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  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    Change your thoughts, change your life. Negative attracts more negative. Start seeking the positive in all you do and see. Life is gonna happen and you are going to be surrounded by crap - but if you learn to see the silver lining in EVERY situation, you will become happier by default. I promise. I used to be the same way. You have to constantly shoot the negative thoughts done immediately and replace them with positive stuff. So it's definitely a "fake it til you make it" approach - and sweetie - it REALLY works. Put on some booty shaking music (stay away from the depressing stuff) and start counting your blessings. When you feel nothing is going right, everything sucks - be grateful you are still breathing and not hooked up to an oxygen tank.
    I agree with this!
  • mamasitaroja
    mamasitaroja Posts: 52 Member
    Sounds cheesy, but make a list of the things about yourself that you like, things you enjoy doing or being, that you admire, that you know with a little more development could be FANTASTIC! Then make a list of the things that keep you from these, dampen these, or cause you to neglect or "later" the things that make you happy, fulfilled, etc. If there is a disparity, start to balance these things now. Imagine ways to get from now to later, that will make you all YOU want to be. And don't worry about what anyone else thinks right now, if they are not supportive and positive.

    Do you get enough sleep, sunlight, and time spent laughing with people? If not, look for ways to maximize this.

    Find something you can do for someone else, whether big or small. Donate something, spend an hour or two volunteering. Say good morning to someone you don't know and smile. The more positive things you are able to do, the better you may feel. And I have found that even when you don't expect anything back, it comes back to you anyway.

    Wake up one day, say "The Mayans are right, the world is ending 12/12, so before that happens, I want to _________________". And then DO it! And then go to the next thing you would put in that space.......and do it.

    If you feel like maybe you're unhappy because of something in your life that you really don't want to face or have to make a decision about, try a counseling session or two JUST to deal with that. It may be enough to clear your head of the negative self- talk and give you the courage to MOVE on whatever it is.

    Listen to music that makes you feel like dancing. Then dance. Even if you don't do it well, it's fun, right? :)

    Fake it til you make it is good, but remember- YOU make it. It is what you say it is, so find what you want it to be and keep it going that way.

    I admire you for at least getting on and asking for suggestions, rather than just brooding in silence. Step one accomplished! :D
  • love4fitnesslove4food_wechange
    love4fitnesslove4food_wechange Posts: 6,897 Member
    Hmmm...I guess you try to identify the cause of these feelings and address why they are irrational. Try to think of all the things that you do that make this an untrue statement.
  • teasdino
    teasdino Posts: 228 Member
    Know that everyone goes through that at one time or another. Its an emotional/phsychological thing, and it can be crippling. That is why the fake it till you make it thing works for many people. Exercise releases good feeling hormones into your body. That is why it works as well. Doing things for others puts others at a high priority, and that can make you feel accomplished.
    My best advise is something I had to do a couple of years ago. I had been on allot of medication for a serious back issue. At one point I chose to dump all the meds and go for a healthier life. My back will always be screwed up, but I wont allow it to control my life. What I did was start a journal of type. Now, just so you know, I cant stand the thought of writing every night...lol. But what I did was make myself write 5 good things about my life that day. No matter how small or unimportant they seem, its for you and your eyes only. Every day write 5 things that are good in your life. Then, after a week, bump it up to maybe 6 or more. They can be some of the same things, but throw some new ones in the mix. Things that are good. It can be as simple as you have eyesight , you can hear,you have a nice smile, you have a boyfriend who cares about you. Do it every night.
    And dont be afraid to fail. Go try something new. The success is not in the end. The success is that you tried something new in the first place. So you found something that does not work. You wont know till you try it. Trying is succeeding. That you are here on earth means you are a valuable person. You are never to old to try something new. Wether you realize it, or not, you influence other peoples lives.
    Hope all the comments and suggestions that everyone has so encouragingly given will help you.
    jac
  • TLynn0568
    TLynn0568 Posts: 36
    "How do you pick yourself up when you feel like the worst person in the world? When you feel worthless?"

    If I can't reconcile my feelings in a few weeks I'm all about counseling.

    There's a high value in having a 3rd party help you see the other side of you, the better side that you can't see for whatever reason. And a good therapist will do it in a way where you actually SEE it, not just say that they're blowing smoke up your butt.

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