Needing Suggestions

athenaheim
athenaheim Posts: 496 Member
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Hello,

Let me start off with saying I thank you for reading this. I know this has nothing to do with weight loss or why we are all here but please help.

Now heres the deal I have this friend who also happens to be my boss. I have known her and her family forever. We all grew up together. She informed me today that her fathers heart is only operating at 15% with no blockage so he has to go in and have open heart surgery next Wednesday (yes the day before Thanksgiving). She is highly concerned and scared that something is going to go wrong. (She lost her mother a few months ago and has been having a tough time with all this.) He has to be put on the transplant list to get another heart otherwise he wont have very long to live. Over the past two months he has had multiple heart attacks.

Here is where I need your suggestions. My co-workers and I are wanting to know what we can do for her that not only shows that we are here but also lets her know that she is loved. I dont have any clue what to do for her. She is in a bad state of nerves, stress, and money wise. She is scraping by to get food for her family. I need your suggestions on what we can do for her please and thank you in advance.

Athena

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  • Dub_D
    Dub_D Posts: 1,760 Member
    Wal-mart or grocery certificate. Even cash.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Make some food for her family. Or gift cards for local grocery stores or gas places.
  • Zomoniac
    Zomoniac Posts: 1,169 Member
    What they said. Also, you and your colleagues could offer to do a little free overtime to cover some of her workload so she can spend some time with him.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Flowers, a nice card and maybe offer to help with meals while her father is recovering.

    And ask her what she NEEDS.
  • mstocks80
    mstocks80 Posts: 16 Member
    collect food amongst her friends/coworkers and deliver it to her house. Keep it away from the work setting as this might be a
    "sanity haven" for her. Also if she has small children maybe you could do a toy drive too..and that way she doesn't have to worry about Christmas presents (that is just around the corner too!). I hope this helps. I will let you know if I think of anything else...I am sure you will get tons of suggestions! :)
  • BernadetteChurch
    BernadetteChurch Posts: 2,210 Member
    I'd make up a food hamper rather than giving cash or gift certificates - nice stuff that she might not otherwise buy.

    And definitely all pitch in at work so she can spend time with her family.

    And if she has kids, offer to babysit to give her time out if she needs it.

    Or just give her a big hug and tell her you're there for her.
  • melaniecheeks
    melaniecheeks Posts: 6,349 Member
    A food hamper's a great idea. Or a bacth of home made family meals like lasagne that she can keep in teh freezer.
  • katrwal
    katrwal Posts: 336 Member
    All of these are great suggestions... a couple more, if you can stand them...
    - have a rota of your coworkers to volunteer to be a "wife" - that is, run errands, pick up kids, bring dinner - even if it's a couple of days a week, that's a huge strain off of her
    - since she just lost her mom & her dad's in the hospital, also see if there are any larger family responsibilities that are going by the wayside with the holidays coming up - sometimes just the offer of having her family join yours is a great distraction.

    you and your coworkers are to be commended for being so sympathetic - hope everything works out well.
  • athenaheim
    athenaheim Posts: 496 Member
    Thank you all. These are great suggestions and we are going to do what we can. I appreciate all of your suggestions
  • magj0y
    magj0y Posts: 1,911 Member
    It's casserole time.

    Also, go back and think about what her family typically eats for T'day and then have someone bring in that dish.
    You may want to provide meal ideas so people have a better idea on what to cook if they want to partake in that.

    You may want to possibly help out with babysitting if her kids are young? They probably won't be allowed in the hospital
  • Tracey1147
    Tracey1147 Posts: 951 Member
    I'd make up a food hamper rather than giving cash or gift certificates - nice stuff that she might not otherwise buy.

    And definitely all pitch in at work so she can spend time with her family.

    And if she has kids, offer to babysit to give her time out if she needs it.

    Or just give her a big hug and tell her you're there for her.

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