Would you date an overweight person? Are you?
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I'm technically "obese" and I'd hit it if I were female...
we talking BMI definitions or eyeball tests?0 -
I dated a guy for 5 years who was morbidly obese. He was so shy and thought I wouldn't like him because of his weight...not true. He was (key emphasis on was) a good guy, so I could look past it. He did drag me down into his unhealthy eating until we both said "stop" and started eating better. He eventually got the surgery and lost a lot of weight.
To me, all that matters is willingness to be healthy. Even if they struggle with eating well, a committment to trying is what matters. My hubby now is ridiculously supportive about my weight loss goals. He makes a huge effort to buy vegetables, fruits, lean meats, whole grains, and a ton of spices, and finds interesting and new recipes to make for the both of us. That's why I married him!
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I'm technically "obese" and I'd hit it if I were female...
we talking BMI definitions or eyeball tests?
I guess I should clarify that I mean by eyesight lol0 -
I actually prefer my guy a little "husky", not saying grossly overweight....but a bit of a belly doesn't bother me.
I've always enjoyed eating healthy meals and being active. However, if their weight got in the way of doing activities we enjoyed it would cause a problem. Diet (what you eat, not necessarily being on a "diet") can be a big issue in a relationship. When I was married I always tried to incorporate healthy foods (wheat pasta, vegetarian meals etc) and my ex refused to eat it (tough *kitten* on him, I know)....but it did cause problems in the relationship. I'm dating now and if I find someone that can't be supportive of me going to the gym and eating healthy I can promise you that he won't be around long. I'm not saying he has to do that too, but he needs to be mindful of what a healthy lifestyle is and try make sure he is as healthy as he can be.0 -
My husband is taller, but thinner than me. He always has been. When we met, I was pushing 200 and he may have been 160 soaking wet. I'm 5'9" and he is 6'. Even at my absolute lightest since being with him, I felt I was very thin (173lbs, size 8), he was still thinner. I gained the weight back and am currently working my way back down. I think my husband is trying to bulk up a few lbs.
I guess all of that to say that I've never dated an overweight person, but I sure am glad that my husband decided to. :-)
I'm not saying I wouldn't have dated an overweight person, it just didn't happen that way. But I do know that I am not attracted to larger muscles at all. So I wouldn't have dated a man with huge muscles everywhere.0 -
Overweight, but not obese/morbidly obese.
But it all comes down to attraction in the end (and of course personality a close second). I'll give anyone a shot when both those are satisfied, weight notwithstanding.
They just can't be lazy, opposed to regular exercise and healthy eating. Those people tend to be thin(ner). So...0 -
They just can't be lazy, opposed to regular exercise and healthy eating. Those people tend to be thin(ner). So...
agreed!! those fast metabolism folks take it for granted! lol0 -
Yes and yes. I like all sorts of shapes and sizes
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yes i would....i like some meat on on a girl :P0
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Before I started losing weight I would have said that weight didn't matter at all and I would be with someone of any size but I've noticed that as my weight changes so does my perspective. Just as a relationship between someone who is very religious and an athiest would be strained at times I think it can be hard to have a partner who didn't share in a lifestyle choice as encompassing as health and wellness.
When my husband and I met I was 282lbs and he was of average weight. Neither of us were active and our lifestyles were very sedentary. Once my husband got on with the Sheriff's dept and lost some weight and toned up I had my "ah hah!" moment and started eating healthy and exercising.
The more I did it the more I loved how great I felt from eating foods that contributed to my health and that post exercise high. I loved even more that my husband was making that transition with me not only by improving our eating habits but having a "date night" run or going over produce together in the store.
Now I run and exercise 5 days a week and one of my favorite things is exercising with my husband. I don't think I would be as happy in a relationship where we didn't share that common interest. Would I still love my husband even if he didn't exercise with me? Of course, but I think we enjoy a closer and deeper bond because we share a similar outlook and lifestyle.0 -
Weight or a certain look is not so important to me. Being active is. I gotta have a guy who has enough energy to keep up with me.0
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Weight or a certain look is not so important to me. Being active is. I gotta have a guy who has enough energy to keep up with me.
^^this! I'm overweight but VERY active!!0 -
I suppose to me a general apathy for health and fitness is what would bother me. A person could be 280 and I'd still love them if they at least tried.0
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Doesn't matter to me. He's got to have the right personality though.0
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I always seemed to like man that had more weigth.
Never actually like the skinny type... I like men with broad shoulders, very tall, more packet around the body frame, but not muscles (I actually not keen on muscles... I don't find them attractive).
I would admit I never liked the sigth of a morbidly obesse man, but an overweight man would not be a problem for me, if I really liked that guy and our relationship would work great.
My ex-boyfriend was overweight (not sure of the BMI, but surrely at his 6'1" he wasn't obesse), but he was very active, actually did hiking and mountain biking often... I was feeling always actually bad I couldn't keep up with him.) Most of the time I did not perceive him as an overweight person. 0 -
My husband is 5'11" and 198 lbs so he's a little overweight but not so much that I'd consider him outside of the normal range for someone his height. He has been up to 260 lbs and it never bothered me. But I've never been overly picky about looks, more about personality and intelligence.0
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My husband is 5'11" and 198 lbs so he's a little overweight but not so much that I'd consider him outside of the normal range for someone his height. He has been up to 260 lbs and it never bothered me. But I've never been overly picky about looks, more about personality and intelligence.
I'm with you! 0 -
I like guys a little on the chubby side. My husband is maybe 15lbs "overweight" (technically?) and I think he's extra hot. I looooove a baby face, mmm. No, I'm not overweight but I used to be?0
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What's considered overweight? Do you mean a little on the heavy side, or straight out obese?
My boyfriend is "overweight"... he's self-conscious about it, I think he's super cute...0 -
What's considered overweight? Do you mean a little on the heavy side, or straight out obese?
My boyfriend is "overweight"... he's self-conscious about it, I think he's super cute...
Overweight or obese, either one, lol0
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