Tough Mudder

Aeriesified

So, the boyfriend is annoyed because I've decided that I'm going to participate in Tough Mudder 2013 in Calgary, AB. He says I'm gonna hurt myself doing it, and that I shouldn't because I'm competitive enough that I'm gonna wanna win, meaning more hours training and less with him. He doesn't seem to grasp the idea that for someone who is starting ten months earlier at 206lbs, winning = finishing at all. He doesn't get it.

I'm an adventure seeker, and have set goals like bungee jumping and paintballing and krav maga classes and a hiking trip. My goals aren't about indulging in a new outfit or a vacation when I lose enough weight. My goals are about doing the things that I've always wanted to do but was always afraid to because I was afraid of people laughing and thinking, "Look at the fat girl. She doesn't belong here."

Tough Mudder is my ultimate goal. I've always wanted to prove to myself that I can do something intense and challenging that only those who have really worked for it can achieve. Yes, people will get hurt doing it, and being out of shape puts me at a higher risk of being one of those people. But if I start training now, I won't be out of shape. If I commit to it now and preregister, there will be no backing out. I'll be in it for the long haul.

I'm gonna do it with or without his support. But it'll be easier if I do have his support. What can I do to change how he thinks of it? He has no intention of competing himself, so that's out.

rachelmorgan77

Honestly, he may not "get it" until he sees it - I was this way with my husband. He did a TM last summer, and after seeing it, I finally get it, and now I'm signed up! While it scares me to death, it's also a way of saying, "If I can do THAT, I can do anything I set my mind to." TM is all about team work and working together. You'll have a great time, and don't worry, he just doesn't understand what TM is all about - and that's okay.