Feel sad fat and ugly :(
FeebRyan
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As title. Feeling really, really low about myself today, not upbeat or excited about the future like i have been.
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
Honestly feel like if i went running tonight, someone would throw a bottle at my head because i am that ugly, fat and horrid.
Desperate
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
Honestly feel like if i went running tonight, someone would throw a bottle at my head because i am that ugly, fat and horrid.
Desperate
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I think most of us have feelings like that - all you can see is the dark cloud, not the silver lining. Make an effort to turn your thoughts and feelings toward the positive - write about the things you are grateful for, watch a comedy, listen to music you love - whatever it takes. Try to see yourself through your husband's eyes.0
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Oh what a shame that your class didn't make you feel brilliant. You are already beautiful to the people that matter to you, and you've lost soooo much already! But if it makes you feel any better, I do belly dancing too and I always feel I dance like a fraggle! Has anything else changed that is making you feel low? Are you eating enough? I get really tearful if I haven't eaten enough calories.0
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We all have our moments where we are down in the dumps. Just keep going! I know that sounds like an easy answer, but honestly, the endorphins are going to spike through the movement. whatever you do, don't sit down and dwell on this sh***y feeling, b/c then you will feel worse, and then you can become a couch potato who just gave up. YOU OWN THIS! YOU HAVE THIS! So what if earlier in the morning you weren't feeling too confident....you are doing this lifestyle change so that YOU GAIN CONFIDENCE. love yourself and tell yourself that you are worth is, because YOU ARE! go in front of the mirror and tell yourself to SNAP OUT OF IT! and say, "im going to do this because I CAN and i want to be HEALTHY" now shake it off and go for a walk, turn the music on loud and dance it out, tackle that room that needs to be cleaned or that garage etc. just move!0
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I feel the same way sometimes. Just an overwhelming wave of depression and feeling fat. I hope you can pull yourself out of it because believe me, I know how detrimental it can be to your success. But you've lost 20kg! That's incredible! Just look back at where you came from and try to see where you are going0
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Feeling the same way today. Think I'm gonna go curl up on the couch.0
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Sometimes I feel discouraged and dislike what I see in the mirror. It is during those times that I think about some of the more positive things around me. What a blessing to wake up in the morning and simply have the strength and stamina to even get through a belly dancing class! What is beautiful is the awareness that you have and perseverance to take steps to live a healthier lifestyle and the fact that you've already made really good progress. Hang in there, you can do this! Take Care!!0
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Oh darling, you are absolutely gorgeous, its just one of those days on which you can´t feel it. Don´t worry, this will pass. You should hug your lovely kids and don´t forget to look into their eyes and see how they think of you like the most beautiful and strong and amazing and wonderful lady on earth.
I wish you a wonderful rest weekend.0 -
I had a few fish-fingers yesterday because we ran out of food/money for food so we had to eat what is there
I am generally gluten free so i think that might have something to do with how i am feeling right now.
blergh
We are having baked potatoes for tea, again because thats the only thing we have in the house to eat!
Tomorrow is a new day, full of nature walks with the toddler and being happy whether you want to be or not...
I might go for a run tonight. Not schedueled to and it will be a double day of running, but i think i need it x0 -
You are doing great. I kept a pair of pants from when I started. When I feel bad, I go put them on and look in the mirror.0
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Great answer!! Everyone gets down, but dwelling on it usually makes it worse. I think one of the smartest things I've learned is if the body leads, the thoughts will follow. If I feel like crap, but force myself to still go to the gym, still do my errands, etc. etc. I end up feeling a whole lot better than if I sit around.
Getting something done, taking even one step toward your goal is a great feeling!0 -
You were doing really well just a couple of days ago - feel better tomorrow, huh?As title. Feeling really, really low about myself today, not upbeat or excited about the future like i have been.
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
Honestly feel like if i went running tonight, someone would throw a bottle at my head because i am that ugly, fat and horrid.
Desperate
Anyway, if I ever tried bellydancing you could sell tickets0 -
I've been belly dancing for two months & some thing that you need to understand, honey, is that belly dancers are MADE -- not born. Keep it up & you'll be fine. I still feel that way when doing grapevines to switch sides for hip lifts/ hip drops -- & I want to go pro, so imagine how I must feel?
Enjoy the dance, practice everyday, continue working hard, & one day you will be an amazing dancer with wonderful control, grace, & poise. I bet you look great while dancing!
Looking in the mirror & noticing that you're 'off' in your movements is actually a great skill, I would say. You'll be able to know what's wrong with how you move & fix it so that it looks proper. Take this as a learning opportunity, & never stop dancing. Good luck!
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I just wanted to say what great post have been done here and it's great to see so many people being so surportive for a fellow MFP user0
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We all have our lows and our highs! It's called being human!! But the trick is to not let the bad days control your being! Put on dome good music and just go for a walk... Clear your head and get some extra endorphins!!
Tomorrow is a new day!! Deep breath... The funk will pass!!0 -
I just wanted to say what great post have been done here and it's great to see so many people being so surportive for a fellow MFP user
Huge 2nd to this! Everyone has those off days, but to the original poster - noticing your ticker you've lost a lot! Obviously you're doing something right and have a lot to be proud of. Try to find something today to make you laugh from deep in your core and some of that silver lining will show back up.0 -
NO YOU ARE NOT!!!! You are here and making a difference in your health and life! Get out and go for a walk and enjoy the crisp fall air and re-energize.....you can do this! Feel free to add me if you like - I can be a good cheerleader lol0
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We all have our moments where we are down in the dumps. Just keep going! I know that sounds like an easy answer, but honestly, the endorphins are going to spike through the movement. whatever you do, don't sit down and dwell on this sh***y feeling, b/c then you will feel worse, and then you can become a couch potato who just gave up. YOU OWN THIS! YOU HAVE THIS! So what if earlier in the morning you weren't feeling too confident....you are doing this lifestyle change so that YOU GAIN CONFIDENCE. love yourself and tell yourself that you are worth is, because YOU ARE! go in front of the mirror and tell yourself to SNAP OUT OF IT! and say, "im going to do this because I CAN and i want to be HEALTHY" now shake it off and go for a walk, turn the music on loud and dance it out, tackle that room that needs to be cleaned or that garage etc. just move!
THIS!!
Don't get disheartened when you have already made it as far as you have! I have those days too, where I just hate myself and what to cry and eat a whole tub of ice cream or lots of sugar or whatever. Keep your chin up and keep moving forward. Look at pictures. Look at the weight you have already lost. Do you want to give it all up just because you have a bad day? I know you can do it! Good luck! :happy:0 -
Do something about it. Eat well,work out,smile and treat yourself. Then look into the mirror and feel proud that your doing something about it. 0
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I just wanted to say what great post have been done here and it's great to see so many people being so surportive for a fellow MFP user
I absolutely agree, thank you so much everyone for your kind words x i really appreciate it xxxxxx0 -
As title. Feeling really, really low about myself today, not upbeat or excited about the future like i have been.
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
Honestly feel like if i went running tonight, someone would throw a bottle at my head because i am that ugly, fat and horrid.
Desperate
I felt this way especially when I started this journey. Amazingly I still feel this way at times even in maintenance when everyone tells me I shouldn't. We are all human. We have good days and bad days, all of our lives. The tools you find and use to get out of a funk will serve you the rest of your life, and you will always need them. I call it sharpening your sword for battle and you will always need to keep your blade sharp for the rest of your life. We may get to relax at times for a few moments, but life is a bit of work until the end.
There is nothing easy about this journey. Don't give up. Keep your eye on the prize. You do not have to be perfect to do this. You just have to have more good days than not. A bad day is not the end of the world. Tomorrow is a new day. Just pick it right up again. Be kind to yourself at all times and never beat yourself up.
Being on a calorie deficit is hard. You can't do this journey on will power alone. You must set up your environment for success. Have a team around you in your real life, not just online. Get trigger foods out of the house. It will take some sacrifice and it's not easy. You might have to say no to some social events sometimes.
Too many changes at once can be hard on some people. I've always eaten healthy so it easy for me to simply eat less. Eating at a calorie deficit is hard on people; even a small deficit puts your body in a state of flux with hormones and such. Everyone is different. Some people can handle a deeper calorie deficit than others, this is not right or wrong, it just is. Stress in your life affects your hunger hormones; lack of sleep, fatigue, job stress, family stress, financial stress, etc. Add in emotional eating issues and it gets even more complicated. Most people can only handle so much change/stress at once, they try to do too much and fail. Sometimes it might be a better strategy to eat at maintenance and make some small changes first, it really depends on how much stress you are taking in at the moment.
For me it's all about a calorie budget. I had less of a budget available when I was losing weight, more to spend now that I'm maintaining and all the tools I used for weight loss come into play for the rest of my life maintaining.
When you have accumulated excess fat, you have accumulated a debt. It is hard to pay off the debt (you have less calories to spend). If you are sitting next to someone your same gender and height and they are not overweight and you are, they get to eat more than you (have more calories to spend) because they are debt free. You have less calories to spend because you are paying off your debt.0 -
Hey i just want to clarify, I haven't 'fallen off the wagon' today, Feeling crappy has not made me eat... It has made me think about it but we are skint (which is good) and to be honest i knew that wouldnt actually make me feel better...
I just felt a bit rubbish but a combination of you lovely people, a nice dinner, my lovely husband and a 40min belly dancing class, i am feeling a bit better about life
Thank you all again. I do think the little bit of gluten i ate this week had something to do with it. I need to be more focused than i have been in that respect, its definitely affected my mood and also my health. Not going there again!0 -
Your young, and a great mom I bet. I know it can be hard to stay motivated to work out, for me I do better with keeping under my calorie goal then with working out. If I do well with my eating, I don't worry so much about working out or not. As I continue to lose the weight, I'll naturally get more into the fitness part, I'm sure you will too! Kellie 0
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It's the way you handle these dark moments that really tests your determination, courage and will. It's easy being motivated when all is going well for you, but it's the way we handle these moments when everything seems wrong that make the most difference. Just hold your ground and remember why you started this whole thing and why you need to get it done.0
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I know how you feel hun, the past 4 weeks have been terrible for me.. My fella of 2 years left me without reason, and got back with his self harming ex.. It's really put me down and my confidence is completely shattered.
Keep your head up, that's all you can do! It gets better, and all your effort will soon pay off. Feel free to add me, I'm on everyday, and offer support when needed :flowerforyou:0 -
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
That mental image is too much for me
Anyway, we all have those days, and sometimes, it stretches into weeks, months , etc.
You know, it is only you that can get yourself out of that hole, pull your socks up and decide to do something about it.
Happiness is a choice, choose to be happy.
Shiz happens in life, but it is you who chooses how to feel about it.
All I can say is, take today to cry it all out, scream, etc, but plan to wake up tomorrow, determined to make it a better day for yourself. Tell yourself at the end of each day that the next day will be better.
If it makes you feel better, while you think everyone is looking at you and judging you, these people are thinking the same way; that people are judging them too. We humans are too critical of ourselves and what we do, doesn't help that the sad parts stick more than the happier parts.
So yes, cheer up, pull your socks up, and start chanting: "I am awesome, and no one can make me feel otherwise but myself"0 -
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
That mental image is too much for me
thanks for the rest of your post, but there was no need for this bit x0 -
I was feeling that way this morning but then I made myself go for a run and I feel better now. :-)0
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I was feeling that way this morning but then I made myself go for a run and I feel better now. :-)
Thats brilliant I had belly dancing this morning but it was in a cold, draughty studio and the rest of the girls there are much better than me... I cheered myself up when i got home though, had a cuddle with hubby and did loads of online drills for bellydance 0 -
I see these topics a lot on these forums and I really feel a pang of empathy every time. I hope that I can offer you some new perspective through this post.
When an athlete (or anyone) trains, we identify and hit up against the limits of our physical potential in order to identify weaknesses and then improve them. I other words we relish the fact that we can only run for X minutes and X speed because it means we know how hard and far we have to run to improve our body. The same is true for the mind and the character!!!!!!! Take these moments of self-hate and weakness not as a great burden or failure. Relish them, relish their challenge. This is the sign that you can push through this and on the other side, will be a more vibrant and strong person because of it.
Treat this as a positive thing, a chance to improve! And not improve something trivial like your body. This is YOUR OPPORTUNITY to grow as a person and become the best version of yourself. Meet it head on, and acknowledge it will be hard, but in the end, worthwhile!
P.S. Let the sheer magnitude of your weight loss so far wash over you! You are obviously a person of great character and true resilience!0 -
Did my bellydancing class and felt like an uncordinated whale.
That mental image is too much for me
thanks for the rest of your post, but there was no need for this bit x
i apologise, i never meant it in a bad way. Hope you are feeling better though.0
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