I met someone special...

mccbabe1

But he likes me just as I am. He is hoping I won't lose anymore weight. I have lost almost 25 lbs. I am no where near my goal, but I do feel good and healthy. The main reason I was losing was to be more healthy and not hurt when I walk.
Do I just (for a while at least) go to a maintenance diet and see how things go, or do I forgo his desires and keep dropping because that was my original plan?
Any thoughts will be appreciated!

you started this Journey without him.. so he needs to appreciate that your doing amazing and want to keep going.. for health and for a lot of reasons!.. some guys are into 'thicker' girls.. or its an insecurity thing too for some men.. they think if there girl is a lil thicker or not 'way hot' then they wont hafta be jealous/worried... (some not saying yours).. just be careful too cuz a lot of times.. (esp for women) when we meet a special someone we GAIN wt.. and your eally dont wann go backwards as hard as you have worked thus far!!!!!!

VelociMama

Do not give up on your goals for a man, no matter how "special" he is. If he really loves you, he'll support you and encourage you to reach those goals.

dollaqie

This is for yourself, that is why you started with this journey in the 1st place, keep going!!!!!!!!!!

mccbabe1

Imagine that you met this wonderful guy who loved you BUT he thought you would look better if you lost 20 pounds? How would that make you feel? It's really not any different. He is telling you what you should do with your body.

It's sweet that he loves you for who you are inside and out, but that should apply whether you gain 40 or lose 40. Sounds like you are trying to be healthier, not apply for Americas Next Top Model. If he really loves you, he will want you to be healthier.

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Canderson58054

I would keep going but talk to him about how you felt before you started this, and that you want to be healthy. If he's that special someone, he will support you with whatever you do.

kimosabe1

Okay, this was before him so just maintain your accomplishment. If you lost control and left, you would go over in your calories and you wouldn't concentrate on burning anything so it is really up to you and how you feel about yourself, not him you.

Cait_Sidhe

My goals are my own and I don't shape my body to meet other's desires. If it were me, I'd continue until I met the goal I set for myself.

zoukeira

My boyfriend likes me as I am too, and a good 7kg ago he said I didn't need to lose anymore, when I plateaued recently he even said not to lose anymore - that he loved my curves and softness (haha! squidgy, jiggly bits!). BUT when I do lose he notices and he definitely appreciates it. I think by telling me I didn't need to lose anymore he was really just his way of further proving that he likes me as I am and further loss won't change that - it didn't really mean that he wouldn't be happy if I did lose more weight.

Going4Lean

I agree with everyone. This is about you and if he loves you he will understand.

Lisseth03

Do what YOU wanna do, you come first in your life. Don't change your plans/goals/etc for anyone else.

PatByrne82

Do what you feel you need to do
In the long run it's all about YOUR happiness not the happiness of others
Good Luck

MinnieInMaine

Thank you all! No, he doesn't know my health issues (yet) just that I have had success so far in my loss efforts.
You have all told me what deep inside I really already knew, so thank you for the re-enforcement!
*hugs* to you all!

Without knowing the context of your conversation, it's also possible that he said that to compliment you and make sure you're not self conscious. My Hubs loved me when I was severely obese (260) and he still loves me now (171). Your shape doesn't matter, your health does. If you need to, explain to him that it's not about losing the weight or getting skinny but about your health, fitness, longevity. Anyone would get on board with those reasons...

Take care!

AshleighTaylorXOXO

Stick to your plan! My boyfriend said the same thing, that I am beautiful just the way I am... but I'm doing this for me. I assume you are doing the same. You aren't doing it for him, you are doing it for YOU. So stick to the plan, and if he is a keeper.. he'll love you no matter your size.

Lacebopp

You know, you all are so great! Thank you!!!!

tdismydog

i feel you i have an ex wife that actually got mad a me when i started losing weight. i did most of the grocery shopping and would buy alot of healthy foods that and she would not sacrifice the junk....

i have a new girl friend that i like just the way she is, not matter what her weight, but if part of her that makes her feel like she is as beautiful as i see her is to lose weight, i fully support her. i think if you dont promote being healthy in a relationship, its well kinda strange.

thats my rambling for the day...

SeaChele77

Please re read your post and think really hard about what you're asking.

This journey is for YOU. Great he likes the way you are right now, but do YOU like the way you are right now? Not just physcially but mentally and emotionally? Its not always about what you see in the mirror, but what you feel inside.

If he loves you now, he will love you 5, 15, 30lbs smaller/bigger! you need to do this for you and no one else - their reaction/appreciation/acceptance is just the bonus!!

if you are not ready to stop losing then dont - explain to him that physically, mentally, emotionally ,etc you feel you need to continue for a little while longer and hope he supports you. Thats all you can ask for - if he doesnt' then he never really loved you for you in the first place!

peuglow

so I assume he likes you for your body and not for your personality?
IMO you should continue losing weight, and if he still is interested in you then its wonderful but if he loses interest hes an a$%hole...

Exactly.