I think a healthy lifestyle change made me 'boring'

tanyaslosingit

I know exactly what you mean! Not only do a number of my friends like to drink and get stoned, an unusually high number of them are also foodies who like to hold dinners and go to restaurants. Then there's a few who hold the whole healthier and fitter lifestyle thing in contempt or, somehow worse, indifference. I've found myself either opting out or being excluded from a lot of stuff.

My solution was to take up hiking. I not only take solo hikes; but I joined a local hiking group as well. And then an R.E.I store opened up nearby and I've been eyeing classes and some of the trips they offer. While I miss my old friends, I'm enjoying the new people i'm meeting and the new things I'm trying and doing. LOL, I'm an introverted booky geeky type with limited social skills and I'm *still* managing to make friends in spite of myself!

Maybe, (and admittedly just maybe) one or two of your hold friends might be inspired by you and cross over :-)

I hope you find your "thing."

geekyjock76

No offense, but if these friends of yours only want to hang out with you if you smoke, what kinds of friends are they?

2Bgoddess

try some classes, whether physical or not, you will have fun and meet new people.

all of my old friends have dropped by the wayside in the past 2 years. i met a great group of people in my zumba class, and there are 8 of us that hang out all the time. go to movies, dancing, walking, just talking, zumba, etc....I recently spent the weekend with my husband and these 8 ladies and their significant others, it was fantastic. they are not all exercise nuts, but they all like to exercise a little or a lot, and we found tons more that we have in common. my 'social calendar' has never been so full!

taylorromanyk

I'm actually going through the same thing.

onyxviolet

Hi, maybe you can still do things with your friends that don't revolve around food & drinking & drugs? Like, I know this sounds kind of funny, but sometimes doing childish things as a teenager/adult is super fun I'm talking about swimming pools with those giant amazing slides (you can't eat & you're exercising too!) & then like have girly movie nights in but instead of popcorn you can have a giant fruit bowl munch out I'm thinking of things I've done in the past, hehe. OH OH I JUST REMEMBERED: you can have like, 'pamper' sleepover nights with your girly friends painting nails, facials & all that shizzle. You can't eat whilst your nails are drying

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DavPul

No excuses! I've never had a drink nor touched a drug in my life, not even in college, and I've always had plenty of friends. It's not like I'm some religious or health nut either. I have a good time, my friends, both current and past, drink all the alcohol and smoke all the weed and we laugh and talk and chill. Just because I'm sober doesn't mean I'm a stick in the mud. Not by a long shot.

You don't have to get lit to have a good time and you don't have to be drunk to be fun to be around. Don't let anybody tell you different. Either your old friends accept you as you are or **** them, go get some new friends.

martintanz

Look, you should congratulate yourself. You won't find yourself fat, drunk (or stoned) and stupid in a few years.

You can still go out, but maybe not iin a way that makes drinking or taking drugs the focal point. Catch some live music at a club. Or maybe make the club an after activity, as in after dinner, or music, or a movie, or a play.

Join a club. Cycling, running, skiiing. Whatever. Join a health club.

How about developing your mind. Join a book club, take a class. How about art? Start going to museums. Or take an art class. What about cooking? It helps to know how to cook when you are trying to stay healthy. And if you took a cooking class, you might meet others like yourself.

Elzecat

Great suggestions already.

Maybe I'm an old fuddy dud, but you know what I find really boring? People who are in their 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond who still boast about getting "like... sooooo wasted."

You're not getting boring. You're growing up. That's a good thing. :flowerforyou:

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fallonrhea

I'm going through the same exact thing. I started graduate school last year and it seems that a lot of the people who are part of my graduate program revolve their social lives around drinking and smoking.

It's really hard for me to have a good time when I'm trying to resist the temptation to let myself loose - whether it be food, the booze, or the weed - especially since I'm trying to feel comfortable with new people.

Lately, I've been spending a lot of time alone with my fiance and working out...I find that I have trouble *wanting* to hang out with other people. We spend a lot of time with my fiance's family - but other than that I don't have much of a social life...

Anyhow, I know how you feel and you're not alone. Unfortunately, I don't have much in the way of good advice! I do like some of the suggestions to join REI hiking groups though - that sounds like a blast!!

larncy

I agree with everyone here..some great suggestions for you. Also since you are in college....you probably don't realize it but alot of ladies your age are health conscious and try to watch their figure or work out , you probably just don't know they do. So in time you may get to know a couple people from college that share your interests and drive and still get together for a couple socials later. You can still go out for a few drinks and dance sometimes with the right people, just in moderation with the drinking and keep working out and stuff and it will all fall in place before you know it!! Good luck!!