Writing Vows

lavieboheme1229

I am getting married in May. I would like to write our vows. I'm looking for a bit of guidance. Funny? Tearful? Sappy?

How many of you have written your vows? Any dos and don'ts? Any regrets? Why did you choose to write them? Who didn't write them?

AmyP619

Congratulations!! I think the type of vows that you write really depend on yours and your fiance's personalities. If you're both known to be quite funny, then go that route. If you're more of the romantic type, then go sappy. It really depends on how you guys are with each other and how others perceive you. You don't want to be cracking jokes at the altar and have everyone in the audience wonder why you're not taking it seriously!! lol My husband and I are funny people, so ours probably would have been a bit of both (comedy and sappy). We chose NOT to write our own vows though because my hubby was scared to do it in front of everyone (200 guests). I couldn't even get him to repeat the vows the deacon recited! Lol We went with the simple Deacon says them and then we say I will or I do.. haha. Whichever way you choose I'm sure your day will be special and wonderful!!!!!! Enjoy it. It goes by fast!!!

Dub_D

You know your SO better than we do..

embercakez

You know your SO better than we do..

this isn't what I was expecting. *leaves disappointed*

SeaChele77

We didn't write our own from scratch, we modified the traditional one. Online you'll find a plethora of examples.

You know your to be groom much better than us. Is he a sappy kind of guy? Does he have a great sense of humor? Go off who he is and how your relationship is....not off what we can offer.

Best of luck to you!!

VelociMama

We wrote our entire wedding ceremony. We wanted something simple, nice, and not so formal. My suggestion is to just sit down and think about what you want and what kind of service you want and go from there.

skullshank

"roses are red, violets are blue,
once we are married, do the beejs stop?"

that was mine, and i certainly don't regret going the tearfully emotional route.

best of luck!

lavieboheme1229

You know your SO better than we do..

Oh I know that. This is the chit chat, fun and games section after all.

We are definitely goofy. But he can also be very sappy. I'm looking for different perspectives on the whole thing, that's all. I've started writing 2 different types of vows. One is Sappy, one is goofy, referencing sci-fi couples, and the lessons we can learn from them. LOL

Dub_D

You know your SO better than we do..

Oh I know that. This is the chit chat, fun and games section after all.

We are definitely goofy. But he can also be very sappy. I'm looking for different perspectives on the whole thing, that's all. I've started writing 2 different types of vows. One is Sappy, one is goofy, referencing sci-fi couples, and the lessons we can learn from them. LOL

Just break up.

BSchoberg

"roses are red, violets are blue,
once we are married, do the beejs stop?"

that was mine, and i certainly don't regret going the tearfully emotional route.

best of luck!

Bwah ha ha!

We did the traditional vows, but turns out we both had "jokey" rings for each other.

slackerwoman

We didnt do that but I kinda wish we had. We both have funny sarcastic personalities though so ours would have to be funny. However, you should check with your fiance before you go the funny route because if she isn't open to it that could go seriously wrong for you.

lavieboheme1229

You know your SO better than we do..

Oh I know that. This is the chit chat, fun and games section after all.

We are definitely goofy. But he can also be very sappy. I'm looking for different perspectives on the whole thing, that's all. I've started writing 2 different types of vows. One is Sappy, one is goofy, referencing sci-fi couples, and the lessons we can learn from them. LOL

Just break up.

They see me Trollin'- they hatin'

infamousmk

My husband wrote our entire wedding ceremony. Read some ceremonies on line and decide what tone best suits your relationship and your personalities.



And make sure you mention that the beejs never stop.

vvanm

There are professional writers who help with vow writing in your own voice. I would say use all components that represent the two of you and have meaning. Then, do you want the officient to deliver these sentiments in the ceremony or do you want to say them to each other in a very emotional moment? Practice the projection and delivery.

lavieboheme1229

Thanks all! We found our ceremony online, and are in love with it! Professional writer doesn't sound like it's in the budget! Thank you for the suggestion though. I will troll around online, look for some dos and don'ts. Just wondering what people on here had to say about it :flowerforyou:

tashjs21

We were going to write our own vows but at the last minute we both felt really nervous and not prepared so we just skipped it.

I wish we would have said something to eachother even if it was off the top of our head. :sad:

n0ob

I vow for you to outscore me at least 3-1 every time we take the court...

3dogsrunning

We wrote our own vows (married a month today). I almost chickened out because I was so worried it wouldn't be good enough but I so glad we didn't. I found this article super helpful
http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/07/how-to-write-wedding-vows/

We decided to do 4-5 promises like she did, we didnt know what the other was going to say. Our JP reviewed them.
We both mixed up some funny and some serious/sweet but even the funny had meaning. He opened with the line he knew from the first time I kissed him in his kitchen - which is a joke between us and I did not - i cracked up, it really seemed to relax us.
I really really loved it.
My only regret was I didn't videotape it although his mom managed to video it just not great quality.

Bentley2718

We ad-libed ours. We might have had a couple of rounds of drinks shortly beforehand. Hilarity ensued. The problem is, after about a year, neither one of us is entirely sure what we vowed to do...

yoovie

Ive written my vows twice now.

The first time it was blah blah blah this'll make your mom shut up.

The second time was all Skynard and lyrics and soulful moving poetic emotion!

Next time I am getting ready to get married (the time I actually go through with it) We're just going to do something scary and amazing and wild and we're gonna do it together and our first kiss as a married couple will involve a high five somehow and its going to segue riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight into the honeymoon. Adrenaline rush kickoff.

yoovie

And make sure you mention that the beejs never stop.

PomegranatePriestess

We each wrote our own vows, and didn't share them until the ceremony itself. I wrote mine first and told him how long it took me to speak them so he'd have a baseline to go from, so it wasn't really lopsided. Other than that, we didn't give each other any hints ahead of time. He really blew me away with his... most of our guests were reduced to tears at that point. We were both very happy that we took the time to craft them.

Our vows were in keeping with our ceremony, which was not humorous, but deeply emotional. The humor came in during the reception, with the toasts, and me singing to him, and all that.

I love talking weddings, so if you want to shoot me a request, you can bounce ideas off me anytime!

Best of luck to you in your marriage.