In-laws from Hell

spozzybear

I can't stand my in-laws.
There, i said it.

My father-in-law is an ex-airforce pilot who is arrogant, rude and has zero interest in forging any kind of bond with his son (my husband). In his own words, "I make no apologies for who I am, love it, or f-off". He is currently having a mid-late-life-crisis and is buying every vehicle known to man (new car, Harley, you name it), yet he can't find the money to help out either of his kids financially (he often makes derogatory comments about MY parents who have helped us out financially in massive way, even going so far as to suggest that they are trying to "buy" our love and respect).

My mother-in-law is a ditsy "yes woman" who, despite acknowledging the fact that her husband is a complete ****face, just sticks her head in the sand and giggles her way through his common rants and offenses (probably her only coping mechanism for marrying a complete tosspot).
She is also a walking contradiction. She once said to me she wished I would come to her for advice and share more with her, so one time I smsed her saying I was really worried about my hubby as he had been quite distant of late and seemed really on edge. her response? "Grow up and sort your own **** out with your husband!".....then 2 months later, she is back to whining about how I never confide in her!

Needless to say, they were hoping their son married a nice quiet meek little thing - boy did they get more than they bargained for with me! Strong, independant and highly opinionated little me!
Over the 6 years my husband and I have been together, I have had various run-ins with both in-laws, and I must say, I do love them deep down, as after all, they ARE my husband's parents, but I do often find myself tearing my hair out and wondering what planet these morons come from!

Does anyone else out there have douchbag in-laws?

Alice_in_Wndrlnd

Heya,

I bet it feels good to get it out there.

I'm sure there are heaps of people out there with similar stories but the time difference between us and the Americans means that often times they do not see our threads.

spozzybear

I know! I need to start timing it better when I start threads! :ohwell:

DamnImASexyBitch

Why should he help his adult children out financially? This is something that baffles me. I don't understand the amount of people that think hey, they are my parents they still owe me. They don't owe you jack! I tend to find the people who complain about their inlaws never think they are at fault at all.

Bahet

I do I do! FIL's favorite hobby is arguing. We paid to fly them down here to visit before hubby went to Afghanistan. FIL argued about EVERYTHING. I understand where VKaylor is coming from but that's just not always the case. Some examples:

FIL was sitting at the table. He asked MIL to make him a sandwich. She did. He then complained because she put too little mustard on it. It was nearly noon and he asked what time it was. MIL said "It's about ten to twelve." He said "That's impossible! It was 11:50 when I was upstairs 2 minutes ago! Stop lying and just tell me what time it is!"

FIL doesn't like cats. We have 2. He asked my 12yo (who LOVES the cats) "Why do you have cats? They are awful creatures. I can't imagine any sane person who actually likes those animals."

We were driving down the road in a 45 zone. Hubby was driving, FIL in the passenger seat. Hubby was doing 45. FIL yelled at him to slow down. Hubby slowed down to 43. FIL looked at the speedometer and saw the line because of the angle he as at looked like hubby was going slower and he yelled at him to speed up.

We have 1 king size bed (hubby and me) and 2 twin beds (1 in each of the boy's rooms). We also have several couches. We gave the kids rooms to the ILs. FIL complained that hubby and I didn't sleep in the kids rooms and give them our bed.

MIL and I had a glass of mead (like wine. Hubby makes it) after dinner and he called her a drunk and accused her of being an alcoholic. This from a man who was such a regular at the local bar for several decades that everyone knew if he wasn't at work or home he was there. He drank about a 6 pack a day for ove 30 years until he was diagnosed with diabetes.

Hubby was building a set of stairs off the other side of our deck. FIL wanted to help. He yelled at hubby for 2 hours because FIL thought we should make a ramp instead of stairs. (We have a 3 story house and are all perfectly able bodied.)

FIL yelled at us and argued with hubby for several hours because we don't have fancy cell phones. Hubby has a Blackberry from work so he's not supposed to use it like it's his own phone. I have a pay as you go phone because the only time I ever use it is to ask how much milk we have when I'm at the store or in an emergency. But apparently we should be spending $50-$100/month or more for fancy phones because he likes his.

Bahet

Oh, meant to add that I also have no problem with parents who don't help their kids out financially. I actually have a bigger problem with those who do. It rarely ever works out. More often than not the adult kid doesn't learn to manage thei finances and the parents end up bailing them out over and over and over again. We paid to fly my ILs down here for a visit. They couldn't afford to pay for the flight becuse they've given so much to their 2 other adult sons (both in their 40s) over the years. We are the only ones who have neither asked for nor taken any money from them. (FIL actually argued about that before too and said we're too independent and by not needing him to bail us out we are acting superior.)

spozzybear

Why should he help his adult children out financially? This is something that baffles me. I don't understand the amount of people that think hey, they are my parents they still owe me. They don't owe you jack! I tend to find the people who complain about their inlaws never think they are at fault at all.

Just to clarify, I never said anyone owed me anything, nor do I think I'm perfect and never at fault. I was merely pointing out that he was putting my parents down for choosing to help us (we never asked for help).
Also, I was just venting, wasn't trying to offend anyone.

spozzybear

I do I do! FIL's favorite hobby is arguing. We paid to fly them down here to visit before hubby went to Afghanistan. FIL argued about EVERYTHING. I understand where VKaylor is coming from but that's just not always the case. Some examples:

FIL was sitting at the table. He asked MIL to make him a sandwich. She did. He then complained because she put too little mustard on it. It was nearly noon and he asked what time it was. MIL said "It's about ten to twelve." He said "That's impossible! It was 11:50 when I was upstairs 2 minutes ago! Stop lying and just tell me what time it is!"

FIL doesn't like cats. We have 2. He asked my 12yo (who LOVES the cats) "Why do you have cats? They are awful creatures. I can't imagine any sane person who actually likes those animals."

We were driving down the road in a 45 zone. Hubby was driving, FIL in the passenger seat. Hubby was doing 45. FIL yelled at him to slow down. Hubby slowed down to 43. FIL looked at the speedometer and saw the line because of the angle he as at looked like hubby was going slower and he yelled at him to speed up.

We have 1 king size bed (hubby and me) and 2 twin beds (1 in each of the boy's rooms). We also have several couches. We gave the kids rooms to the ILs. FIL complained that hubby and I didn't sleep in the kids rooms and give them our bed.

MIL and I had a glass of mead (like wine. Hubby makes it) after dinner and he called her a drunk and accused her of being an alcoholic. This from a man who was such a regular at the local bar for several decades that everyone knew if he wasn't at work or home he was there. He drank about a 6 pack a day for ove 30 years until he was diagnosed with diabetes.

Hubby was building a set of stairs off the other side of our deck. FIL wanted to help. He yelled at hubby for 2 hours because FIL thought we should make a ramp instead of stairs. (We have a 3 story house and are all perfectly able bodied.)

FIL yelled at us and argued with hubby for several hours because we don't have fancy cell phones. Hubby has a Blackberry from work so he's not supposed to use it like it's his own phone. I have a pay as you go phone because the only time I ever use it is to ask how much milk we have when I'm at the store or in an emergency. But apparently we should be spending $50-$100/month or more for fancy phones because he likes his.

LOL are you sure we don't have the same FIL?

spozzybear

Just to put it out there, before people start thinking it's all about the money, it's not. I would never expect financial support from either set of parents, and I certainly don't think it's a parents' obligation to do so.
My parents chose of their own free-will to use money left by my grandparents to help us get ahead a bit. I don't expect my in-laws to do the same, but I also don't think they should be criticising my parents for choosing to help us.
Hope that makes more sense :flowerforyou: