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EnneOrra
EnneOrra Posts: 12
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Wow...I just want to cry right now.
I was writing with my mother a few minutes ago, and she told me, that SEVERAL people asked her if I've gained weight, because I look bigger than before on fotos..
that hurted so much. i'm one year abroad right now, and to know that people at home talk about me like that...it's really hard to hold back my tears. they don't know what i'm going trough at the moment, so why cant they just shut up and take care of their own business?
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  • Fozzi43
    Fozzi43 Posts: 2,984 Member
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    Aww I'm sorry...people are mean sometimes, im sure they don't realise the hurt they cause.

    Chin up..you do this for YOU and sod the others..wait till they get photos of you with your weightloss!

    That'll show em ! :flowerforyou:
  • rusang
    rusang Posts: 3
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    Don't be hurt by other people's comments... Just remember... you can't change what other people do or say, but you can change the way you react to it! Look up and see the sunshine!

    Good luck in your journey..
  • NaughtyForties
    NaughtyForties Posts: 69
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    Hey use it as motivation to achieve your weight goals, then you'll be crying with laughter. There is a positive in everything if you look hard enough. Good luck and don't let it get you down, use it to focus. Best wishes.
  • trollydollymolly
    trollydollymolly Posts: 107 Member
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    I know just how you feel as I have been on the receiving end of barbed comments about weight. The biggest hurdle to overcome is how you react. Whatever you do, you should do it for YOU - not for anyone else. Often these people who make these comments aren't exactly role models themselves. Try and not take it too heart - not easy I know. Tell your mum how hurt you feel. Chin up and stick two fingers up when you get to where you want to be.
  • fstephanie4
    fstephanie4 Posts: 196 Member
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    Sorry people are saying that!
    No one has the right to do that, especially say it to your mum! How rude!
    You can do this. You have friends on mfp who can support you and motivate you.
    Keep you head held high and you can achieve all you want to achieve!!!

    :flowerforyou:
  • EnneOrra
    EnneOrra Posts: 12
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    thank you all, you are right..i should take this as motivation. :smile:
    it's not like my mom wants to hurt me, i know that. or, somehow she wanted, but thats her way to make me move my *kitten*, because she knows it's unfortunately the best way to make me change anything when i'm hurt.. :mad:
    so i'm not angry with her..just with all those other people...
  • jordanhillary
    jordanhillary Posts: 46 Member
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    Hey use it as motivation to achieve your weight goals, then you'll be crying with laughter. There is a positive in everything if you look hard enough. Good luck and don't let it get you down, use it to focus. Best wishes.

    This!!!!!!
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
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    I'm sorry people felt the need to comment on your weight (maybe gain) to your mom. I'm even more sorry that your mom felt the need to share that with you! As a mom, I'd keep that sort of chatter to myself. If I, personally, had concerns about my child's weight, I'd not use other people's comments as a springboard to discuss it.

    Everyone is a critic or an expert on everyone else's situations. Just know that you DO have the power, strength and capacity to get through your difficult situations AND to work on attaining a healthier weight!
  • harvo
    harvo Posts: 4,676 Member
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    Also keep in mind that they may have health concerns based on their illnesses. You do not look unfit or overweight in the profile pic you have but with my family history of diabetes and heart conditions it may be out of concern. You have to take some things with a grain of salt and move forward. If the grain of salt don't work my dad always said "follow up the salt with tequilla and lime". Smile and know you are a strong woman and continue to work towards your goals...
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,720 Member
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    thank you all, you are right..i should take this as motivation. :smile:
    it's not like my mom wants to hurt me, i know that. or, somehow she wanted, but thats her way to make me move my *kitten*, because she knows it's unfortunately the best way to make me change anything when i'm hurt.. :mad:
    so i'm not angry with her..just with all those other people...

    Right now you've got all the motivation you'll need.

    Take what they said, prove them wrong, and shove it in their faces. Show them just what you're made of. Show yourself. You'll be surprised of just what you're capable of.

    And next time they see you they won't believe their eyes.
  • jennaworksout
    jennaworksout Posts: 1,739 Member
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    Hey use it as motivation to achieve your weight goals, then you'll be crying with laughter. There is a positive in everything if you look hard enough. Good luck and don't let it get you down, use it to focus. Best wishes.

    This!!!!!!

    yep this!!!!
  • Cranktastic
    Cranktastic Posts: 1,517 Member
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    thank you all, you are right..i should take this as motivation. :smile:
    it's not like my mom wants to hurt me, i know that. or, somehow she wanted, but thats her way to make me move my *kitten*, because she knows it's unfortunately the best way to make me change anything when i'm hurt.. :mad:
    so i'm not angry with her..just with all those other people...

    Right now you've got all the motivation you'll need.

    Take what they said, prove them wrong, and shove it in their faces. Show them just what you're made of. Show yourself. You'll be surprised of just what you're capable of.

    And next time they see you they won't believe their eyes.

    Boom!
  • ma_oeuvre
    ma_oeuvre Posts: 123
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    I agree with everyone who say use it as motivation. Turn a negative into a positive and remembe that there are, sadly, a lot of people out there who feel better about themselves when they criticise others.

    Who are these people, anyway? Are THEY gaining weight? Do they need to improve themselves physically (cos I think we can all see they need to improve themselves mentally!)? Are they happy with their body? Are they happy with themselves?! I bet it's a no to at least one of the above. And I bet, because they feel bad about something or other, they like to criticise other people.

    So yes, use it as motivation. Do what you have to do and do it healthily. There's no rush and you'll get better results if you do it properly. Think of the day you're strutting in front of them and how gutted they'll be! ;) And enjoy the journey and don't feel bad about yourself because there is no need to. You'll knock them dead with your progress one day, but chances are they're either jealous already for some other reason, or they're just miserable people. :)

    (And I really do feel for you, but honestly - dry your eyes and move on, move up, move forward. Haters gonna hate and all of that)
  • spikefoot
    spikefoot Posts: 419
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    People say stupid stuff all the time (and usually without us even knowing). What they said probably just stems from pure nosiness and I don't think their intentions are always just to be mean. I know that doesn't really change much but some people just like to talk about anything and pry.

    Don't let other peoples "entertainment" bother you, it really is meaningless.
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
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    Hey use it as motivation to achieve your weight goals, then you'll be crying with laughter. There is a positive in everything if you look hard enough. Good luck and don't let it get you down, use it to focus. Best wishes.


    I definitely agree!!
  • EnneOrra
    EnneOrra Posts: 12
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    thank you all, so much.
    i cant even put in words, how happy i'm that i've found MFP.
    it's such a lovely community! again, thank you, and good luck for you, too :)
  • flechero
    flechero Posts: 260 Member
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    Not to be rude, but did you gain weight? Maybe they are just concerned- as you are, since you are here. ?? Well the silver lining is that people are paying attention and those same people will probably notice when you lose weight.

    I've seen so many posts where people are upset that no one noticed a weight loss.... and the same people get upset if someone notices a weight gain... I like consistency and honesty in people, but that's just me.
  • beccannes
    beccannes Posts: 88
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    this is ridicoulous! I can imagine there is only are a few people in this world who hasn't had issues w/ their weight one point or another. I can't believe so many people would be thoughtless and point out something like weight. Hang in there and remember comments like that shows you the person you do not want to be! Prove them wrong.
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,688 Member
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    It was very unkind and unnecesary of your mother to share that with you. I can easily regress when I hear any kind of comment about my weight. That's why I'm grateful for all the people here, it is the only place where I share my journey.
  • christabel6
    christabel6 Posts: 173 Member
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    Sometimes you just have to smile and nod when people come out with things like that, and let their almighty opinions wash away like so much dirty dishwater running out of the sink. They are just opinions and they don't need to be important unless you let them. Alternatively you could tell your mum that any comments about your weight upset you and ask her to not mention it unless you do.

    My mum is similar and I've learned to just let her say what she needs to say and not to let it get to me. She recently sent me a weightwatchers points manual (I don't go) and a newspaper clipping about how being overweight gives you more gynae problems. When I said I'd decided to diet she told me what a relief it was to her as she'd been so worried about all the weight around my middle and how it would affect my health. And I'm not that overweight anyway... but that's just the way she is. She also thinks I look better with make up on, should pick my feet up when I walk and need to find a nice man to look after me properly. I love her to bits but she's tactless.

    Please don't let this undermine you!

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