your habits and good results will follow. You will also see it make a positive impact on the choices your boys start making as well. Set yourself some goals...10 pounds at a time and definitely take measurements..Looking forward to seeing you do this!!0
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I think Im lazy. I have no nice way to put it. Its easier to eat out or eat junk then take the time to eat something better. Exercising is hard it hurts so I always find an excuse to no do it. I truely can only blame myself.
I totally understand where you are coming from. First of all, you *aren't* lazy. You just have nothing left for yourself after working a full-time job and taking care of your family. I will bet that you take almost no time to take care of yourself. What has finally clicked for me is that I need to exercise and eat right FOR ME. I am important, and taking an hour to go to an exercise class or making myself a nice salad is OKAY.
One thing I also have been doing is keeping "quick" but healthy stuff around. I keep deli thins or pita bread in the house and tunafish - makes a quick sandwich that fills me and isn't junk food. I also make sure that I have plenty of fresh fruits and veggies around AND that I don't even keep the junk in the house (or at least not the kinds that I like).
Last night we ordered dinner out, and I really wanted a chicken ceasar salad. I got one. I used my own balsamic viniagrette dressing instead of the creamy ceasar dressing, and I removed half of the croutons. Easy dinner, take out BUT didn't "blow" my calories for the day. Small changes can make a big difference.0 -
I also agree that you should drop the "diet" thought process.... you need to change your life style and that takes time....Try starting just with one or two changes in your life...You've done the first thing...you've made yourself accountable ...I do understand where your at..I at one time was also at 299...then hit 300...then hit 301...and I told myself i would never get there.It does happen...Now pick yourself up...stop feeling guilty...what's done is done....now you need to do something about it.Feel good about the fact that you want to change and today is the day ! Start that change! you can do this !!
Feel free to add me also ! We can do this together !
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Hey hun I started out at 283 as my highest. So far I've lost 40 lbs. I took for me to start investing time in myself which involved being a little selfish. As a mom you're always thinking about others and often neglect your needs. But in the end the most important person is you. You have show love toward yourself in order to be there for them. The way to show love towards yourself is to truly make yourself happy and become the healthiest you possible.
I am a testimony that this site works. There are many others here who've lost 100 lbs and some even 300 lbs just using MFP and exercise. We are here to support you, and feel free to add me.
What has been a major help was me starting to see a nutritionist (covered through insurance). She was able to delve into the psychological aspect as to why I eat. However it was I who had to make the changes in my diet. I started logging everything. And once you're able to paint a picture as to what you're ingesting it'll make stuff a lot clearer.
Exercise is something you'll have to work up to. It often hurts because it's making you hot and uncomfortable. If there isn't one thing about a big girl, and that is she hates to be hot and sweaty. Start walking more often and gradually build up. You can even start just by lifting weights.
The key is don't try to change too much stuff at once or else you'll get overwhelmed. Weight loss is a journey and not a marathon. Slow and steady wins the race every time. Good luck honey!0 -
come along with the rest of us...we have all decided to change our lives (not really diet
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use the tools this site has and add friends - watching their progress and getting their encouragement really does help.
You took the first step by coming to MFP.... don't beat yourself up just start (the first step is the hardest)
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It helps to envision the kind of person that you want to be, then take steps to enter the vision.
And I agree with above; banish the word diet (as I think it was Richard Simmons who used to say "who wants to do that; it has "die" in it"). Change your eating habits. I started a month ago by establishing 4 regular meals per day, with nothing between meals but water. My huge problem was my habit of grazing all day long. That had to stop.
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hey, i hear where you are coming from, if you add me, im only into being positive, no negativity. I think you can do it, and i can give you plenty of tips to help you along--for example,,if you have to have mcdonalds, why not just get a mcchicken and throw out the bun, its only 160 calories, and a large unsweetened tea. theres lots of sensible choices even if you have no time and find that fast food is easiest.. stay away from soda, its the devil. feel free to add me0
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Hello,
I am also "lazy" or I used to think I was. Now I realize ithat is was overwhelming and scary to me. Scary that I will fail again or that I will not be able to excercise regularly. I have two littles gilrs 2 and 10 months and my husband works nights. Oh and I work fulltime. So I often feel like a single mother. You have to literally take it one day at a time and try not to set to high of goals for yourself. The simple act of tracking food will start you off on the right track. I try to take walks when I can and everyday I have tell myself that I am going to oull out my Zumba DVD but I have yet to do it. However, because I have been tracking my food I have still lost 47 pounds. It is still a challenge for me but I think my key to success is that I don't give up like i have done before. No matter how many days you miss it is important to continue the process. You did not gain the weight overnight so you will not loose it overnight either. Pelase feel free to friend if you want that extra support.0 -
The problem is dieting. You need to slowly change your diet to something you can do. A fad diet is only temporary and useless. Start by cutting out 1 or 2 bad items in your diet and add 1 or 2 healthy items. My diet has been a work in progress for the last 1.5 years and its starting to look ok. I've found the harder people jump into a strict diet the harder they fall. You have the rest of your life to improve your diet and health. You didn’t go from 135 to 299 over night. You shouldn’t expect to drop it over night. Baby steps work the best. My first steps were to stop buying pop, potato chips and turned off my cable TV.0
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Friend me if you like, I started just over 300lbs & have for the last few years lost 80lb of that, sadly in the last 6 months I have put 25lbs back on but am slowly getting back on track. I too am inherently lazy so know how you feel. Having kids, working fulltime, it is easy to take the easy route. I have slowly learned better habits & am more than happy to share some with you.0
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Sent you a message--add me if you wish. Log in each day for support and to track your food. It truly does help.0
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you can add me as well
I started at 290, although I was pushing 300 just after having my son (2nd child). I started off just doing a lap around my block once a day. Was only 5 minutes, and I hurt after, but I did it. Soon I was doing 2 laps, then 3, and now I can almost walk 2 miles a day. I just push my son in the stroller, and pick my kindergartner up from school and walk home.
I don't "diet."
I portion control. I introduced more healthier foods into my meals. And after eating those for a while, I've found that fast food and those "sweet" stuff are bland and unsatisfying now when I do eat them.
I started working on losing weight in February/March, and I'm down 32 lbs and went from a size 26 to a 20, and I got into an 18 dress
Just from walking with my kids and portion control.
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I started at 292 and I've lost 22 lbs in about 110 days. I will be the first to tell you that after many failed attempts, this has been the easiest... You can eat whatever you want as long as you are under your calories... however, you will find that you get SO MUCH MORE if you choose wisely. However, I still eat chocolate on a regular basis. I still have an ice cream bar at night. I still drink regular pop now and then... I struggle with exercise too.. I'm either on or off but if you are a nurse are you already pretty active? Especially running after three boys? Don't focus on exercise for now. Focus on making small changes.
Also, check out this great tool: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/682138-in-place-of-a-road-map-2-0-revised-7-2-12 If you calculate your TDEE you'll find you get plenty of calories and still lose weight!
You can do it!
I'd love to support you in your journey. Please feel free to friend me!0 -
I started over 300 about 7 months ago! It is possible. Feel free to add me if you want I am happy to be a support!0
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I'd also like to add, that you need to log everything. Losing weight without logging is incredibly difficult for most people. You need to be able to see exactly how much you're eating. It also helps others give support and guidance when they can see if you're slipping. Don't be afraid to log it all, good and bad. I've also heard that there are some apps that you can use so that you can do it on the go, but I almost never eat anywhere except at home, so I don't have to worry about that.0
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Feel free to add me for support. Congratulations on your decision to get healthier. This is a wonderful site to help with your weight loss goals.0
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Just remember what you're doing this for. You don't just want to lose weight, you want to become healthier... not only for yourself, but for your kids, right? Every time you think of an excuse to not exercise, think of them.
I think the biggest hurdle you'll face is time. It's easy to excuse yourself from a workout or eating healthy foods if you feel like you're strapped for time. So:
1) Have a workout schedule laid for the whole week. Maybe even for the whole month. Then stick to it, giving yourself 1-2 days of rest each week.
2) Have a meal schedule for the week. This will make things SO much easier on yourself when you don't have to think about what to cook. Cook in bulk (try googling "Once A Month Mom"- she has great recipes and guidance for this).
3) Be realistic with your goals. You want a sustainable diet.
Good luck.
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i have lost over 100 pounds in the last 4 years. i have now become a personal trainer and nutritional specialist and help others. there are alot of things you can do to get started but it would be easier to just chat one on one if you ever have the time. my email is pierce1983@msn.com and if you write i can give you my phone number. i run a fitness bootcamp that incorporates healthy eating and fitness . i would love to chat0
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