In Need of Major Encouragement...

Fatz1983

We ALL feel like this at some point...I suggest 2 things dnt restrict foods it only makes u crave them more (having done every fad diet known to mankind made me seriously aware that restricting foods does not work longterm).

Secondly set yourself SMART goals...Specific Measurable Achievable Realistic Timebound...

We all need clear objectives...what is yours, think about it. When it comes to weight loss what is your internal dialogue?

Weight loss =??

JennKie1

Forgive yourself and move on. You can do it if you really want to. There are exercises you can do that won't hurt your knees (stationary bike for example). Or, you yourself mentioned upper body. Just get yourself moving. It's hard to get out of a "slump". Just think of how hard you worked for that 20#. Do you really want all that effort to be for nothing? Stop making excuses.

We all (myself included) make bad choices. We either choose to learn from them and change course, or we continue down the path of self-destruction. It's time for you to decide which path you want to take.

cecyvaquero

Thanks for being honest. Now here it goes.

Quitting is not an option. You have fallen. Now its time to get back up. I had chinese food teh other day to and I had what you had the fried chicken and rice and yea it made me feel horrible for eating so bad but still you get back up. So you can't work out the way you want to work out. So you start of slow and work out the parts of your body that are not in paid. Eventually you will be working out every day like you used to. I have 4 children and they are all c sections and everytime I was not able to work out made me feel horrible becuase I know that working out makes you feel better.

So eventually i was able to work out again. I didn't do crazy workouts I started small. Workout what you can.

Rome was not built in one day and therefore if it takes you a couple days to get back up then its ok. Atleast you are doing something instead of nothing.

About eating. If you know you are going to eat bad food then try to atleast limit it. We have pizza at our house all the time and I can never say no but instead of eating the usual 2 slices I limit myself to only 1 slice. Start small. Limit yourself.

Eventually you will be losing weight again instead of gaining. Don't drive yourself crazy

If you need motivation I have lots of motivation to give. Ill be your friend. I am here.

Don't be so hard on yourself and never give up!!!

PomegranatePriestess

I agree with everyone who is telling you to pick yourself back up and get back in the game.

I'd also like to add some advice: you should not be afraid to say to anyone you are making plans with that you'd rather not go to any particular place they might suggest in favor of a place where you can not only eat well, but eat something you'll enjoy -- and they'll enjoy it, too. Back when I did low carb, I occasionally had to stick up for myself and steer friends away from places I knew had lackluster low-carb options and tempting high-carb ones, and into the places I knew had great food we could all enjoy. Occasionally, I still have to do this, even though I am not on a specific diet, if I know I won't be happy ordering what passes for healthy at a particular place. And you don't have to give a long explanation, either, if you're not comfortable doing that. You can be as subtle about it as you want. You don't even have to say why. Maybe there's a new place you'd like to try, or maybe you'd like to introduce them to it, or maybe they have a new dish on the menu you love, or actually you've got a craving for xyz so let's go there instead... I find that when possible, it helps to limit your exposure to places where you are likely to slip up, at least in the beginning.


TL;DR? Bottom line = Don't be afraid to be your own champion. Say what you need, and go after it. You're worth it.

Good luck!!

AmberJo1984

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Everyone has had such great advice... and yes, I've read EVERY bit of it. You have all given me that good kick in the rear end that I needed. :happy:

Bottom line... I just need to quit making excuses. I'm in this to feel healthy... and I know what doesn't work. I need to do what does work.

ruby99999

No Amber, I will not beat you up, I have been where you are, many times. No need to feel guilty. Just take a deep breath, gather your healthy thoughts and continue on your path to healthy living. You can do it, just let your friends know your goals and ask them to keep encouraging you. Finally, don't consider this a diet, just a weight loss journey lol

babymamahowell

I think this is part of the journey, we all have cheat days and days we over indulge, and that is part of the real world in my book, but perhaps the greatest part of the journey is that we might begin to feel less guilty about thes bad days because we know our good days out weigh the bad and that tomorrow you get up and exercise and make some more healthy choices and by doing that you don't back slide all the way.

You can do it!

Cupcakehippiemommy

You are the only person standing in your way doll One bad meal should not ruin all the work for 20lbs thus far Use diff machines like elliptical or do free weights any kind of exercise is better than none. I don't like exercise and NEVER will,but this is more important to me than anything else I've ever had to fight for and the only person I am fighting with is myself.

Make the decision to eat better since you can not exercise,no excuses.Execute a plan and STICK WITH IT! Good luck on your success story soon to come doll ^u^

blairhanson

It's not about yesterday, that is behind you. It's about today, and you are here. Good for you!