Frustrated :(

RPerkins726

I LOVE the support and encouragement read here--and it's all for you!! And your goals and dreams--we KNOW you can do it! You've already lost NINE POUNDS. THAT IS AWESOME. Just get through today and know there are better, brighter days ahead!

babygurl6982

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Oh sweetie dont give up I know I might e new at this myself but 9lbs way to go thats progress like someone said earlier you can lose weight just on diet alone if you cant walk a mile right now then dont slow progress is better than no progress, look you have came this far please dont give up (im fighting for you)! your story almost brung me to tears im so sorry your in so much pain > your strong and even though I dont know u I do know that you can do this add me as a friend if you want to and i will try and help you out as much as i can (im still learning myself) lol ...Good Luck and keep me updated !

confusednotcrazy

Your doing great to have lost 9 pounds so far and you can do this. I hate vegetables but I found that If I munch on a carrot or celery now and then it keeps the hunger at bay and doesn't give me many calories. It will be worth it all when you get the surgery and then you can push yourself harder, but for now listen to your body and you'll do great.

Restybaby2012

So, Today I tried to do the right thing. All week I been craving the new Hibachi place that just opened. After reading what my amazing MFP friends commented I decided it would not be the best choice. I ended up with subway. A much healthier choice.

I Purchased a nike fuelband the other day and decided that today was the day I was going to walk 1 mile. I know that does not sound like much but having 4 herniated disc from a bad car accident every mile seems like 100. I walked 1 lap around my local park. I was so proud of myself but now I'm paying the price. The pain in my back is bringing tears to my eyes. Shooting down my legs and just throbbing. I know I pushed it and I'm trying to make this weight come off asap.

Now I'm stuck in bed and starving. Maybe I should have just went to the buffet and came home. I lost 9 pounds so far but need another 41 before they will do surgery on my back. My wife says I'm to hard on myself. I'm just tired of the back pain. Tired of being stuck in the house and tired of being fat.

I'm just plain tired and feeling like just giving up !!! The weight has won for 42 years and It might just win again.

OOOooooOOOooHHhhh DMJ........I know your pain intimately. Im so sorry you're hurting. Im in the same boat only they wont do surgery anymore. Ive had 4 or 5 done and have titanium pins plates screws and rods all over from my neck to my ankles. Some days...especially lately it hurts to sit still much less think about walking. I couldnt walk a mile if I had to...even after taking pain meds.

BUT please dont give up......you can do this. Im restricted...extremely so ...on what exercises I can do and have still managed to lose something like 70 pounds in 100 days. My blood sugars are better than a non diabetic!!! I feel better than I have in years.....I just cant work out like all the others here. SO you CAN do this just be kind to yourself...take it easy...move as much as you can without hurting beyond words...watch the carbs more than anything and load up on vegies, fruits and protein.

I wish you much success and less pain STAND STRONG!!

Kris6344

Maybe you could do some exercises in a pool that wouldn't irritate your back so much?
I wish you all the best man.

Shas2228

DON'T you dare give up!!!

You need to look at yourself in the mirror and SMILE... You have already lost 9 pounds. That's 31,500 calories you have SHREDDED off your body!!

You don't HAVE to walk right away to help with weight loss. I've lost 47 pounds and I've gone power walking less than 10 times since September 12th. (I'd love to walk more... but, long story). Anyway my point is, you CAN lose weight simply by just eating better. I promise!

3,500 calories equals to 1 pound. So you need to "burn" 3,500 calories in a week to lose 1 pound. Oh, that's so easy! So you figure out your body's basic caloric intake need. This amount is the amount your body needs to simply function and maintain the weight you are at. Look at that number. Now think of the calorie intake MFP has given you. Subtract the difference. That's how many calories you are burning a day simply by eating better. I hope this makes sense. I will provide the link. http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm

Now times that amount you burn a day simply by eating better by 7. That's how many calories you burn a week simply by eating healthier. I will provide a better example.

Let's say a person's basic calorie intake a day is... Oh, 2,100 calories. Just to maintain. Now let's say My Fitness Pal gives them 1,500 calories a day. So that's 600 calories a day that person is burning simply by eating what MFP recommends. 600 calories times 7 days a week equals 4,200 calories. So that person has lost a little over a pound that week. That's not even including the fact we burn calories every day by doing chores. Going to the store. Or even exercising a little. So this person could actually have lost 2 pounds a week by their every day functioning.

Does that make sense? Please don't give up. You need this for you. You need this for your wife. She deserves a healthy and happy YOU.

Hang in there!

Jamcnair

Is there a community center near you with an indoor pool? That would be good exercise, but easy on the back maybe?

mmddwechanged

Pain is so hard to deal with! It makes me irritated when normally I wouldn't be, it makes me feel sorry for myself, ( I detest self-pity), and I find I focus more on what I can't do than what I can do. What we all can do is eat at a deficit. Diet is at least 80% of the solution. I am relying entirely on diet to get this weight off because I don't know from day to day how I will be feeling. Mfp has helped so much. I like reading different theories, ideas and recipes. I have to wait 6 to 8 months for surgery, perhaps your timeline will be about the same. Keep tracking, you have the tools to do this! You've had tremendous success ready. The time will pass, let's spend that time being grateful for a solution, for taking health and happiness by the reins and enjoying life every day! ( I know I'll still complain but by practicing being positive and thankful for hundreds of blessings in my life, helps me get off the self pity pot and into my day)

MaraDiaz

Don't give up!! You CAN do it. Can you talk to a physical therapist? He/she might have some very helpful suggestions on exercises you can do that won't irritate your back. Sounds like walking is not one of them. What about a stationary bike?

I was thinking this, too. Even just being in the water swimming a little at first burns more calories than being in bed and it's relaxing and can take your mind off food.

dmnj33

******** UPDATE *********

Down 27 pounds. Need to drop another 16 before back surgery. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. I pretty much stalled but I will not give up. FAT you will not win. NOT this time. I want to exercise more but it's a fine line to walk. Some days my back can handle it and some days it can't. If I push to much then I'm stuck in bed for 2 days. So Frustrating. Also if I take my pain meds it seems like I don't lose any weight that week.

cebreisch

Take it easy with the exercise for now- at least until you have surgery to fix your back. You can lose the weight with dietary changes - I've lost 111 pounds that way. It is NOT WORTH IT if you end up in bed for 2 days taking pain meds.

You can always make different choices. One of my nutritionists told me to focus on protein and the fat/carbs would take care of themselves - and I've found that to pretty much be true. Fiber also helps. My husband and I really like the Chocolite protein/fiber bars (healthsmartfoods.com). I like the triple chocolate fudge, we both like the cookies/cream, and he likes the cashew/caramel. They're about 95-100 calories a piece with about 10 g protein and about 10g fiber. Sugar Free and gluten free too.

razeen12

Hello dmnj33, I just joined MFP 2 days ago and am learning the ins and out of this page. I am so happy to see you have stuck with it and have lost 27 lbs.(your first post I saw was from back in Oct.) I have 40lbs to lose and feel very overwhelmed. I am on a cancer medication that has slowed my metabolism and makes all my joints ache, and then I broke my wrist 6 weeks ago, so no lifting or any type of push-ups allowed. I can walk, but it is a slow go. Thank you for giving me the encouragment to try to walk more. I hope your back is behaving itself.

danibu98

I have recovered from a back.injury and the TENS unit was a huge help! I also got an Acupressure mat from Amazon, the brand is Zen. My back feels amazing when I lay on it and I relax so much. My husband and kids love it too. There are lots of positive reviews on amazon- definitely consider it.

Shas2228

How AMAZING is that! You've lost almost 20 extra pounds since you first posted this You are doing GREAT! Keep your chin up and know it WILL come off. Don't give up!!

iAMsmiling

******** UPDATE *********

Down 27 pounds. Need to drop another 16 before back surgery. This is the hardest thing I have ever done. I pretty much stalled but I will not give up. FAT you will not win. NOT this time. I want to exercise more but it's a fine line to walk. Some days my back can handle it and some days it can't. If I push to much then I'm stuck in bed for 2 days. So Frustrating. Also if I take my pain meds it seems like I don't lose any weight that week.

That's great news!
No going back now. Get those last pounds, get the surgery, and hopefully you'll be on an easier path from there on out.

OhioViking79

Have you tried swimming? I find that on days that my back and neck decide to argue with me, swimming and general water exercises are a great alternative. Great job so far though! Keep it up and you will get there!

BamaBreezeNSaltAire

Congrats on making the choice to lose the weight. Congrats on making the choice to move more! You are on the right track and don't be so hard on yourself. Slow and steady gets the job done! Hang in there!

NeverGivesUp

I am so sorry about what you are going through. Please watch this video before thinking about giving up. It is so inspiring. http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/fat_sick_and_nearly_dead_2010/ It could get you to the point where you could get the surgery and then you can take it from there. Hang in there. Sometimes eating less and exercise is not the best answer. It is ok to try alternative solutions for your health and well being. I did it for 30 days and it really changed my life in a very positive way. You can do this. If you keep getting bigger, you will get further and further away from the surgery. 9 lbs is a huge accomplishment. You made some great choices, keep it up and try to get inspired.

AtlantaWriter

Please don't give up! There are so many of us who live with pain each day. It is NOT fun and it can really hurt your quality of life. Ironically, though, if you don't exercise, it can make you down in the dumps. I sometimes have back pain, but mostly I have hip pain and some days I cannot walk for exercise. On those days, I go to the pool. Is there an indoor pool near where you live that you can go? It doesn't have to be a health club or anything. I go to one that's part of the recreation department. It relieves the pain in my back and hip to go there, too. And are you seeing a pain management specialist? It's hard to exercise when you have excrutiating pain. I'm assuming your doctor knows this?

As for food, I am learning here that I am eating for health, not just to look better in a bathing suit. It's a hard concept for a food junkie like me to swallow, but if you can talk to yourself about eating healthier just for health's sake, that helps. There are no magic bullets. You probably already know this, but there are plenty of Internet sites that can outline healthy diets for you. http://www.cdc.gov/healthyweight/healthy_eating/ Gimmick diets don't work for me. Anytime I have to cut out a major food group (like carbs) I end up doing worse in the long run.

All of us here have our demons and crosses to bear. Yours seems particularly difficult. But you can do it. Please don't give up. Use this site every day. We're all rooting for you!

NeverTooLateForChange

No sage advice to offer... just hugs and prayers to send your way. It will all be worth it if you just hold on. We are behind you. And in front of you, to te left of you and to the right of you. In other words, we are here to surround and support you. Sending you a friend request.

salcha76

9lbs = 36 sticks of butter.....it's a huge accomplishment.

no one is putting demands on you....take it one day at a time & even baby steps are steps in the right direction!

chin up!