Who Do You Go To For Support? And Who Do You Avoid?

Rogue_Minx

For me, it's my boyfriend- a certified personal trainer (almost... he's still working on it). He almost always has some kind of motivational words to make me kick my butt into gear and get out there. He's half the reason I started working out in the first place.

I avoid most of my family. Some are overweight and unwilling to change. That isn't a big deal until they start telling me that I'm getting TOO small (I'm only 155 at 5'5" so I've got a way to go before I'm TOO small), and then they cook purposely with tons of oil and make noises at me while they eat it. :mad:

My friends are mostly really supportive and understand that I was unhappy with the way I looked. They think I look much better now!

And, of course, I rely on myself as much as I can. I look at the old "fat" pictures of me and say "NEVER AGAIN". :laugh:

So who do you go to when you've lost motivation? And who do you avoid at all costs?

pennemcclung

My niece is my man support, and my friend Barbie. Both are excited that I am making progress. My hardest motivation if for excercize. I just seem to never get around to it. I struggle with schedules to make it a priority. But I am working on it.

Amberonamission

For weigh loss support I come here.. Nobody in my real life wants to hear it.

Who I avoid is my husband. He'd love for me to die young and fat. I have to watch him binge and drink dily and curse the clock when it starts rolling around 4:30 cuz I KNOW what is coming.

fstephanie4

My Best Friend mainly, my MFP friends and my Mum. :happy:

They are the best at understanding how I feel and I like to think they listen...if they don't I get it off my chest and feel better anyway so I don't care lol.

I avoid the friends I knew when I was at my heaviest. I don't get support, no compliments when I lose and I feel like a blob around them. who needs that?

jynxxxed

I don't honestly seek out support from anybody.. it's cool and all talking to people on here and sharing common goals/reaching milestones together, but I don't require it. I also avoid discussing it with anybody other than my boyfriend (who I also rarely discuss anything weight loss related with). I dislike when people bring it up in conversation and I avoid it because it's really none of their business what I'm eating and how much I weigh..

I avoid everybody, seek out nobody. The reponses are starting to make me feel like the only one lol

joeysox

my wonderful sister Leanne,she uses this site too, she knows more than most how much ive struggled with how i view myself along with my weight also. i avoid most people lol most say 'oh youve lost so much already you dont need to lose more (despite my bmi still being 29) or 'work on other issues before your weight' or 'ive never noticed your weight dont be silly' hmmm xx

jlapey

My partner is my main support and my friends here on MFP. I don't have anyone that I "avoid". I'm fortunate in that I can't say anyone has been UNsupportive.They are more like indifferent so I don't bring it up. If I comment that I lost, then they congratulate me, but that's as far as it goes.

amswanson3

My mom is my number 1 for support. We started MFP together on the same day and have been working at losing weight together. I can talk to her about EVERYTHING from "oops, made a bad food choice" to "I kicked butt at the gym today" and everything in between.
My husband is a close 2nd. He's so proud of my progress and hard work and offers support and nice things to say whenever I need it (or even when I don't).
I avoid two of my skinny friends. Not because I'm jealous or anything. They're great people. But, they eat whatever they want and are always offering me stuff that they know I shouldn't have. Too tempting to hang out with them. I'd rather hang out with people that aren't trying to give me cookies, sodas, and donuts.

KrazyAsianNic

For support I go to my boyfriend, best friend, and little sister. Depending the situation, I will also go to my older sister. MFP has become a main place for support too.

I avoid family, espeically my grandma

KatKisses

MYSELF! Everyone else is just a sabotager! :grumble:

tashaa1992

I go to my dietician, counsellor, mum, manager, a co worker or a few best friends for support. I avoid my older sisters, ex boyfriend, and certain friends for support because they either don't get it or will discourage me.

NavyKnightAh13

For support: my husband. He has been with me through so much, and by me changing, he is starting to as well as far as eating and always encourages me to keep losing weight.

Avoiding: my husband's side of the family, mostly mother in laws side. Everytime we get together "aren't you going to eat more? If you leave here hungry its your fault". They get mad because I don't eat 2-3 plates of food. I only eat a quarter of a plate. I also avoid my family sometimes because they have become a little too weight conscious.

The pictures motivate me to not go backwards. I don't bother my friends with weight loss because I know they don't want hear it.

Crochetluvr

I don't go to my family, that's for sure. It took until yesterday for my brother to say anything about my weight loss...and then when I told him my goal was 150, he said, "That's not enough....you need to lose more than that." Then when I said if I felt I needed it, I would go down to 140 and he STILL thought that was too much.

But its ok...I have my MFPeeps...they are all the support I need.

rachelerwin

My husband is my number one supporter. He is always there for me.