"Your not going to loose any more weight are you?"

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  • gogoyubarino
    gogoyubarino Posts: 104 Member
    I have experienced the same. I find it strange that asking what someone else earns is considered to be bordering on rude (in my social circles anyway)- and yet asking someone whether they have kids or if they will continue to lose weight is completely ok.

    I put it down to control- especially when it comes from other women. The fact that one starts losing weight and becomes happier can be a source of subconcious irritation to the wrong kinds of friends/ acquaintances. It indicates that you are taking control of your life and becoming confident-that inherently changes the balance of any relationship you may have with this person and possibly the dynamics of your relationship with them.

    In my experience, being the fatter, more self-concious, more depressed, less educated half of a relationship can automatically confer a certain degree of power to the other person in the relationship.

    As I said- in my experience. :)
  • kazzsjourney
    kazzsjourney Posts: 674 Member
    Yep do get asked this a lot. I think people are either blind...or still comparing me to what I once was...I get told this yet I would still like to lose up to another 20 kilos (44 pounds) I must admit sometimes it makes me wonder if I am not seeing me for what I really am...but I know deep down I still have weight to lose :)
  • 5onia
    5onia Posts: 2
    yep, I get the same too, and it really does annoy! Like you, I look in the mirror and still see plenty to shift, and no I am not anorexic, and neither do I want to be stick thin. But I, like you, know when there is still fat to shift and so my response now is just to pass no real comment at all, and ignore those that for some bizarre reason seem to think that I should be happy with being a 'bit fat' as opposed to 'very fat' ;)
  • cruzcrzyMarie
    cruzcrzyMarie Posts: 251 Member
    I am in maintenance now, but, while losing I got it and my response was always "my doctor is very happy with my weight", lol. That pretty much shut them up. But, yes, I got tired of defending my weight and feeling like I needed to give them my weight to prove I was not underweight, lol.
  • tammihart
    tammihart Posts: 953 Member
    Some people make that comment and also ask me if I am sick. :laugh:

    I have a guy at church who thinks I am sick. I hadn't lost any weight for months just inches.
  • runlikeananna
    runlikeananna Posts: 42 Member
    I am getting "You are fading away to nothing!" I am still 5 pounds over healthy BMI. My biggest problem has been with one of my daughters. She thinks I am pulling faces at her all the time but it's because she isn't used to my new much thinner face. My smile looks so much wider as I don't have 2 chins and a moon face anymore.
  • PinkHurricane88
    PinkHurricane88 Posts: 156 Member
    Don't worry about what those people say because I get the same thing and I just look at them like 0_o Haha, you probably carry your weight super well too so I understand why people make those comments. Keep it up because you are almost there and congrats on your success thus far!
  • marycmeadows
    marycmeadows Posts: 1,691 Member
    I still get it - and started getting it a while ago.

    I am by no means skinny, and skinny is not my goal.... healthy and fit is my goal...... it takes a while for other people to realize, and accept the new you.
  • KitchenAbs
    KitchenAbs Posts: 75
    I am getting "You are fading away to nothing!" I am still 5 pounds over healthy BMI. My biggest problem has been with one of my daughters. She thinks I am pulling faces at her all the time but it's because she isn't used to my new much thinner face. My smile looks so much wider as I don't have 2 chins and a moon face anymore.

    I found this hysterical!
  • STrooper
    STrooper Posts: 659 Member
    Yes, I get some version of this. Or, "you are going towaste away to nothing.."

    Granted, I am just about at my target weight so the weight loss is just about over for me. However, I also realize that I still have awhile before all the body readjustment is completed.

    1lb to go is amazing!!!!!!

    Thanks. It has been a gradual 5 year process.
  • lovinmomma
    lovinmomma Posts: 77
    This stament comes out of concern, perhaps not said delicatly, this was said to me when i was annorexic and i didnt even notice i was getting so thin. I am not saying you are but i think some ppl get concerned and feel like they want to say something so you know they care. ON THE OTHER HAND some ppl are just jelous expecailly if you were their fat friend. Just respond with you are getting healthy and fit for yourself and you are happy :)
  • Hollycat
    Hollycat Posts: 372
    Sabotage comes in many forms at many different times during a person's weight loss. Ignore it. Laugh at it. Consider the source. My standard answer to obvious saboteurs is a shrug of the shoulders and, "I guess we'll see." If they persist, I say, "My body, my science experiment and nobody else's business. Do I comment on the size of YOUR hips?" They will immediately apologize and insist they were only concerned for your well-being. You will know if they were sincerely concerned. One cool thing about getting older is you recognize BS when you smell it and you're not afraid to name it, if need be. "Thanks. Rest assured, I will not become anorexic. There is no fear of that." If they are saboteurs, as long as they know you are still 'suffering' and there is a chance you will gain the weight back, they will usually back off at that point, because they got what they wanted...to know you are still suffering. Those people are used to thinking of you as 'fat' and they don't want to have to change their perception of you, lest they be required to look at themselves.

    I have an acquaintance who will undoubtedly try to sabotage me when they notice I've been losing weight. They're so predictable, I'm anticipating it. Notice my Ticker?

    I must admit, if I am unsure of the other person's motives, I will use the "My doctor is happy with my weight," statement. Thanks for that!

    People are weird.

    Hollycat:flowerforyou:
  • STrooper
    STrooper Posts: 659 Member
    I am in maintenance now, but, while losing I got it and my response was always "my doctor is very happy with my weight", lol. That pretty much shut them up. But, yes, I got tired of defending my weight and feeling like I needed to give them my weight to prove I was not underweight, lol.

    I've also told people the same thing about my doctor being really happy with me. One of them have asked if I'd be willing to speak with people directly about what I did and what it took. It is oing to be a different experience being "in maintenance."

    But then again I do refer to myself as a recovering engineer.

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