Angry? No, I'm not. Thanks.

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  • FabMrFox
    FabMrFox Posts: 259 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    This "someone"...is it a man?

    It is.


    HAHAHAHA it was a failed attempt at flirting I'm betting!
  • Skinny_minny_mo
    Skinny_minny_mo Posts: 1,272 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    I, shocked at the question, responded very clamly that I am not angry and asked why the person perceives me that way. There was no answer just silence. I asked then what things that I had done that made that person think that I am angry all the time. Once again, silence and a blank stare. By now I am getting irritated with the lack of response. I don't appreciate the accusation if there is nothing to back up the original statement, but also don't want to alienate this person and their feelings.


    Silence and a blank stare? Uh....dont get mad but, did you try loosening your grip on this person's throat? LOL

    :tongue:
  • wewon
    wewon Posts: 838 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    I, shocked at the question, responded very clamly that I am not angry and asked why the person perceives me that way. There was no answer just silence. I asked then what things that I had done that made that person think that I am angry all the time. Once again, silence and a blank stare. By now I am getting irritated with the lack of response. I don't appreciate the accusation if there is nothing to back up the original statement, but also don't want to alienate this person and their feelings.

    Is what this person is doing a form of manipulation?

    I have asked a few other friends and they disagree with the original statement (that I am angry all the time.) I am feeling that it may just be bait to pull me into an arguement.


    Whoa! Whoa! Easy there!

    No need to come on the boards so pissed off. Take some time to cool off!


    :laugh:
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    probably just bait, unless you're like me and you look pissed most of the time. my normal face is an angry one even when I'm in a good mood
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    You asked others, and they didn't agree. So, this man, is he something to you? You said, "someone in my life" so is this a boyfriend, or just a friend or neighbor?
  • yoovie
    yoovie Posts: 17,121 Member
    are they still standing in front of you waiting for an answer? No? Let it go.
  • JTick
    JTick Posts: 2,131 Member
    I'm told all the time that I look angry. I swear I'm not, it's just my face!

    Maybe you look the same way sometimes? I have to actually put an effort into making sure my face looks "happy"...I get so sick of the comments otherwise!
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    This "someone"...is it a man?

    It is.

    He wants to get into your pants.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    In all my relationships, at least once a week I get the "whats wrong" thing. Where I say nothing, and she says, "just tell me" and I say "seriously, there's nothing wrong" and it ends with her screaming, "why dont you feel like you can tell me things", and me laughing hysterically because there nothing wrong. yeah, that's my life.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    This "someone"...is it a man?

    It is.

    He wants to get into your pants.

    Yeah. That's what I'm thinking.
  • iLoveMyPitbull1225
    iLoveMyPitbull1225 Posts: 1,690 Member
    i would just laugh in a ridiculously fake manor until they not only thought me an angry person, but completely insane.
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Should have punched him in the face and screamed at him.
  • sevsmom
    sevsmom Posts: 1,172 Member
    That was weird!

    My husband has a bit of the same problem. When he is thinking about what someone is saying to him or asking him, the look on his face (I call it his "pensive" look) looks like he's pissed!! Also, if he's talking to someone on the phone he's so direct and sharp that it sounds like he's mad at you. I am forever telling people that he isn't/wasn't mad!!

    But your situation sounds like that person was just trying to screw with you.
  • anybeary
    anybeary Posts: 188 Member
    Sounds pretty manipulative to me. Screw sparing their feelings. Sounds like they're trying to make you feel alienated.
  • cmcorn26
    cmcorn26 Posts: 253 Member
    I had someone very close to me tell me the same thing....I asked everyone else..dont know each other...they all said what?? You have never been angry....
    I didn't get it.
    So I completely understand where u r coming from.
    I have since quit speaking to that person...I really don't want the negativity in my life...thank you very much.

    Good luck! Stay positive! Let them think what they want.
  • cmcorn26
    cmcorn26 Posts: 253 Member
    Someone in my life recently came up to me and asked me "Do you like being angry all the time?"

    This "someone"...is it a man?

    It is.

    Really? Mine was a guy too? That's how men try to get in our pants? Wow, I guess I've been out of it for too long.

    He wants to get into your pants.
  • miracole
    miracole Posts: 492 Member
    ha ha ha that's fantastic. And no, I'm not mocking you, I just think that's a fine example of someone who is trying to get a reaction out of you.

    I once had someone that I barely knew (I think he took a french class with me) ask me if I "got off on making other people feel insignificant" At the time I was 18 and all to willing to let stuff get under my skin and it really bothered me, my reaction was definitely an over reaction.

    I'd like to think that now if I were asked the same question I would simply reply with "only you" and walk away.

    Honestly, those who know you undoubtedly know that you are not angry all the time and don't care if that's how you come across, and most importantly, YOU know that you aren't angry all the time, so water off a ducks back and all that.

    After all the saying forever rings true "Those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind"
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Maybe this person has only seen you when you're in bad moods? Everyone has bad moods now and then.

    Nobody can be cheerful and happy go lucky 24/7.
  • WhatDoesLisa
    WhatDoesLisa Posts: 214
    OMG! My sister says this to me all the time! She will even write me long emails telling me to go to therapy and deal with my anger issues.

    I guess I am angry that I am related to such a psycho.
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    Him just wanted some lovin'. Why you soooo mad?
  • RedHeadDevotchka
    RedHeadDevotchka Posts: 1,394 Member
    I think it depends on how well you know the person. If you know them well then maybe they see you in your bad moods, however often those come up. But if you don't know them well then they don't know what they are talking about.
  • AuddAlise
    AuddAlise Posts: 723 Member
    I have been asked this by patients before. I guess when I am deep into my work I have an intense look on my face.
  • starla5881
    starla5881 Posts: 190 Member
    Should have punched him in the face and screamed at him.
    That's what I'd have done. But I legitimately am an angry person. :smile:
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Someone asked me this at work a few weeks ago. I just stared and shrugged, but do you know what I really wanted to tell them?

    I've been cussed at, called a stupid, fat, b!tch, c u next tuesday almost every day at work for the past 6 years. I run a convenience store and people think I am trying to price gouge them on everything. I mark the price our grocery company sets us and that's it.

    So yes, I am short, unsmiling and aggravated all the time. This is why.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    I get accused of being angry often. People mistake passion for anger. I'm a huge, huge fan of emotional honesty and being forthright about what I'm feeling and why I'm feeling it. The general "way" of doing things is to be calm, to be quiet, to be composed and not be emotional.

    Yeah, I'm not that person. And since it's not "done", people leap to the easiest stereotype - anger.

    Honestly, I just think people get shocked and scared when they run into someone who doesn't lock-step with the perfectly rational composure that's touted (and dangerously, in my opinion, as it leads to emotional repression and denial) in our culture.
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    Don't sweat it. People be crazy, yo!
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
    I was told this once. Once.
    You won't find the body.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Nobody can be cheerful and happy go lucky 24/7.

    Speak for yourself. I'm always cheerful.

    "I'm pleasant. Damn it! I saw Drum Eatenton this morning at the Piggly Wiggly, and I smiled at the son of a bi$ch 'fore I couldn't help myself".
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
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    Do this....then say "Well now I'm angry".
  • kmuree
    kmuree Posts: 283 Member
    As a sidenote, I get asked that all the time and it's apparently because my default "blank slate/no real emotion" face looks angry. :laugh:

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