A little off track, and needing some guidance/support/ideas.

StormyGal8

So, I have been on this weight loss journey for a while. I lost 30lbs last spring, gained 10lbs back, then this summer I lost an additional 30, and have been hovering right around that mark. Granted it's not because "I just can't lose anymore, what's wrong?"...it's because I keep falling off the wagon.

For me, the first week is critical. If I can get on track and stay on track for a week, then I am in the clear. However, I seem to not be able to stay on track this go around. I can make it a day, maybe 2, then convenience, time, or "circumstance" (more like "a good excuse") comes my way, and I go down the dark path.

I know how to do this, I have done it before, all the "right" way. I think one of the reasons I am having a tough time mentally keeping on track is because i am not working out. I mean, I walk 4-6 miles a day at work, but no gym membership (although it's in the works), and to be brutally honest, no drive to be able to move my *kitten* on my own. I took a Mixed Martial Arts Fitness class in the summer, and absolutely loved it, so I am not afraid to work out, I just can't seem to manage to do it on my own. I absolutely HATE running (I tried the C25K program about 15 months ago, and got to week 7, but quit because I despised it). I am excited about a gym membership (when we get it, it will be a couple of weeks though) because I am excited to start lifting weights. My MMA Fitness had a massive impact on my body shape, because a lot of it was body weight work outs, squats, lunges, pushups, diamond pushups, as well as a bit of yoga, and some hits and kicks. I lost 2 clothing sizes in the 2 months that class ran.

It doesn't help that my husband, while he loves me dearly, is quite the enabler. He doesn't do it to sabotage me, he does it because he loves me and wants me to be happy, all the time. If I squeeze in a cooler with the last of my calories, he will offer me another, because he knows I like them, and don't drink all that much. The fact that I say yes, isn't his fault, it's mine, for sure....but he is still enabling by asking. He knows this., he is just torn between wanting to make me happy right now, and wanting to see me succeed.

I am just not sure why it is that I can't keep on track for long enough that it becomes something I don't think/worry about anymore, like it has in the past

Does anyone else experience the impossible first week? It's like, once that first one is over, nothing can sway me...but getting to that point is next to impossible.

How do you combat it?

I guess I just need some support and ideas. I WANT to be active. I have great plans, once there is more snow down, to try snowshoeing, and cross country skiing (I come from a place that gets very minimal snow in the winter...2 inches will literally shut down the schools, and while I have lived here for 5 years, I have never felt healthy enough to try some of these winter sports out). Thin isn't my goal, I want to have a fit and strong body when I am done.

I know this was long winded, and rambly, but I am sort of lost, and looking for a bit of help. I am not new to weight loss, or to MFP, I just seem to be stuck in a slump. I can start on plan, every day, but something happens, and I fail by the end of the day, so I am reaching out for some help and guidance, or even just ideas, if anyone has anything to offer.

trishtrish1

I dont' have a solution - sorry - I have to take it one day at a time. I just know that you can do it!

Anything else bugging you - stressing you out - that might be steering you off track? Getting enough sleep?

I do see you (like me) having big exercise plans "in the future" ("when" it snows, "when" get your membership). Maybe take it one day at a time. What do you want to do TODAY to be active? Doesn't even have to be big and grand, just 10 minutes of SOMETHING. Would get those endorphines pumping....

You can do it!

Trish

tigerlily8045

I hear you! I have grand plans myself. I plan on working out when I get home and then it never seems to materialize. I just need to put my foot down as well as the food..lol I don't know if you can do something with weights at lunch time.

Koldnomore

It sounds like you are trying to change to many things all at once. I looked at your diary for the past 3 weeks..I saw 'maybe' 1 complete day of tracking. Why not just work on one thing at a time?

1. Calculate your numbers, do your research, find out what you should be eating.
2. TRACK your food..everything - even if you go over, just get in the habit of tracking. Don't stress about anything else.
3. Once you have your tracking going then start looking at your food and deciding what you can change to make it a 'little' better. Don't try to completely re-vamp your whole diet. Just change one or 2 things. buy a scale if you don't have one.
4. Keep tracking and changing little things until you can manage to stay in your allotment without any problems and THEN maybe worry about adding activities. Don't feel you have to work out 7 days a week. Start small, go for a walk, do something you LIKE and if you are on a plan which requires you to eat more when you exercise then do so.
5. Just keep going, changing LITTLE things here and there

Most people who fail are trying to change too many things at once. Its not a race. Get your BASE down and then build on it because if you don't have a strong food plan everything else isn't important. You can't "out exercise" a bad diet.

TavistockToad

its entirely in your hands... do you want what you want right now - like the second cooler you blame the husband for offering, or do you want the results in the long run?

StormyGal8

its entirely in your hands... do you want what you want right now - like the second cooler you blame the husband for offering, or do you want the results in the long run?

I think you must have misread. I said it was ENTIRELY my fault for taking it. I said that he is an enabler for offering. I am completely willing to accept my own responsibility in this. I didn't get fat by having a husband who loves me...nor will I get skinny by having one who nags me. This journey is MINE to make. What I asked for was ideas and assistance. I know who made me fat, I know who can make me skinny, I know exactly where my faults lie in all this.