NO, I'm not pregnant, but thanks for asking!

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  • Live4More
    Live4More Posts: 177 Member
    I was once asked by a man with a larger beer belly than my flabby belly (which seriously wasn't all that big...), if I was pregnant.
    I just shook my head and said, "Uh no but thanks for asking!" and walked away.
    People are seriously so insensitive.

    In this case you should have said "No, are YOU?"
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    As Dave Barry (allegedly) said: "You should never say anything to a woman that even remotely suggests that you think she's pregnant unless you can see an actual baby emerging from her at that moment."

    This x1000
  • dcummings80
    dcummings80 Posts: 22
    Thanks everybody...I love all the stories! :laugh:
  • MinMin97
    MinMin97 Posts: 2,674 Member
    Ugh.. I'm sorry. Not sure why anyone feels that it's okay to ask if they aren't 100% sure that you are.. and by 100% sure I mean they see the baby crowning.

    My mom passed away about 6 weeks ago, we are at the funeral doing the receiving line. It's my dad, then my sister, then me. One lady stopped to talk with my sister and said.. "Oh, I didn't know you were pregnant again" and my sister had to respond... "Ummm, no I'm not". So not only are we mourning the loss of our mom, someone implies my sister looks pregnant. I almost bit my tongue off trying to keep from saying something I would regret to this lady.
    This happened to me at my grandfather's funeral.
    It was tough, only because of the circumstances.
    The person who said it is, I think, rather cavalier about her comments sometimes.
    So I considered the source, but...
    Usually when I get this comment (yes, I said "when!" lol) it actually does not bother me.
    I think preggies are beautiful, and I am a woman, so.....who cares?
    I think it's lovely to look like a woman, pregnant or not:)
  • jovigirl26
    jovigirl26 Posts: 8
    Men should never ever ever ever ask if a woman is pregnant. Thats rude, we are taught these things when we are young. I'm so sorry that happened to you. It happened to me once years ago. I was on prednizone and it makes you gain weight in your belly and face and I was asked I was pregant..I responed NO. I'M JUST FAT. it was a young lady who said it to me. I was so disgusted. So i've been there.
    Hopefully he wont come near you again... I think you scared him. hahahaha.... good for you.
  • LuridDreamer
    LuridDreamer Posts: 10 Member
    This will occasionally happen to me on the bus. If I wear a shirt/dress with an empire waist, I'd say about 30% of the time when I first get on the bus, I will be offered priority seating. Usually by an old man hobbling on a cane trying to be gentlemanly, which I think is just sweet, though occasionally I'll get the same reaction from women. They'll get up if the bus is full, offer up their seat and say "You must be exhausted being on your feet all day while you have a bun in the oven!" To which I reply "the only bun in my oven is the one I got from Subway at lunch, and trust me, it won't be in the oven for long."
  • LilEmm
    LilEmm Posts: 240
    How about a little old lady pinning golden booties on you to celebrate the new life you are brewing - when you're not pregnant. Awkward!!
  • dcummings80
    dcummings80 Posts: 22
    I should mention too, the guy who made the comment is a jerk who tries to flirt with my daily, so it made it that much easier to snap at him when he looked me up and down and so eloquently stated "You pregnant?" Grrrrrr
  • fit4lifeUcan2
    fit4lifeUcan2 Posts: 1,458 Member
    I was once asked by a man with a larger beer belly than my flabby belly (which seriously wasn't all that big...), if I was pregnant.
    I just shook my head and said, "Uh no but thanks for asking!" and walked away.
    People are seriously so insensitive.

    A guy I know who has a big gut said to me... look at that chick. She's so fat if I didn't know better I would think she was pregnant. I turned to him with a dirty look and said...When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror? When are your twins due? We were friends so he took it well and that was the last time I ever heard him say something rude about another person and their weight or body shape.
  • jcpmoore
    jcpmoore Posts: 796 Member
    LuridDreamer-where do you live? I would have killed for that response when I was pregnant. Around here no one gives up a seat unless it's at gun point. I can't tell you how uncomfortable I was stand up on on 30 minute bus ride at 7 months pregnant. Thank goodness it wasn't longer!

    But I hate it when people ask. Even when I WAS pregnant I didn't appreciate it, though it was rare. At least most folks who know me know better than to ask stupid questions. Strangers rarely talk to me, thank goodness. One of my former friends use to get this question a lot, though, due to the way she carries her weight. It totally sucks.
  • vabchloser
    vabchloser Posts: 223 Member
    Today I got a real kick in the pants when a guy at work asked me if I'm pregnant. I responded with, "No, I'm not pregnant and are you trying to get me to punch you in the face?" Not very professional, but its what came out. Anyway, I suppose its kind of a mixed blessing b/c it gave me the opportunity to step back and see how far off track I've gotten and the resolve to re-calibrate and move forward. Still, it wasn't very fun though. :embarassed:
    People are so freaking rude. Ridiculous.
  • LuridDreamer
    LuridDreamer Posts: 10 Member
    LuridDreamer-where do you live? I would have killed for that response when I was pregnant. Around here no one gives up a seat unless it's at gun point. I can't tell you how uncomfortable I was stand up on on 30 minute bus ride at 7 months pregnant. Thank goodness it wasn't longer!

    But I hate it when people ask. Even when I WAS pregnant I didn't appreciate it, though it was rare. At least most folks who know me know better than to ask stupid questions. Strangers rarely talk to me, thank goodness. One of my former friends use to get this question a lot, though, due to the way she carries her weight. It totally sucks.

    I'm in Ottawa, Canada. People are usually pretty good about offering up their seats, and if they don't, the bus driver will intervene. Admittedly I've made the occasional snarky remark when I see someone standing who should be in priority seating and yet no one offers up a seat (i.e. "Seriously? No one can offer their seat to a 3 year old on a packed bus? Talk about shameless..."). It really grinds my gears, though I have a thing for bus etiquette!
  • brendant1
    brendant1 Posts: 17 Member
    http://www.stuff.co.nz/travel/travel-troubles/7785585/Jetstar-offers-voucher-for-pregnancy-mistake
    this poor lady was asked for a medical certificate as she was boarding her flight as if pregnant you need one to fly. She had been offered $100 by Jestar as an apology
  • GeliPearl401
    GeliPearl401 Posts: 11
    I had on a maxi dress once, which was in style at the time. I went to a baby shower and was asked by another guest who was a complete stranger, "what? are you pregnant too???"

    i felt so humiliated. The maxi dress was really long and it was a jersey material, heavy and drapey looking. I'm short so it probably wasn't the best choice but it WAS the style for that summer. I have an hour glass with a PERMANENT TIRE on my lower half so I can see why the dress made me look pregnant but serious? He had no business asking me what he asked, and in that tone.

    I wanted to jump off a bridge.
  • lostinthe619
    lostinthe619 Posts: 98
    First job I had out of high school was working security at Comic Con, myself and another rover were doing rounds on the floor during vendor load in and this clown approached a woman, placed her hands on her stomach and asked when she was due...

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    If there were any way to make someone spontaneously combust, I'm sure she was focusing her mind on making him explode.
  • CassieReannan
    CassieReannan Posts: 1,479 Member
    Thats why I never ask if anyone is pregnant anymore, even when I think they have an obvious pregnant belly... NOPE I am not going to say anything in case I offend them!
  • MissSusieQ
    MissSusieQ Posts: 533 Member
    unless someone is actively in labour, you don't ask. and even then, you'll probably get a punch in the face for your troubles, because at that point the situation changes to 'of course i'm f***ing pregnant, can't you see the HEAD coming out of me???'

    i've had it happen a few times - the first was a patient, a really nice old guy who commented that he knew of another girl who was my shape, and followed it up with 'she's about 23 weeks'. i just said 'oh, i'm not pregnant' and he immediately went into apologetic morto mode! i told him not to worry about it, but to watch out for me at 8pm when i came by with his needle.

    the second, which i considered much ruder, was a colleague. we were talking about a bunch of girls at work who were pregnant at the same time, and she turned and asked me if i was pregnant too. at the time i was well aware i had a fat, sort of sticky-outy belly, and hey, we were talking about other pregnant people, so i just straight-out replied 'no, i'm just fat' and sort of laughed it off. would have ended there, with my pride slightly dented but no harm, but she didn't believe me!!

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