He thinks I'm going to cheat!!!!!

ashesfromfire

So I'm a little mildly and yet completely fuming tonight. Tomorrow night I was invited to a party that I've been looking forward to. When My first couple years of high school I was a big party goer but gave it up when I started dating my boyfriend because he disapproved so much. Now, four years down the road I have a pretty well behaved lifestyle and figure, as a responsible college student I am completely capable of going to a party without dying. I extending the invitation to my SO - thinking he'd feel more comfortable if he could keep an eye on me, but he declined it. Though he would never dream of telling me I couldn't go, he has not tried to hide his dissatisfaction. Because I believe in communication I sat down with him to have a serious talk about his concerns (I can do whatever the heck I want, but of course I want to take his feelings into consideration). He expressed some vague concern about me getting hurt (there is a slightly notorious story from my delinquent years where I ended fairly injuries from stumbling around intoxicated outside, resulting in a need to use crunches for the following week) but his conviction didn't seem to back this concern, so I pushed a little harder. Turns out he thinks I'm going to get drunk and cheat on him! I've been in a faithful relationship with him for over four years! He thinks I'm just going to throw that all away in one night?
To give him some forgiveness - his ex did do this to him.......twice. (he was in a VERY abusive relationship before he met me, not as often you hear about a man being the abused one, but goodness was she awful to him, verbally, emotionally, and physically) But clearly IM NOT HER!!!! I understand once bit and twice shy, but after all this time he can't trust me?