Determined to lose 60!!!

Lahlita2

Hey everyone! I am looking to lose a large amount of weight. I started last year, but just got frustrated and gave up after only a ten pound loss. I need to lose around 60 pounds. I would really like someone to keep me honest because that is what brings me down. I tell myself that I am going to cheat just once and end up breaking my rhythm. I am more determined this this time around and am hoping o stick it out.

Truetex4

i AM IN SAME BOAT AS YOU AND JUST TRYING TO TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME. I WILL TELL YOU I FOUND THIS ONE OF THE BEST PROGRAMS TO TRY AND KEEP YOURSELF HONEST. IT IS NOT ONLY LOOSING WEIGHT IT IS A MINE SET, AND THAT IS THE BIGGEST PART. I FEEL PEOPLE IN OUR POSITION ARE FIGHTING DEPRESSION AS WELL AS WEIGHT. NOW IF WE CAN GET A HANDLE ON ONE, THAT COULD BE A GOOD START TOWARDS BOTH. I HOPE YOU MAKE IT, LIKE TO HEAR MORE FROM YOU ON YOUR SUCCESS.

ROMIE MAY NICK NAME IS "TEX"

Lahlita2

Hey Tex! Thanks for the reply. I am glad to know that I am not alone. You are right. It takes a different mind set to do what we are doing. Let me tell you, it is even harder when your whole family is unhealthy and will criticize you for trying to lose unhealthy weight and build healthy habits. You would think they would be more supporting. In order to avoid all the negativity I have found that I need to exercise on my own when my family isn't around. Your words are encouraging. Thank you.

Lori573

Me too! I stayed in pretty good health when I was younger. But it seems these past 3 years I just keep gaining and don't have the umph to fight it anymore. I joined mfp but didn't stick to it. Now 10 lbs heaver than then, I am starting over. Only started last Friday, but so far so good.

I'm Lori..

Rhia55

Been there... I also joined MFP some months ago and gave up on it. This time I'm determined to stick to it even though I don't always exercise when I should. For the most part I've stuck with my new food plan.

I don't care how many times I fall off of the wagon, I'm getting right back on every time.

burkett6387

Good Luck! I just started myfitnsspal.com after suffering a heart attack. I am bound and determind to loss 80 pounds the healthy way. I want to be around to see my kids graduate high school, get married and have my grand baby's. This is what motivated me. What motivates you?

californiagirl2012

Hey everyone! I am looking to lose a large amount of weight. I started last year, but just got frustrated and gave up after only a ten pound loss. I need to lose around 60 pounds. I would really like someone to keep me honest because that is what brings me down. I tell myself that I am going to cheat just once and end up breaking my rhythm. I am more determined this this time around and am hoping o stick it out.

That is exactly what I lost at age 50. So here's my tips on what was successful for me. Everyone is different though, but maybe one thing will ring true for you and help you.

The biggest key for me was learning that weight loss really is all about calories. I ran marathon after marathon, hit the gym hard, practiced martial arts, stayed physically active for 30 years, didn't pig out, ate healthy (even 100% organic fanatic and was the most obese ever), didn't emotionally eat, didn't binge, yet I continued to gain weight year after year, decade after decade, thinking the next marathon would help me lose. I thought something was wrong with me because I worked so hard. For me it really was all about learning to eat less.

There is no mystery to weight loss, everyone thinks something is wrong, their metabolism is broken, they have low thyroid, they have menopause or whatever issue, they are as unique as a snowflake, whatever. I thought a lot of these things once too but once the doctor helped resolve the health issues for me I learned there is still no magic pill. Most people eat more than they need to and are not at good at estimating calories as they think they are. Most people have a lower BMR than they think they do. The only way to know for sure is to go to a lab and have it tested. It doesn't seem fair to have to eat less and feel a little hunger. It's hard to face the truth of it, very hard. It's not fun. It's drudgery at times. But if you learn to enjoy your smaller amounts of food (necessary to lose weight, since the reason we got fat in the first place was eating too much whether we knew it or not), and rejoice in your victories it can be done.

All I can do is share what worked for me. I achieved my goal at age 50 after beating my head against the wall for 15 years. Yeah anyone can do it, but I can tell you that you are up against a lot when you are older and I believe females have some unique issue to face with hormones and such. The sooner you can get a handle on it the better. DO NOT GIVE UP. As I got older and the weight piled on (and I didn't feel I was eating too much!) everyone kept telling me to give up, this is what happens when you get older. I'm small, and I didn't realize how small I was until I lost the weight. Everyone said I had big bones. I looked hefty because I worked out. Once I lost the weight I realized how small I really was and that small people don't need to eat as much as big people. HINT: If you are short you are probably small.

Your body loses weight in chunks, not linear. I have found that you can do everything right and your weight loss seems to plateau but if you are patient and keep exercising and eating at a deficit (however slight) you will lose it, it will suddenly "whoosh". There are so many variables for the scale; water retention, digestion, hormones, allergies, sodium, carbs, water intake, DOMS, inflammation, the list goes on. People mistakenly think they lose or gain weight when they eat more or less because of these fluctuations.

Losing weight requires tremendous patience. You will not lose it when you want it or where you want it. The body does its thing. Some apparent plateaus can last a month or so. You cannot make it happen faster. You must focus on two things; calories and exercise. Nothing else matters. Scales and metrics don't matter. The day in and day out grind of exercise and calories are all that matters. It is not very exciting until things fall into place. You get your victories and you ride one victory to the next.

The scale is a trend tool. The scale is good but put it away and only check once a week and only use it as a trend tool. It will fluctuate, it does not matter. Take front side and back progress pictures at least once a month. You will see differences that the metrics won't tell you and it's that little bit of NSV that will keep you going until the next victory.

To say eat more is wrong.

To say eat less is wrong.

To find the exact calories needed for YOU to be in a healthy sustainable calorie deficit is the right answer. Wait, if you need to adjust by 100 do it, wait, adjust, wait, adjust, wait. The tortoise wins this race.

All that matters is calories. A healthy balanced diet within a calorie budget for a deficit that is right for YOU is all that matters for weight loss. Don't make it complicated.


Also people play mental accounting games with calories just like with finances. Make steps to make sure you are making accurate measurements. Packaged foods can have MORE than they say but not less (they get in trouble if less so they would rather error with MORE).

If you typically intake sodium at a certain rate your body adjusts, but if you make a sudden change then you will see a spike.

Exercise is for making your lean body mass pretty (especially lifting weights) for when the fat is gone. Losing fat with no muscle is ugly and cardio alone will not make you pretty. You cannot out exercise too many calories.

It really is about calories. I tell people this all the time and they say "Well if calories are all that matter why do you eat so clean???!!" Well, because it makes me feel better, sleep better, and perform better at my sports.

Too many changes at once can be hard on some people. I've always eaten healthy so it easy for me to simply eat less. Eating at a calorie deficit is hard on people; even a small deficit puts your body in a state of flux with hormones and such. Everyone is different. Some people can handle a deeper calorie deficit than others, this is not right or wrong, it just is. Stress in your life affects your hunger hormones; lack of sleep, fatigue, job stress, family stress, financial stress, etc. Add in emotional eating issues and it gets even more complicated. Most people can only handle so much change/stress at once, they try to do too much and fail. Sometimes it might be a better strategy to eat at maintenance and make some small changes first, it really depends on how much stress you are taking in at the moment.

What is the exact number of calories for you?

We’ve been trying to figure out an exact NUMBER of calories that everyone should be eating, without recognizing that everyone is slightly different. In truth, the calories aren’t the end game. Your body is. So the EXACT amount of Calories that are right for you is the EXACT amount that will allow you to maintain your ideal bodyweight no matter what some calculator or chart says.

In other words, an online calculator might tell you that you need to eat 2,500 calories
per day to maintain your ideal bodyweight. But the only way to know for sure if this is
the right amount for you is to test it out. If you gain weight or can’t lose weight eating
that much, then you know you need to eat less to lose weight no matter how many
calculators and text books say otherwise.

This doesn’t mean your metabolism is broken, it just means the estimate of your needs
was just a bit off.

-John Barban (The Body Centric Calorie Guide from the Venus Index and Adonis Index Manuals)

The good thing is you don't have to worry about the starvation mode myth if you are fat. Only skinny people have to worry about starvation mode. It does not mean you have the capability to eat at a large calorie deficit if you have emotional eating disorders or other issues going on, but at least you don't have to be afraid of it anymore.

The Theory of Fat Availability:
•There is a set amount of fat that can be released from a fat cell.
•The more fat you have, the more fat can be used as a fuel when dieting.
•The less fat you have, the less fat can be used as a fuel when dieting.
•Towards the end of a transformation, when body fat is extremely low you
may not have enough fat to handle a large caloric deficit anymore.

At the extreme low end, when your body fat cannot ‘keep up’ with the energy deficit
you've imposed on your body, the energy MUST come from SOMEWHERE. This is
when you are at risk of losing lean body mass during dieting (commonly referred to
as ‘starvation mode’). This happens at extremely low levels of body fat, under 6% in
men and 12% in women [Friedl K.E. J Appl Phsiol, 1994].

-Brad Pilon and John Barban (from The Reverse Taper Diet in The Adonis Index and Venus Index manuals)

Lifting weights is KEY. I recently had my DXA scan done and at 51.5 years of age I have the bone density of a super athletic 30 year old. That is a direct result of lifting for over 30 years. Now if that is not scientific proof that lifting weights keeps you younger I don't know what is! Also I believe it is why most people think I look much younger than I really am.

Start lifting now, lift heavy and change it up often, find a lot of weight routines with free weights, make it fun, embrace it, make it part of your life. Only 3 days a week is all it would take. Crank up your tunes and learn to love it, because your body will love it and it will make your quality of life better in many ways, especially when you get older like me.

Because of this I don't have to worry about osteoporosis. If you wait until you are older and your bones start to deteriorate it's a bit too late, you can't get back what you lost, and you can only start a resistance routine that will prevent further damage.

If you are female you don't have the hormones to get big naturally. I lift heavy and I'm still really tiny. My lean body mass is only 104 lbs and that is fairly heavy for a 5'1" female, and quite a bit of this is due to my having very dense bones from 30 years of lifting, not all muscle, and I'm still quite tiny.

My muscles really are not that big, but they show a lot of definition because I'm quite lean. If I gained some fat then I would have a softer more toned look (which is OKAY too!). Then if I gained more fat I would look bulky and hefty like I did most of my life until last year. YOU CAN HAVE WHATEVER YOU WANT. Lean and ripped, soft and toned, or hefty, it all depends on how much fat you leave on your body. Calories are the only thing that changes fat. Exercise is for changing or maintaining your lean body mass only. Lifting weights will give you the best bang for your buck for shaping your body. I finally changed my shape by putting lifting first and cardio 2nd. You cannot out exercise too many calories.

There is nothing easy about this journey. Don't give up. Keep your eye on the prize. You do not have to be perfect to do this. You just have to have more good days than not. A bad day is not the end of the world. Tomorrow is a new day. Just pick it right up again. Be kind to yourself at all times and never beat yourself up.

Being on a calorie deficit is hard. You can't do this journey on will power alone. You must set up your environment for success. Have a team around you in your real life, not just online. Get trigger foods out of the house. It will take some sacrifice and it's not easy. You might have to say no to some social events sometimes.

For me it's all about a calorie budget. I had less of a budget available when I was losing weight, more to spend now that I'm maintaining and all the tools I used for weight loss come into play for the rest of my life maintaining.

When you have accumulated excess fat, you have accumulated a debt. It is hard to pay off the debt (you have less calories to spend). If you are sitting next to someone your same gender and height and they are not overweight and you are, they get to eat more than you (have more calories to spend) because they are debt free. You have less calories to spend because you are paying off your debt.

Wishing you the best! -Bobbie

EpitomeOfSxy

Good luck to everyone on achieving your goals! I just signed up two days ago and am hoping to stick this through for the long haul this time as well, I am a chronic yo-yo dieter. I have learned that consistency is the key, not perfection. Don't be too hard on yourself if you slip up or have a minor setback, just keep truckin' ! Also, there is no such thing as a bad workout, only the ones you don't do. I have learned to be successful in weight loss you'd think it starts in the kitchen with food, but I believe it starts in your mind. Stay positive and focused !

1jlazymom

Everyone of us can do this. I always remind myself that I will stumble but to always get back up. Make the
best food choices you can and exercise every time you have the opportunity. Somedays you may only have the energy for
A short walk but that is always better than doing nothing. Wish everyone success on your journey.

deadmittens

You can do it!!

candctaber

You can do it!!! We are here for you!

mercymarque

I believe if you want it you will acheive it. Stay focused on the goal. Once the weight starts coming of that should be ur motivation to continue you with it. I'm on a gain this week... I'm bumed about it but I'm determined to look great and feel great. I will exercise hard, eat healthy and as close to my calories as possible without going over and without being too far under. Ppl think under is great it's not... U are already on a calorie deficiant. Log everything you put in your mouth, drink plenty of water, try for 8 hours of rest, listen to your body but get out and move (do some form of cardio and add strengh training. U need both). Good luck this time around. You're worth it.

Clemsonmom

Add me as a friend! Would love to help encourage you and you encourage me on this journey.

Gerald_King

You can do it it is possible believe me i didnt think so when i started but now i only have 52lbs to go , good luck to you all

mtlkate

It is hard to be consistent, but staying close to calorie limits is my goal. I haven't had too many blown days in the last month, but I've climbed back on. Feel free to friend me.