Am I in the wrong for being angry?

BioShocked89

Yesterday was my daughter's first birthday. Aside from her daddy and I celebrating that she's a happy, healthy, smart, beautiful little girl-it was a day of high stress. Details aside, I was going non-stop from 6:30 am until I laid down at about 11:00pm.
I don't mind that part because it was for my daughter even though it wore me out.

What I did mind was the fact that Paul, the man my boyfriend's mother is dating decided to invite his son Aaron and Aaron's girlfriend. Even that wouldn't have been so bad-except for the fact that Paul didn't bother to tell me. And here's the cake topper- Aaron and his girlfriend showed up like they were fresh from the red light district! The girlfriend's jeans were ripped to shreds showing every inch of her legs. He wore baggy gangster jeans with giant freaking pot leaf logos on them.

Who the HELL dresses like that to go to a ONE YEAR OLD child's birthday!?

If any person dresses like that on their own time, that's their business and who am I to judge? Being at my daughter's birthday is an entirely different scenario, however. Especially when you weren't wanted there in the first place.

(I do not like Aaron because he likes to date underage girls that are barely 12. I know this, because I saw it with my own eyes, and personally know the 12 year old whom he dated. Aaron is 20, mind you.)

When they show up UNINVITED, UNANNOUNCED, dressed like that to MY baby's BIRTHDAY? HER FIRST BIRTHDAY! It sent me over the edge, and I am still very upset about it. At this point, I do not want anything like that happening again and I am pretty much deciding not to invite Paul to ever join in on any parties that I am hosting. If he can't tell me that he wants his son to come, and the son can't refrain from dressing like an idiot while he's attending these events, then NO FREAKING WAY.

Am I overreacting? Am I in the wrong to be mad? Putting aside the fact that I hate Aaron himself, (I honestly didn't even know it was him when he showed up to the party, I got mad because of the way he dressed/being uninvited and after he left, I was told that he was in fact, Aaron) Am I overreacting to the way they dressed or am I in the right? Am I overreacting about Paul not telling me they were coming?

LorinaLynn

You feel how you feel, but ask yourself... Is there is any benefit to being this upset over it?

It's over. He left. It's not as though your daughter has any understanding or will have any memory of what was inappropriate about his clothing.

Your boyfriend should tell his mother that the two of you do not want Aaron coming to your house unless the two of you specifically invite him. Which you won't do.

But it's not worth still being angry about.