the most terrible thing ever

nlhill79

I restarted mfp today. I was trying so hard. I had a low Cal coffee and then some carrot sticks for breakfast. Then for lunch I got 2 laughing cow cheese wedges and some blue corn chips. I was still starving so I went to the fridge and there it was. Leftover cake. I had a big piece, another wedge of cheese with chips and more carrot sticks. I feel like an enormous failure. My problem is that I still feel hungry. I want a hot meal!! So upset. I'll probably end up giving up and saying, oh well tomorrow is a new start and then eat too much.

beckajw

Wait. Stop. Don't give up.

First, a leftover piece of cake is NOT the end of the world. Maybe you went over your calories today. But, you can control how much over. You can do that by eating healthy for the rest of the day.

Second, it looks like you set yourself up for failure. Coffee and carrots for breakfast would have lasted me until, oh about 9 AM. Now, I'm not saying we all must eat breakfast, but if you are hungry in the morning, feed yourself. A piece of whole wheat toast and a cup of greek yogurt with the carrots would have been much more filling and lasted longer. Or a veggie omelet.

Again, at lunch, there is almost nothing there and what is there doesn't have any staying power. How about tuna on a salad of mixed greens with chick peas and balsamic dressing? Or a turkey sandwich with veggies? If you must have corn chips (I had them last night, I understand the need), spruce them up with salsa and black beans, chicken and laughing cow.

Of course you are hungry! But, don't give up. Go and get yourself some protein and fiber. Don't worry about your calories today, instead focus on the nutrition in the food you are eating for the rest of the day.

Then, tomorrow focus on nutrition and calories.

drakechic08

Dont give up. Forget about how your day started and finish off strong. Then you won't feel so guilty. You really need to be eating more protein and fiber. Eat some eggs for breakfast, some lean meat for lunch. If you need a good snack, have a hand full of nuts. Even add some fruit in there. Tomorrow, start the day with a fresh mind and forget about what you ate today. Don't let one slip-up ruin your journey.

dad106

You drank coffee, ate carrots and then cheese/chips.. Of course you are starving and ate the cake. Why? Because the cake is an actual food item instead of rabbit food.

Eat real food, Eat Fruit/Veggies and Protein, and stop trying to starve.. You'll be much better off.

kenazfehu

Success doesn't mean doing everything perfect from the first step. Success means falling down 100 times, getting up 101. Or for me, falling 10,000 times, getting up 10,001. Just stop yourself right there and do it right next meal.

Be mindful when it's time for a meal. Serve yourself a meal, not a few snacks. I have 4 meals per day and a budget of 335 per meal. I weigh/measure out my meal on a plate and log it all in before I take the first bite (usually). I think in terms of what is going to be nourishing and filling and include fruits and vegetables either ever meal or double up at the next meal.

If I mess up, I stop right there. For example, I took 2 or 3 bites while I was putting away the left-overs a couple of nights ago. I stopped myself right there and went right back onto my program. 2 or 3 extra bites is a lot better than blowing the whole evening, week, month, year.

You can do this!

moreORless50

your not alone in what you done so many of us have done the same i to have been where you are today and i would also give up and it would always be tomorrow then the next tomorrow , but now i realise i am human and i am not perfect and even now still have them bad moments no so often now but there still there the only diff now is i carry on with the diet i make my next meal better and more healthy , please dont be so hard on yourself whats done is done put it behind you and carry on

summer8it

Eating cake is not the most terrible thing ever. When I saw this thread title, I thought that perhaps someone's child had died, because THAT, in my mind, is the most terrible thing ever.

Eat a nutritious dinner tonight, and tomorrow focus on feeding your body good food. Along with your coffee, have something with protein and fiber for breakfast to fill you up.

Suzyqall72

You were starving. When we eat 2 carrot sticks and black coffee, 1 lettuce leaf with low cal dressing for lunch, then by dinner, of course you will eat anything. Try oatmeal in the morning, a fiber bar, or greek yogurt with fruit. Then at lunch eat a salad full of greens with a few ounces of proten and low fat dressing. Then grab an apple or something in the afternoon, and you won't be so hungry in the evening. Looking at cake is tough anyway, but when you really haven't eaten, it's a disaster. Just forget about it and move on. Don't starve yourself.

cmuggridge

I believe that losing weight is only part of this journey. Learning to love and forgive yourself is an even bigger part. Without being able to forgive yourself you are doomed to failure because you will never live up to your own expectations. Before you come down on yourself too hard ask yourself one question - "Would I blame someone else for making the same choice?"

Motivation does not come by itself. You need to activate in order to motivate. Don't set your goals too high that they are impractical. You have to set goals that are attainable by you, not measure yourself against others. Eventually the others will be gone and you will still have you. So treat yourself right and don't give up on yourself. Don't look at today as a failure, look at it as an opportunity to learn. Take what you learn and use it tomorrow. Every day you will get smarter and stronger as long as you only aim to improve, not dominate.

Fall down seven times, get up eight. Staying down is the only real failure.

LorinaLynn

Carrots are not a breakfast and a couple tiny wedges of cheese are not a lunch.

Eat nutritious MEALS, not a tiny portion of low cal foods. You are guaranteed to fail if you think "dieting" means eating the way you ate so far today. Fuel your body and that cake won't call to you.

godblessourhome

Eating cake is not the most terrible thing ever. When I saw this thread title, I thought that perhaps someone's child had died, because THAT, in my mind, is the most terrible thing ever.

i agree. there was a 10-year-old girl ABDUCTED on her way to school on friday and her backpack was found over 6 miles away on sunday. THAT is one of the most terrible thing ever. not that someone ate cake after starving themselves.


op, please set up a reasonable meal plan that you can follow without feeling like a failure. 200 calories for breakfast, 400 calories for lunch, 600 calories for supper, 200 calories for a snack, etc. there are plenty of great meal ideas in the recipe section.

JohnMessmer

Ok, yes you screwed the pooch and actions like that certainly are not going to help you get to where you are trying to be. Perhaps you can save the day by getting some exercise in, perhaps it is too late. You need to eat food that will stay with you longer, fruit is a great way to go, a peach is not only filling but will also stick with you because of the fiber, of course you could just take some fiber with whatever you are having if fruit is not possible. In the end it is up to you, succeed or fail, its in your hands.

kenazfehu

P.S: A really good way to overcome a slip-up is to drink a glass of water. Then look forward to the next sensible appropriate meal.