Does everyone notice your weight loss except YOU?

FitFabFlirty92

I feel like that's happening to me. Family, friends, and coworkers are starting to notice I've lost weight. But the truth is I haven't lost very much (around 10 pounds total, I started this before joining MFP), so I don't notice the differences yet. Last year I lost 20 pounds and didn't feel like many people noticed it unless I brought it up. This time I've lost half as much and it seems everyone has commented on it. I'm flattered and happy, but also a little sad that my self confidence is so low that I can't see it myself. Anyone else have this problem?

2012asv

yes. me.

people were commenting on my losses at about 5-10 lbs and then it stopped all together. Weird. but i know how you feel.

addaline22

darling, I dont think its your self confidence, I think that maybe this time you are working harder and it shows. also, I never think I have lost weight. and then I will put on a dress or a pair of pants, and realize its not tight anymore(i could not bring myself to buy a size 26) and then eventualy baggy. Take it easy on your self. you are not alone.

Gwen_B

Well, when you loose 10 pounds your clothes are looser and they may notice that. Also, are you working out regularly now that you are on MFP? The difference may be you are loosing weight in the right places this time? I lost 15 pounds around my core and that is the only place I wanted to loose it, so I (as well as other people) see a difference.

flpmomi

I felt the same way that you did, until I was going thru some old photos, not even that old but from when I started and then I was like well damn!!! :laugh:

I have the comparison picture in a post.....

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/755365-half-way-just-about-to-my-goal

BeckySue1977

Yes! After the first 5 pounds my loss stalled a bit, but I kept getting comments from my boyfriend and friends about how I looked like I was losing weight. I finally broke out the measuring tape so I could have a frame of reference there since apparently I was doing some toning and slimming down even though the scale didn't reflect it.

FitFabFlirty92

Well, when you loose 10 pounds your clothes are looser and they may notice that. Also, are you working out regularly now that you are on MFP? The difference may be you are loosing weight in the right places this time? I lost 15 pounds around my core and that is the only place I wanted to loose it, so I (as well as other people) see a difference.

I do seem to be losing differently, but I don't know what I'm doing that's causing it. I exercised the last time I lost weight, too, but it took longer to see a difference. This time I incorporated weights earlier on than I did before, but they're small, 5lbs. at the most, so I don't know if that's the reason.

FitFabFlirty92

Well, when you loose 10 pounds your clothes are looser and they may notice that. Also, are you working out regularly now that you are on MFP? The difference may be you are loosing weight in the right places this time? I lost 15 pounds around my core and that is the only place I wanted to loose it, so I (as well as other people) see a difference.

I do seem to be losing differently, but I don't know what I'm doing that's causing it. I exercised the last time I lost weight, too, but it took longer to see a difference. This time I incorporated weights earlier on than I did before, but they're small, 5lbs. at the most, so I don't know if that's the reason.

FitFabFlirty92

Sorry, didn't mean to post that last reply twice!

possibri

darling, I dont think its your self confidence, I think that maybe this time you are working harder and it shows. also, I never think I have lost weight. and then I will put on a dress or a pair of pants, and realize its not tight anymore(i could not bring myself to buy a size 26) and then eventualy baggy. Take it easy on your self. you are not alone.

THIS. I can completely relate, especially about the size 26 thing...

jeannette120

Unfortunately, very few people in my life mention anything and even though my clothes are looser, I don't really notice that I look different. I still have another 100 pounds to go...hopefully people will start to notice.

chelseafxx

I've lost 75 pounds and still everyday have to fight to convince myself that this is the new me. It's a mental thing and it will take time. Enjoy the journey

Zangpakto

Actually I think I DO know I have lost, but it doesn't quite register....

I have lost now 30kg this year and another 10kg planned still... I honest to god cannot "see" it? I know I wear sizes much smaller than before, I cannot balance beers on stomach and feel sick after 1/4 of what I ate before. I look into mirror and see no real difference but hear it all the time...

I feel it, but cannot see it and I cannot explain how frustrating that is

dga226

not many in my family notice they make big fuss over my sister

FitFabFlirty92

Unfortunately, very few people in my life mention anything and even though my clothes are looser, I don't really notice that I look different. I still have another 100 pounds to go...hopefully people will start to notice.

I know it must be hard to lose over 100 pounds and still have 100 more to go, but if no one in your life has told you this before, you are absolutely amazing. It takes incredible discipline and strength to do what you have done and I applaud you. Whether you see it yet or not, you HAVE made an enormous and incredible change and you deserve credit for it. Congratulations on your success!

Graceious1

I ha 2 or three people tell me today that I had lost alot of weight. I can't see it myself but my clothes definitely tell me I have. For example I have a winter coat that was quite snug on me last year and when I put it on this week I noticed that I am swimming in it. Photos will definitely tell you you have lost weight.

MuddyEquestrian

I have been struggling with this as well. My family, boyfriend and co workers all have made comments, some good so bad on my weight loss. I still don't see it though even though I was a size 12 jeans three months ago, bought size 8 two weeks ago and those are too baggy on me. I think sometimes we just have to learn to accept our changing bodies and it's hard. It seems especially hard for people like me who always put themselves down when it comes to weight. Even if I am not considered Obese or severely overweight. Clothes made a huge difference with people noticing. I work at a hospital and went from a size medium scrub that was snug when I started in Februrary to an XS, then the comments, good and bad, were flying from everywhere. You're doing great, keep up the good work and soon you will see yourself for the beautiful, thin person you are! good luck!

Kap10

Yes, can I suggest that you take a pre photo and a current photo and look at them together ... I did that and was amazed

icemaiden17_uk

I was diagnosed with Body Dismorphic Disorder so I know exactly what you mean! I am always the last person to look at myself and see progress, but I can see any flaws right away! I am a bit better now though! I am wearing stripes a lot lately and they seem very slimming these days, I can fit through gaps in the shops that I would've just looked at before!

It is a slow progress but take the compliments for now and you will see it in the end!!

jmeyer925

Yup! Feels like eveyone knows and I don't lol.

Best is when people just plan don't recognize you, hence why they can't comment on your weight loss I suppose.

Also, people may notice a lot but they aren't going to say something everytime. Keep it up!

MsTanya77

YES!!! I never see my weight loss but others see it ALL THE TIME! I think we naturally have a distorted perception of our bodies. I still see myself as fat in many ways even after 65lbs of weight loss

LAMypie

Absolutely. My hubby and pastor are constantly telling me how much better I look, but in my head, I'm still over 300. I have to remind myself how far I've come. I take pictures every month, and I take measurements every month or 2. Those times you're convinced that nothing is really changing, those are the things that bring it home, even if it's short lived. That was me this past week. My weight loss has slowed to a .5 or less loss per week crawl over the summer, and I was very discouraged. Convinced nothing had changed, but realizing that I hadn't taken measurements in over 2 months, I did so...And I'm very happy! I hope someday I can accept that my lifestyle change is working and be happier about myself.

bluefox9er

ive lost 85 lbs and at a healthy 170 lbs and i still..STILL think of myself as 'fat'. someone yelled' FATTY!' the other day in the street and i immediately turned around..the guy yelling said ' not you, your'e not fat, im yelling at that guy in front of you.". i just stared at him as if he was nuts. ill always be 'fat'.

maddmaddie

Are you lifting weights? Maybe you have lost more fat than you think and you appear smaller, but only lost 10 pounds of weight because of muscle growth/strengthening. ???

SairahRose

I hear you.
I wear smaller clothes, but I feel like the same big girl. I look in a mirror and still see the same person I used to be.
That's the part that's more important to work on than losing weight, to be honest.
Knowing that you're wonderful and amazing and worthy of so much,.... even at your highest weight.. and that it won't change just by losing 1lb, or 1000lb.. you'll still be wonderful and amazing.
It's tough, but the mindset will eventually ease. At least I hope so :P

Mrsbrandnewmeslimandtrim

Rockmyskinnyjeans

I don't notice it nearly as often as other people do. My husband keeps telling me I'm as "skinny" as the girls I tell him I want to look like. I have body dysmorphic disorder and I'm always quick to notice flaws before I'd notice progress. My confidence is improving, but it still feels like a long road.

spikefoot

I find no one says a thing..well some do....But I think I notice it more..so not complaining...well kinda. hmmmm

dmg329

So far I've lost 40 pounds, and I have a lot of people tell me they've noticed. But, like you, I still look in the mirror and don't see the difference. I still go to buy the bigger clothes, but then stop myself. I still have more to lose, but just have to take day by day. Enjoy the compliments! Keep up the good work!

ljc73

yes - i have lost 55 pounds since January and while it's so great to get compliments from everyone, I have a hard time seeing the change unless i see a photo of myself. And even then, I still feel like I look "fat". Thinner than before, but i still can't see that I look "good." When someone compliments me, I always find myself saying "oh, but I have so much further to go" and talk about how big my thighs, my stomach, my upper arms are.

I started calling it body dismorphia. Not sure if that's real but I think I have a problem where I still see myself as the fat girl even though others, the scale and my clothing are telling me otherwise!

Jkmumma

At just over 50 lbs lost, I'm not halfway there just yet. I still don't see the weight loss in the mirror, even though the jeans I couldn't pull up and button are now so big on me that I can't wear them.

My "max size" was "I'll never buy jeans bigger than a 22" I stayed at that 22 by switching first to stretchy jeans, then stretchy slacks from Lany Bryant, and finally the stretchy t-shirt material baggy pants. In fairness, I was probably 24 pushing 26. Now, I'm down to an 18 with no muffin top.

I still have 75 to loose roughly, and despite everyone being so shocked at how much different I look, I still see a fatty in the mirror.

SOME days I can remind myself that I've lost 50 pounds and I'm doing great, but lately, especially now that the weight loss has slowed, it's pretty discouraging to look at myself.

Then I'll do something cool, like jog across the street to beat the light change, or dart up a flight of stairs rather than plod, and still breathe just fine at the top, or something along those lines, and realize that while I might not see it, I can feel the difference, and really, that's a big part of why I'm doing this anyway, and when I get to the point that I can do a mudder, I'll just be that person that rocks a mudder, and still feel like a fatty, and seriously, how many people that DON'T feel like fatties still can't do a mudder?