A little help please

francesiax
francesiax Posts: 53
in Motivation and Support
So I'm having a little bit of a tough time with trying not to feel guilty about the things I eat . If I have a chocolate bar or go out for dinner it's like I have no choice but to calory count and get all het up about the fact that it may not fit in with my calory intake or I'll have to exercise a certain amount in order to be within my intake. It's bordering on an obsession and I'm a little scared. My birthday is coming up and I am going out for dinner with my boyfriend but already all I can think about is if I have this then I'll have to walk/jog/cross train this amount in order to be able to eat this this and this. I mean come on, it's my birthday I'm surely supposed to be able to have one day of the whole year where I can eat what I like and not be racked with guilt...

Don't get me wrong I by no means want to slip back into my old eating regime, I woudln't even be able to if I tried I used to eat way more than I do now. Am I the only person that feels this way? I could really do with some feedback.

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  • Graelwyn75
    Graelwyn75 Posts: 4,404 Member
    Remember, you still have to enjoy and experience life along the journey, and since it is a lifestyle change, well, there are going to be times when you have meals out and celebrations etc. As long as you are being careful and relatively healthy the rest of the time, there is no reason to give yourself some days off during the year, as long as you can balance it all out. There is nothing wrong with having a day off during times such as birthdays and christmas day etc, you will eventually automatically lean more towards the healthier options anyway. Don't let it all become an obsession as that is when you will end up giving up eventually because you will be driving yourself crazy.
  • Angie_1991
    Angie_1991 Posts: 447 Member
    Friend me........if you want....I drive my family nuts when we go out to eat...I always have my phone out...looking to see what's on the menu I can eat that isn't loads of calories. They say I'm addicted. That may be, but I'm healthy and a whole lot smaller!
  • derekj222
    derekj222 Posts: 370 Member
    You have to relax once and a while...as long as you are keeping up with your healthy eating/exercise the rest of the week, go for it. I'm already thinking about how I'm going to eat tons of turkey and stuffing on Thanksgiving! HA...but every other day that week I will be strict
  • fattypattybinger
    fattypattybinger Posts: 337
    Hi. I would recommend eating something before you head out. Nobody needs to know about it. This way you can eat less. I would also suggest tp put half of your meal in a doggie bag. I would save some calories for Cake. This way you won't feel guilty. Counting calories is a great thing to stay healthy. Good luck
  • Karren188
    Karren188 Posts: 101 Member
    Don't worry about one day -- I think you would be fine to "treat" yourself on your birthday. But get back on your schedule the very next morning. I obsess about tracking my stuff every day but it keeps me honest with myself. One thing that helps me is to log everything I eat, even if it's over my limit, and I move on. In the past I punished myself mentally for every wrong move I made, and consequently I went off the wagon for a day, or two or three and soon I derailed myself. The weight loss journey is a daily life change and just like the old hated cliche' about gaining weight "it didn't get there overnight" making the lifestyle changes we need to make to get where we want to be won't happen "over night" either. I will say this -- I do much better when I log everything into MFP daily, and I did better once I started adding supportive buddies here who keep me motivated. It's easier to skip out if you know there is no one who would notice whether you were there or not. Please feel free to add me as a friend. I'll be around for a while because I have a lot of me to "redesign" :):):) Good luck!! Karen
  • francesiax
    francesiax Posts: 53
    Thanks so much everyone. Such supportive words :)
  • Daringgreatly
    Daringgreatly Posts: 5
    I am proud of you for your 17lbs so far!!! I just started and am so scared to hit the scale for my first weigh in, but none of us with a real challenge in front of us- no matter what it is (weight loss, education, relationships...) do it all at once with perfect results over night. It is hard for me to keep in perspective. But we can do it if we keep trying with compassion for ourselves when it isn't easy.

    Thank you for being a part of this! Keep up your great work, you are encouraging to those around you.

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