For the ladies, what do you do about creepers at the gym?

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  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member
    If telling him you weren't interested and ignoring him isn't working, I'd tell the staff that he's bothering you and won't leave you alone.
    This and get an Ipod-he can talk all he wants, but if you don't hear him, he cant bother you, and he'll look like the idiot he is! Good Luck!

    Love this! LOL
  • jdressel
    jdressel Posts: 70 Member

    LOL when I first started going to a gym about 6 months ago I wore the cute little shorts & sports bras. I learned really quickly that can get you a lot of unwanted attention. Now, I wear loose t-shirts & borderline baggy pants. I never even wear any type of short pants.

    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.
  • DJ2120
    DJ2120 Posts: 407 Member

    LOL when I first started going to a gym about 6 months ago I wore the cute little shorts & sports bras. I learned really quickly that can get you a lot of unwanted attention. Now, I wear loose t-shirts & borderline baggy pants. I never even wear any type of short pants.

    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.

    You are a good guy, wish there were more like you :smile:
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member

    LOL when I first started going to a gym about 6 months ago I wore the cute little shorts & sports bras. I learned really quickly that can get you a lot of unwanted attention. Now, I wear loose t-shirts & borderline baggy pants. I never even wear any type of short pants.

    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.

    You are a good guy, wish there were more like you :smile:
    AMEN...there needs to be more guys like this! I work out in the early mornings so there's less creepers, but there's still always the random dude you catch gaping at your @ss when you turn around unexpectedly (awkward!). In turn, I do try to be careful where I'm looking too, because I don't want any guy to think I'm watching him either!!
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    This idea:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa971Xw0
  • Great_Mazinga
    Great_Mazinga Posts: 214 Member
    I like the suggestion to simply tell him you are there to exercise, not socialize. Be nice, though. If he still won't drop it beyond a simple hello or something, then I'd escalate it, to management to make sure. Be safe.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    is he cute?

    if not then i find "f*** off" works really well. you dont need to explain yourself just tell that fool to be gone

    i think 99% of the time when ladies have these type problems it's because they are too worried about being seen as a b*tch. it's ok to tell people NO outright without having to look cute and be coy about it. for many guys anything less than being straightforward about not being interested gives him hope that you may be interested.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    or if you dont want to go the direct route, you can always start asking him questions about china patterns and if he likes kids and if wants to meet your parents and go to your best friends wedding and how much money does he make what kind of car does he drive etc.

    that should scare him away
  • Gallowmere1984
    Gallowmere1984 Posts: 6,626 Member
    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.

    It's really sad too, when you think about it. My girlfriend first started her fitness routine at a Victory Lady Fitness, for the reason of avoiding the 'creepers and meatheads'. She finally switched her gym membership to Gold's, and goes with me on a nearly constant basis.

    Her reason for changing is that VLF is a garbage place, if your goal is weight training. They generally have one bench, no power racks, no squat racks, etc. It's basically a bunch of machines (which she hates, like any self-respecting lifter should) and a huge section of cardio stuff. It's the epitome of 'woman gym', where you can continue to ingest the typical myths about women and weight lifting.
  • kbitzonefour
    kbitzonefour Posts: 114 Member
    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.

    It's really sad too, when you think about it. My girlfriend first started her fitness routine at a Victory Lady Fitness, for the reason of avoiding the 'creepers and meatheads'. She finally switched her gym membership to Gold's, and goes with me on a nearly constant basis.

    Her reason for changing is that VLF is a garbage place, if your goal is weight training. They generally have one bench, no power racks, no squat racks, etc. It's basically a bunch of machines (which she hates, like any self-respecting lifter should) and a huge section of cardio stuff. It's the epitome of 'woman gym', where you can continue to ingest the typical myths about women and weight lifting.

    Confirmed. Said girlfriend.
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    See, that's my fear (and I know I sound like a phoney, or pretentious, or both) - but I'd hate feeling like I made someone feel like they had to wear baggy stuff if it was more comfortable to work out in something that allowed for more movement. They pay for the gym, they should be able to feel comfortable.

    I guess that's why places like Curves and women's-only gyms are popular.

    It's really sad too, when you think about it. My girlfriend first started her fitness routine at a Victory Lady Fitness, for the reason of avoiding the 'creepers and meatheads'. She finally switched her gym membership to Gold's, and goes with me on a nearly constant basis.

    Her reason for changing is that VLF is a garbage place, if your goal is weight training. They generally have one bench, no power racks, no squat racks, etc. It's basically a bunch of machines (which she hates, like any self-respecting lifter should) and a huge section of cardio stuff. It's the epitome of 'woman gym', where you can continue to ingest the typical myths about women and weight lifting.

    That's really awesome that you got her to switch over! Every female I've talked to who went to gyms like that always seem to start off with self esteem issues (usually in regards to weight) and do NOT want men staring at them making things worse. With time it seems that most women do overcome this and realize that those idiots are everywhere, in and outside of the gym. Just gotta learn to deal with 'em. :P

    I've never heard of VLF, but it sounds a lot like Curves which also sounds really really awful.
  • Musically_Blessed
    Musically_Blessed Posts: 33
    I would:
    A) Simply tell him "Dude, leave me alone. I'm here to lose weight, not to socialise."
    B) Tell staff that he's bothering you
    C) If nothing at all works, find a new gym or find a different time to go to the gym.
  • CaoimheAine
    CaoimheAine Posts: 195
    I usually just give them some awkward eye contact haha, never works but makes me feel better... Don't understand why creepers anywhere still creep after you give them the 'ugly', or the 'this is why i dont have a boyfriend' face hahah :laugh:

    But yeah headphones are great, otherwise i just try and look away and ignore them.. or move away eventually.
  • redheaddee
    redheaddee Posts: 2,005 Member
    Turn 40, that seems to have worked for me :laugh:
  • zachatta
    zachatta Posts: 1,340 Member
    I just sleep with them

    lol'd
  • Parthiv0304
    Parthiv0304 Posts: 27
    Be as loud as you can and tell him i m not interested lol
    I mean I know that is rude but he is been rude to you! you know?
  • kittensandcoffee
    kittensandcoffee Posts: 2
    I've joined a ladies only gym :) no creepers, awesome staff, machines are never sweaty, the gym, weights room and changing room NEVER smells like BO and theres dieticians, nutritionists, chiropractors AND a beautician on site to help you out :) super good, would never join a co-ed gym after this.
  • Leah2975
    Leah2975 Posts: 65 Member
    This idea:

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa971Xw0


    JennaMarbles is just pure genius
  • MarkAWhipple
    MarkAWhipple Posts: 77 Member
    The situation isn't already super uncomfortable? Tell him you don't want to talk to him.
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    Creepers.
  • buzzcogs
    buzzcogs Posts: 296 Member
    I would tell the manager of the gym and point "mr creepy" out to him. It's not good for business to have a "creepy mccreepster" bothering people who are trying to work out.
  • chemalurgy
    chemalurgy Posts: 48 Member
    Unfortunately, it's not always so simple as some on here have said "unless he is touching you don't speak with the staff". If he's consistently invading your space and doesn't understand "no", then there's an issue. I've working in law enforcement for years and I can tell you that someone who becomes obsessed or fixated with controlling a situation can be dangerous. Just because he's not touching you doesn't mean that he isn't trying to listen and get personal information or find out where you live. Do you always look under and in your car before you get in and are aware of your surroundings? Are you periodically glancing in the rearview to make sure no one is following you home?

    Yes, this sounds paranoid, but it can save a life. I'm certified to investigate homicidal sex crimes. I've studied this, plus psychology, etc for years and you can't be too careful. If you've seen the things that I've seen, then you wouldn't take this behavior lightly.

    Do I think you should always be afraid and looking over your shoulder? NO. Just use common sense. Let the man know that "no" means "no" and if it continues tell the staff that he isn't listening. You have a right to your privacy and he doesn't have a right to infringe upon your space. It is NOT wrong to set limits. You do NOT have to ignore him. Men like this will just get off on that type of behavior. He wants to control the situation. Don't let him. The advice of ignoring someone who's bugging you comes from the old days when women had to put up with harassment. That time is over.
  • trekkietaz
    trekkietaz Posts: 81
    I try not to mess with the women because i'm married but if they speak to me I will speak to them but there are not many people at the gym at 6:15 am when I go
  • ryno0628
    ryno0628 Posts: 2
    I had the same situation with a woman years ago....she stalked my every move in the gym. Every time I went to the gym--she was there. I finally told the people who worked the desk because I got tired of telling her to leave me alone. They finally spoke with her and threatened to cancel her membership. From that point forward the nonsense stop....although, she would always give me a dirty look. Eventually, she moved on to someone else. I'm sure you pay a decent sum to belong to a gym. You are there to workout; and not have to deal with some "Meatball". I would let management know the situation--I'm sure they will handle it.
  • FabMrFox
    FabMrFox Posts: 259 Member
    Offer to spot him while he does bench press and tries to impress you with his strength, then simply get side tracked towards the end.
  • RzRzRzR
    RzRzRzR Posts: 72 Member
    Most guys are UNABLE to "get the message" or "take a hint" because we are wired differently. Making a rude comment and then ignoring him means NOTHING to a guy. But it does, in fact, set yourself up as a new goal to be achieved - the perception is you are playing the "hard to get" game..

    Don't try to be nice. You have to tell him explicitly - "I'm not interested, so leave me alone". If he continues AFTER you tell him that, THEN bring it up with the gym management.
  • nixism
    nixism Posts: 258 Member
    The best thing to do is not to be rude to him - just say "sorry I'm here to do my thing, work out and get it done - thats all, I'd rather just do it than talk to people, so lets just leave it at that"...
  • stillnot2late
    stillnot2late Posts: 385 Member
    Since you dont have anything with music, and dont want to buy anything, go to a cheap store and by a $2 pair of over the ear earphones, tuck the pointed part inside your top. THERE YOU GO, you are now listening to music.
  • stillnot2late
    stillnot2late Posts: 385 Member
    I forgot, do you have any idea just how lovely you are?
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    If you wear headphones, point at them and make no motion to take them off. Then break eye contact and keep working out. If you don't wear headphones, point at the weights, then tap your wrist twice (international gesture for "time is of the essence"), break eye contact and keep working out.

    Two keys are break eye contact and speak NO WORDS. That should shut it down for good after 3 instances.

    If he tries to block your path to reestablish eye contact, kick him in the ding ding. For reals

    Very good advice. And I'm juvenile, ding ding made me :laugh:

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