Family, Freinds and Jealousy

kellyo1026

Does anyone have any problems with certian family and friends who are acting diffrent around you because you are trying to loose weight? I have some that seem annoyed that I eat diffrent or even mention weight loose in general. When I started MFP i was 190Lbs I am now down to 180lbs. Before I started though I was kinda winging it by myself my heavest was 228Lbs as of last January. I mentioned to one friend while we were shopping that I needed some new pants, she asked why and I mentioned that the ones I have on have gotten to big for me. She just looked at me and said when did you loose weight? I was thinking hello Im 5'2" you cant tell Ive lost 30 plus pounds. It was just mean! Does anyone else have problems with this?

wannadance

Early days yes, but not much at all anymore. Noticed it particularly when having dinner at mum's etc or participating in birthday cake / morning teas at work etc.. I found I sort of got 'pfft' looks and I know I hurt mum's feelings once or twice when not eating heaps of her meals and then asking for more vegies, but it eased off relatively quickly - pretty much once the weight loss started to get a little more noticeable, and people could see I wasn't just messing around. I am very lucky to have the people I have in my life though. There will always be someone that starts to feel uncomfortable / in denial about your success, and I still get the random comment that I'm losing too much weight, but that is their problem not mine - I know where I want to be headed, and here is only a stepping stone. I know it's probably easier said than done, but keep moving forward with your choices, and if the people in your life love and respect you (like I imagine they do) they'll come round in time :flowerforyou: All the best with everything - D

twake14812

I don't think its so much as jealousy with me, but I feel some people look at me and think "you don't need to lose weight, you are great the way you are!" I am happy they like me the way I am now, but I currently DO NOT! I wish I could get more support from my family. My husband is supportive, but we are currently living with my parents to help them out with somethings as they get older. I find that my mom is the non supportive one! She always says that I don't need to lose any weight! But the thing is both my parents are over weight! My mom is the same height as me (5'1") and she weights maybe 180-190lbs. She may be happy with her weight, but I clearly am not happy with my weight. I try to even get her involved with me to lose weight, but she is not a very physical person and she LOVES her sweets. I really wish my dad would lose weight too. He has a bad knee that needs to be replaced, and he also has diabetes! He says he never has any energy to do anything, however he is more active then my mother. I think both my parents would feel better if they were more active. However, I cannot make them do it if they do not want too. I feel they should at least support me and what I want to do. I hope things get better with you! Keep your head up:happy: With the support of your friends you have on here, and other people who support your weight loss you should do just fine! That is what I keep telling myself