Lacking confident

Milnerp
Milnerp Posts: 7
in Motivation and Support
I feel all the time like no matter how hard I try i'm never going to shift these pounds. Its hard to find any motivation lately, i've burned 900 calories today in a spin class but yet i don't feel any better about myself

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  • sarahsummers12
    sarahsummers12 Posts: 128 Member
    I understand that completely... I have been stuck doing a yoyo between 5 or so kg for the last 6mths and I feel the same - I'm never gonna lose it - and I feel completely crap and down on myself... it is so hard to see the positive sometimes! But you are doing great and hopefully if we keep at it, we will see results that will help improve our confidence and self worth! *hugs*
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    You're very pretty.

    I would just like to add, no one sees them self the way others see them. If you could, for just 5 minutes, you're opinion of yourself would change drastically.
    Most people feel this way til they're mid 30-s
  • seandominguez
    seandominguez Posts: 19
    This is a problem not only for people losing weight, for anyone who wants to do anything.

    What I'm guessing you feel is this sort of emptiness that comes with the fact that you have a lot of shoulds in your life.

    "Sure, I burned 900 calories, but I SHOULD be thin already."
    "Sure, I had an awesome day, but I SHOULDN'T have to kill myself working out. If only I had more discipline eating, I wouldn't have to work out that hard"

    etc.,.

    I watched a really good TED video by Shawn Achor about how happiness leads to success. Honestly changed my life. While the talk is more business focused, he talks about how we have the formula for happiness mixed up. In our society, we think, "I cannot be happy until I meet this goal". The problem is that this frame of thinking doesn't motivate people - it scares and demotivates them. The people who meet goals are the ones who are happy from the get go.

    You have to be proud of yourself. Not in the annoying ra-ra way where every little thing you do is worthy of breaking out into song, but you have to give yourself credit where credit is due. If you can't be content with yourself burning 900 calories (and probably feeling so guilty about it that you bust out the unhealthy coping mechanisms) then what makes you think you'll ever get to a point where you can be happy about yourself?

    I lost 2.2 lbs this week according to my weigh in today. I can either be super happy that I did that and let it motivate me or I can feel guilty about not being the same kid who weighed 20 lbs less in high school and let myself be defeated.

    Little victories, gal. Little victories.

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